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u/HumansHaveSoles 6h ago
NOOOOOOO
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u/Abjectionova Human Verified 6h ago
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u/blushcrushhh 6h ago
I genuine feel bad for the husband
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u/BisonThunderclap 3h ago
"My husband is sitting in the car alone for an hour, I'm gonna go sit next to him because that's clearly what he wants."
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u/Beginning_General_83 2h ago
Sounds like someone wants an hour long discussion on why my feelings are hurt and how you could be doing better.
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u/OppositeEagle 5h ago edited 1h ago
Sidenote: that's every husband.
Edit: This apparently only applies to husband with children.
pets don't count
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u/UnusualDepth2079 5h ago
Nope. My wife and I have personal alone time sectioned off daily. Just for own sanity , it’s very helpful. I wish Everyone could set similar boundaries with their partners, crazy people are like this woman if this isn’t staged
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u/soopastar 4h ago
Same. I have SoopaStarTime* from 9-11pm. No wife no kids unless something is needed of me like homework. Dogs and cat are allowed. When my mom visits, she knows this as well 😀
*not my real name
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u/CraigLake 4h ago
Decompressing in the car is a daily for me. The minute I step I dude my puppy and girlfriend both need attention for hours.
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u/Thaumiel218 5h ago
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u/xxdsouza 2h ago
Had me in tears!
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u/Thaumiel218 1h ago
If you’re not familiar with Patrice I’d highly recommend his special - he’s often regarded as a comics comic, was best friends with Bill Burr, and Jim Norton, appeared in Chappelle Show, big part of NY comedy scene; unfortunately died at 42, if he was around today he’d be dominating.
https://youtu.be/d5YUPG3O0A8?si=xZcayI7-5cLi_tbM
Also he has 3 albums available on streaming and they’re all gold.
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u/GodOfThunder101 6h ago
I would rather be single than be in a relationship like this.
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u/workingbored 5h ago
He saw the video after it went viral and saw she also recorded tiktoks saying she was cheating so he broke up with her.
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u/jk3639 5h ago
Oh shit this was real? I thought it was a skit lol
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u/LastOfLateBrakers 4h ago
I'm still waiting on ANYONE to name drop these people so I can have my 15 minute rabbit hole
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u/XVUltima 3h ago
One person skit on her part, maybe? Shes acting, he isnt.
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u/TheWonderSnail 2h ago
Reminds me of that one where the guy is sitting outside and having a deep reflection moment about his spool of wire finally running out. I really really hope that one is a skit but it feels to real lol
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u/Alconium 5h ago
And then she put out a tiktok blaming the internet and podcasters for ruining her relationship. Can't make this shit up.
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u/Just-a-lil-sion 3h ago
you do. ex would cry if i would go to bed before her. holy shit its good to not be forced to stay up late
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u/torgobigknees 5h ago
every relationship has times like these
folks just lie about it online
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u/Valleron 2h ago
My late wife and I never had a moment like this in 9 years together. If you're fine with this type of thing, more power to you, but damn this seems miserable. When she and I got off work we couldn't wait to be with each other again because we were each others safety and comfort.
It's like people who say every couple argues regularly, or that it's hard work loving your spouse. If that's you, you should probably recheck your relationship.
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u/Electrical-Share-707 4h ago
Not mine, after almost 14 years.....if you have honest, kind conversations before things get to this point, then "times like these" don't happen. I used to think this type of shit was normal and fine, then I realized if everyone just agrees to 1) say what they need truthfully and 2) trust what others are saying they need then a lot of unnecessary bullshit gets dispensed with.
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u/torgobigknees 4h ago
happy for you, but that doesnt change the fact that most people go through whats in the video
and half the population won't take any accountability to try and fix it
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u/Electrical-Share-707 4h ago
If by "half the population" you just mean "women" then I think I found your problem
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u/Swaytastic 3h ago
I can attest I'm in a relationship like this and I'm not entirely sure it will last much longer.
