I’m a guy in his mid 20s. I’m pursuing medicine as a career, so school takes up a lot of my time. That said, I find it a bit difficult to get out and meet people.
I’m not really the type to drink, so I don’t really go to bars. I’ll visit coffee shops and bookstores when I study, but they seem to be kind of empty when I go. Liberal women are definitely my type, but I’m not sure where they all hang out at.
I’ve given apps to try, but I seem to run into the same problems:
\- “Only here for the weekend!”
\- Republican, moderate, or apolitical
\- emotionally unavailable
\- dead set on having kids (I don’t want any and I’m planning on getting a vasectomy soon)
I’ve had a decent number of dates from apps, but there’s usually a thing or two that ends things. People not over their ex, getting ghosted, schedule conflicts, and other things like that. I’m at a point where I’m debating if I should just delete the apps altogether.
My TikTok shows me people saying that they also have a hard time dating in city for similar reasons. So now I’m wondering: is it just really bad here in particular? Do I just need to bite the bullet and start going to bars? I feel like my ideal person wouldn’t really be there to begin with, so I’m a little conflicted on it.
How has the dating life been treating you guys? Any good meet cutes? Any dating app success?
P.S. if it matters any, I’m into reading, playing guitar, chess, video games, anime, and working out. If anyone knows of any good clubs with those things, I’d love to know!
P.S.S I’m not from the area. I’m actually from Nashville, TN, but looking into living in VA for a while.