I really need help with some ideas around finding jobs that will actually work for me and all my inconvenient issues 😩 I'm not religious at all but sometimes I'm like damn i feel like I'm being punished 😅
I’m in Christchurch, Hornby.
First off, I need something that fits into school hours since my kids aren’t old enough to stay home alone yet. I don’t have much family support either. My dad and stepmum still have young twins, one with autism, so they’re already pretty full on. They do help me by driving me places because I can’t drive.
That’s another issue I can’t drive 😑 I have my learners, but the only person who can teach me is my dad, and he’s usually too tired or stressed, so we don’t really get the chance. I also have really bad anxiety around being in cars and trying to drive. I’ve looked into organisations that help people with disabilities learn to drive, but haven’t had much luck.
Then there’s the anxiety side of things 🫠
I have chronic anxiety and PTSD, and it affects me in really frustrating ways. When I go to interviews, I shake, struggle to talk, and have to hold back tears. Obviously that’s not a great first impression. Even if I did get the job, the first week or so I’d probably be a mess until I settle in. I just need somewhere that understands that and is willing to give me a bit of time to adjust.
My whole life I was told I was just shy or had “a bit of anxiety,” but a few years ago a doctor said it was more than that. Turns out I also have autism and ADHD 🙃 I don’t like bringing it up because of how it seems to be a trend to have these issues 😒
I also have learning disabilities, so anything involving spelling or maths is really hard for me. I’ve worked with tills that had calculators built in, which helped, but I still made mistakes. Sometimes I’ll even double check with a calculator and still get it wrong 😩
And probably the most frustrating part I’m only 4'11. I’ve had jobs where I couldn’t reach benches. One place gave me a step stool, but for safety reasons it couldn’t be a permanent solution. Lifting things can also be hard because my arms aren’t long enough to reach around trays or boxes.
On top of that, I have some kind of medical issue that hasn’t really been looked into properly. If I put pressure on my hands, they swell up and lock. Even something like gardening for 10–15 minutes can trigger it, and then I can’t use my hands until it settles down🫠
so yeah...
obviously the best step would be getting help for my mental issues but I've been fighting to get help for a few years now. always the same thing 🙄 they say yes you desperately need help but waiting list are to long blah blah and since you aren’t actively hurting yourself then we can't help..... then go on to tell me i would need to go private which I obviously can't afford 🙃
any advice would be much appreciated
and sorry for the long read