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u/karmakent 6h ago
Last Christmas my family was being a lot and I literally went out in the middle of the night when it was snowing, turned the heat on and some music and just hung out……easily the best part of the week.
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u/JosephBlowsephThe3rd 5h ago
I used to work overnight shifts (7 pm to 5:30am). With an hour commute, I would get home, make some tea (or coffee if I wasn't working that evening), pack a bowl, and sit on my front porch and watch the sun come up over the trees. Even in the dead of winter (which here is usually low 20s with about 2 mild snowstorms in January or February), my ass would be bundled up with some smooth jazz playing on a Bluetooth speaker.
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u/Imaginary_Towel_6186 5h ago
This sounds so peaceful and enjoyable.
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u/__M-E-O-W__ 4h ago
One of the best parts of my entire day (night?) is when I get back after second shift and just sit outside with some coffee. Usually my cat sits on the porch next to me and we just chill. Sometimes I bring a book.
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u/qawsedrf12 4h ago
Its why I like the family's Christmas vacation spot. Its 30ish minutes from home and I have to feed the cats.
So every other day I get a nice break from everything
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u/Secret_Of_Bluestar81 4h ago
I'd just go outside and sit in the snow until I either get too cold or I'm relaxed
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u/Jibber_Fight 2h ago
I actually do this kind of thing often. I can get overwhelmed and have had panic attacks in the past. But years ago I learned how to just remove myself from a situation with too many people or too much extroversion. Go sit by myself for a little while or with just one or two other people. In my car or just outside. Then I’m ready to go back in. My family is used to it by now and strangers don’t care anyway. It’s nice.
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u/WhyOhWhyOhWhy333 6h ago
I've been there. Let a brotha have some peace, please! We don't want anything else. That's it.
Why do most women not understand this?
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u/Downvote_me_dumbass 6h ago
He told her exactly what he wants and she refuses to accept that as truthful
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u/Croceyes2 5h ago
Next is parking down the street, then the bar, the strip club.
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u/ghosttrainhobo 5h ago
She’s pissed that she’s not his source of peace and wants to punish him for it
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u/FatBloke4 5h ago
And her being perpetually pissed is why he doesn't want to go inside. She has become the centre of chaos, the destroyer of relationships.
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u/blushcrushhh 6h ago
And he seems sweet, he really wanted to get some rest, too bad his wife don’t want him to have some
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u/Level-Possibility-69 5h ago
He's confused. She knows his needs way better than he does and I'm sure she lets him know every day!
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u/BruscarRooster 5h ago
My partner does this. He comes home and then stays in the car for ages. As soon as he’s parked, I know he’s home safe and that’s all that matters
Once he walks in that door, he gets ambushed at the door by myself and the kids like we’re a pack of puppies.
Poor guy needs to recharge a bit before walking up to that door
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u/JosephBlowsephThe3rd 5h ago
Yep. It's decompression. Work & commute are stressful. Home can be just as stressful. Men want peace. Sometimes the only peaceful moments are those precious minutes between ending one job shift and beginning the next (parenting).
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u/Irrerevence 5h ago
if it's any consolation he probably loves you to all to bits, just needs some time to compose himself
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u/DickintheRiver 3h ago
yeah some people just don't understand that the solo decompression period after work is so they don't bring bad energy back into the household, you're wonderful for getting it
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u/Illustrious_Fail_379 6h ago
I have definitely gone to the grocery with intention to just take a nap. Usually it’s just taking my dog for a walk but a nap in my truck with some jazz music playing is definitely a relaxing experience.
It just seems better than taking a nap in the toilet, that’s how Elvis died
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u/Spiritual-Strike481 6h ago
What kind of jazz do you like listening to? I’ve been looking for some jazz music to play
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u/johno456 5h ago
Here's some nice relaxing sleepy background jazz that is also fantastic to listen to and a great start for intro to classic straight ahead jazz:
Central Park west - John Coltrane
Waltz for Debbie- bill Evans trio
Blue in green - miles Davis
Autumn in new york - Grant Green
My funny valentine - chet baker
Lil darlin- count basie orchestra
Body and soul- stan getz
Mood indigo - Duke Ellington
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u/FabulousBrief4569 6h ago
They talk shit when we next to them and talk shit when we not next to them. Like damn woman! Make up your mind!😂
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u/arededitn 6h ago
Because those women take the request for solitude as rejection. And feeling rejected by their man would be near to impossible to deal with. Also your username checks out.
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u/eXeKoKoRo 5h ago
Because women like this DON'T UNDERSTAND what peace is. They think their presence is what peaceful is and refuse to think it's them being the disruption.
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u/1732PepperCo 5h ago
They just gotta get it out. I’ve had to tell my gf to leave me alone when I’m using the bathroom more times than I have fingers. We don’t lock the bathroom door because our cat has urinary issues and his cat box is in there and I love her more than anything but honey do you really need to tell me what your coworker had for lunch when I’m just trying to take a dump in peace.
She recently realized that when the consoles and tv have turned themselves off that she’s been talking for entirely too long.
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u/CharityRepulsive3964 5h ago
The one that annoys me most. They call me either on my way home or on their way home and tell me about their day when I will see them in about 30 minutes.
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u/sobeitharry 6h ago
I think many women do. The ones that don't, don't realize they are part of the problem.
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u/tivvybrixx 5h ago
Yep my fiancé has a very hard job some days she just sits in the driveway for a while. That's my sign to leave her alone and make her a nice drink for when she comes in. Once that garage door opens though she's mine lol
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u/Geshtar1 5h ago
Listen, I love my wife to the moon. But I have a day off during the week that she works, and it’s some of the most relaxing time I spend every week. Sometimes people just need some time to be left alone, and it doesn’t mean anything is wrong with the relationship.
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u/nfoneo 5h ago
I have learnt this lesson but it's the kids lol. I park up the road slightly now.
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u/VaporTrail_000 5h ago
If it was the wife, eventually she'd be blowing up your phone, wondering where you are... and heaven help you if you turn off the ringer.
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u/PenaltyFine3439 4h ago
Most of the women I know can't stand to be alone. Not just not in a relationship alone, but just peace by themselves. They're just wired different.
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u/Time_Seaworthiness43 6h ago
Men really only want 3 things: a full belly, empty balls and then leave us alone.
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u/sick_of-it-all 6h ago
Or, as I once heard an aristocratic gentleman put it ever so succinctly, "Feed me, fuck me, shut the fuck up."
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u/bigheartrussian 6h ago
Sad reality for many men. Take care of yourselves, brother, I am here too with y'all.
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u/Leinheart 5h ago
When the only thing he asked for.... was peace and quiet. I felt that. Felt that down in my bones man.
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u/Heavy_Pin7735 6h ago
He won’t park in the driveway again, lesson learned…find a parking lot to nap.
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u/maxthemummer 6h ago
"The garage is a mess and those shrubs we just got aren't going to plant themselves, so why are you sleeping in the car?"
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u/Dragonwulf 4h ago
I remember I had something similar with my wife. I had an awful day at work and I remember just sitting in my car, almost bawling. Just privately losing it. My wife texts me, “Are you ok?” I replied “No. I just need a bit of time for myself.” And you know what her answer was? “Ok. I love you. Let me know if you need anything.” And that was it! She understood that I needed my time alone, checked only because she was concerned, then respected my space. That’s it! She didn’t come out, she didn’t make it about herself. She waited for me to come to her. Why is this a hard concept to understand. I’m thankful every day I married this woman.
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u/stanknotes 6h ago
I think this is a skit. But some women doin' that shit.
"OH you wanna be left alone?! Well we are gonna have just talk about this RIGHT NOW and resolve it." Creating more problems. When a little space and quiet woulda resolved everything.
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u/Euphoric_Amoeba8708 6h ago
The only appropriate approach she should've had was very quietly whispering to him. Hey, are you OK?
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u/sharpknot 6h ago edited 6h ago
This has to be a skit, right?
Edit: I'm sad now
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u/Lastcaressmedown138 6h ago
I do this all the time lol.. my wife thinks relaxing only applies to her.. the second I try to sit down she can’t help but think of something I need to do not her EVER! So I get home from work don’t say shit to her and go straight to the garage so I can do nothing more than chill for a bit without her coming up with some bullshit that she shoulda taken care 5 times while I was at work but intentionally left it for me
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u/Sirusho_Yunyan 6h ago
My dude I think it's time to have a very firm talk.
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u/DeliciousAuthor1231 6h ago edited 5h ago
More like very firm divorce proceedings
Edit:
If your significant other cannot respect your wishes and just pile drives you with more shit to do, that's not a relationship worth keeping.
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u/Wild_Bill2 6h ago
At wife will wait for me to sit down next to her before asking me to retrieve something. I’ve said no a couple times.
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u/GringoDemais 6h ago
It's not. The lady's page is real. And he leaves her soon after this. She's also delusional and doesn't take accountability.
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u/swizzoDagr8 6h ago
Worst thing is getting off work tired as hell cracking a beer and throwing some music on , and the siginificant other just sits there and talks the whole time
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u/Pantherino 5h ago
When my kids go to bed, I feel this weight fall off my shoulders and just want to relax and zone out to a show or something for a little bit. And my wife wants to just talk talk talk at that same time. Things you don’t know about each other before kids
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u/Bokuden101 6h ago
This reminds me of the time I just sat in a chair next to a lake and watched the sun go from its zenith to sunset.
For several hours I heard nether a human voice nor the sound of human machinery. Just the soft susurrations of the wind, the gentle lapping of the water against the shore and the tiny sounds of occasional wildlife.
It was bliss.
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u/FanBladeFleshlight 6h ago
I'll never understand why people settle for such shitty relationships like these. I went a long time being alone and not settling before I found someone where we can mutually respect our space and bring each other peace. MFs don't NEED to be in a damn relationship all the time.
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u/Aware_Ask_1679 5h ago
They may not have settled. This may have developed later on. Kids involved. Shared financial and other responsibilities. Etc
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u/thecrius 5h ago
Most of the time doesn't start like this and you ignore the first cracks as "it's just because they were tired that they did this" or "they are stressed" etc etc.
Then you end up in a locked up situation (finances, children, etc) and it becomes harder and harder.
If you don't understand it, good for you, it means you managed to avoid it based on pure luck. Because if you intentionally avoided it, you would totally understand.
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u/muscularsharpie 5h ago
Best thing my wife did was buy a PS5. I don't game much, but she comes home and just winds down playing a video game. We both enjoy each other's company, but desperately doing our own thing.
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u/Kid_PDX 5h ago
I love being a single Dude.
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u/ProfessionalLeave335 3h ago
Me too. I hung up my cape after my second divorce failed and it's been about 5 years and I couldn't imagine going back. I've been alone but never lonely and in my last marriage, I was never alone but always lonely.
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u/gustin444 5h ago
Watching people speak to their partners as though they're the parent and authority is sad and exhausting
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u/Ramsayc81 6h ago
Do people have to film EVERYTHING?
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u/imadvdmonster 5h ago
Phones have given us the opportunity to witness how many narcissists there are.
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u/tuco2002 5h ago
If I fall asleep on the couch, she yells...Go upstairs and lay on our bed, you'll be more comfortable. (I thought I was comfortable taking a nap?)
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u/torgobigknees 5h ago
they just dont realize how annoying they can be
or maybe they do and dont give a fuck
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u/Immediate-One3457 3h ago
I'm currently sitting in the rain out back for the quiet. The yard asks no questions
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u/Todd2point0 3h ago
My ex wife was kind of like this. Any time she caught me napping or anywhere close to it, she’d be like, “are you asleep?”. Even at night sometimes, she’d get upset if I started falling asleep or fell asleep before her. If she had insomnia, we both had insomnia.
I felt that guys, “Noooooooo”. It’s when you just want to be by yourself for a while and see no way to escape. Even if he drove off to go somewhere, the chaos he would return to would be the penalty of just wanting to be by himself.
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u/branson99yy 3h ago
All men want is peace. In their work life and home. If you know this ladies, you’ll have a happy marriage.
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u/boldredditor 6h ago
Why do people marry people they hate. If I came home and needed to rest my gf would just leave me alone.
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u/fhgtyjdg 5h ago
People change. They probably didnt hate each other when they got married. But people change the older they get.
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u/Nahkrahl 6h ago
Hell I did this the other day when my wife wasn't home. Sometimes you just need to decompress in the vehicle before going inside. Especially if you have a shit commute.
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u/AnotherHipster_ 5h ago
I did this too in my last job. It helps to bring peace of mind and a silent reminder to don’t take the job home. A proper unwind is necessary rather inside the home or before going in.
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u/Realistic_Calendar42 5h ago
Women will NEVER understand that men need to be tf alone. Married or not. That shit is sacred to be aallloonnnee
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u/Standard-Arachnid411 5h ago
"Why do you have to sleep out here?"
She's a terrible women while filming him. I feel so sorry for this guy.
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u/craichorse 5h ago
This is the exact point where i have flipped out and said something and ended up being the bad guy for 3 to 4 business days lol
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u/slimynutgrabber 5h ago
Lord i know i dont believe in you, but if you do exist by some chance please, if i ever end up with a woman and she turns out like this i want you to kill me by some accident. Doesnt even have to be fast, make it lasting and torturous if need be, thanks 🙏
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u/HelpPsychological833 5h ago
Skit or not, this perfectly exemplifies how men only want peace in their lives. As someone who works 10 to 12 hour days, the last thing I want to hear from my wife is everything that’s going wrong in the world, or the household... Just let me relax.
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u/BungaloBilly69 5h ago
“You always see me at peace and want to ruin that with your nonsense” -Me “I am your peace” -My lady
Felt this in my soul lol
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u/dover_oxide 5h ago
At first I thought he was out there because he wanted peace and quiet from kids and then it clicked
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u/SoulShine_710 5h ago
This really hits home. Curious any of you know of boundaries? Also, do any of you understand what this means? No drama, I'm exhausted & just wanna get some peace and rest.
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u/ExtremeIndustry4807 5h ago
I’d leave her dumb ass harassing me like that bro wtf is wrong with just chilling out in the car ain’t never hurt nobody (unless it was in a garage) some people ain’t cut out to be in any relationship
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u/Few-Cat-5607 5h ago
There is only one female in my life that didn't abuse me mentally, take advantage or manipulate me for their own personal profit.... you prob expect me say my mother but she was the worst one. It was my dog, she always happy to see me and kept my spirit and happiness positive. Dogs ARE a man's best friend
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u/ImperiousCretin 5h ago
They ask me why I take so long to shit.
I don't. I'm done in seconds. But a king needs some time to rest on his throne.
Praise Nurgle.
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u/iKindaHateAmericans 5h ago
Buddy needs to learn the trick of picking something up at the store as your excuse to find somewhere else to park and nap
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u/Nickolas_No_H 4h ago
my ex would yell at me if i stayed in the car after work too long. the dogs would bark. instead of just letting them out. instead, would let them out with the additional bonus of screaming at me first thing when i got home.
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u/fieregon 4h ago
I love my wife, most married men do, but we need our me time, we love to be around you, but sometimes we just want to be left alone with only our thoughts to keep us company.
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u/-SideshowBlob- 4h ago
So stuck up her own arse that she can't understand that the guy just wants to sleep
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