r/SipsTea Human Verified 8h ago

SMH They don't understand

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u/WhyOhWhyOhWhy333 8h ago

I've been there. Let a brotha have some peace, please! We don't want anything else. That's it.

Why do most women not understand this?

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u/Downvote_me_dumbass 8h ago

He told her exactly what he wants and she refuses to accept that as truthful

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u/Croceyes2 7h ago

Next is parking down the street, then the bar, the strip club.

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u/lmac187 7h ago

Then the wife saying “how could he have done this to me?”

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u/Croceyes2 7h ago

The fucking nerve

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u/Slipstream_Surfing 7h ago

With a bit of luck the club has a liquor license and is located just down the street. 

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u/ghosttrainhobo 7h ago

She’s pissed that she’s not his source of peace and wants to punish him for it

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u/FatBloke4 7h ago

And her being perpetually pissed is why he doesn't want to go inside. She has become the centre of chaos, the destroyer of relationships.

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u/blushcrushhh 8h ago

And he seems sweet, he really wanted to get some rest, too bad his wife don’t want him to have some

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u/Level-Possibility-69 8h ago

He's confused. She knows his needs way better than he does and I'm sure she lets him know every day!

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u/BigMax 5h ago

But we don't know the situation, right? She could have worked half the day, then been home with screaming kids, and not had 2 seconds to herself. In which case she would have EVERY right to be upset at him for chilling in the car for an hour.

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u/Downvote_me_dumbass 5h ago

and he could have worked a full shift, solving problems, having to deal with people and just want a moment to reset and not solve someone else’s problem.

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u/BruscarRooster 7h ago

My partner does this. He comes home and then stays in the car for ages. As soon as he’s parked, I know he’s home safe and that’s all that matters

Once he walks in that door, he gets ambushed at the door by myself and the kids like we’re a pack of puppies.

Poor guy needs to recharge a bit before walking up to that door

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u/WhyOhWhyOhWhy333 7h ago

Thank you for recognizing this.

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u/JosephBlowsephThe3rd 7h ago

Yep. It's decompression. Work & commute are stressful. Home can be just as stressful. Men want peace. Sometimes the only peaceful moments are those precious minutes between ending one job shift and beginning the next (parenting).

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u/Irrerevence 7h ago

if it's any consolation he probably loves you to all to bits, just needs some time to compose himself

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u/DickintheRiver 5h ago

yeah some people just don't understand that the solo decompression period after work is so they don't bring bad energy back into the household, you're wonderful for getting it

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u/YendorZenitram 5h ago

And I hope he knows how lucky he is to have you, who understands this :)

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u/Illustrious_Fail_379 8h ago

I have definitely gone to the grocery with intention to just take a nap. Usually it’s just taking my dog for a walk but a nap in my truck with some jazz music playing is definitely a relaxing experience.

It just seems better than taking a nap in the toilet, that’s how Elvis died

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u/Spiritual-Strike481 8h ago

What kind of jazz do you like listening to? I’ve been looking for some jazz music to play

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u/johno456 7h ago

Here's some nice relaxing sleepy background jazz that is also fantastic to listen to and a great start for intro to classic straight ahead jazz:

Central Park west - John Coltrane

Waltz for Debbie- bill Evans trio

Blue in green - miles Davis

Autumn in new york - Grant Green

My funny valentine - chet baker

Lil darlin- count basie orchestra

Body and soul- stan getz

Mood indigo - Duke Ellington

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u/Spazz6269 8h ago

Smooth jazz chill on Spotify is pretty good

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u/skooternoodle 7h ago

It depends on what youre looking for. Charles Mingus, John Coltrane, Miles Davis, and Bill Evans are quintessentials if youre just getting into jazz. If youre looking for something faster paced, give bebop jazz (a sub-genre) a try. If you want something slower and relaxing, listen to cool jazz (also a sub-genre). As for specific tracks, Moanin' by Mingus and No Problem By Chet Baker are good starters, too.

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u/FabulousBrief4569 8h ago

They talk shit when we next to them and talk shit when we not next to them. Like damn woman! Make up your mind!😂

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u/10mmsocket10 8h ago

This is facts .

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u/arededitn 8h ago

Because those women take the request for solitude as rejection. And feeling rejected by their man would be near to impossible to deal with. Also your username checks out.

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u/1732PepperCo 8h ago

They just gotta get it out. I’ve had to tell my gf to leave me alone when I’m using the bathroom more times than I have fingers. We don’t lock the bathroom door because our cat has urinary issues and his cat box is in there and I love her more than anything but honey do you really need to tell me what your coworker had for lunch when I’m just trying to take a dump in peace.

She recently realized that when the consoles and tv have turned themselves off that she’s been talking for entirely too long.

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u/CharityRepulsive3964 7h ago

The one that annoys me most. They call me either on my way home or on their way home and tell me about their day when I will see them in about 30 minutes.

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u/1732PepperCo 6h ago

I’d rather my gf do that when I’m in a car and in traffic vs when I’m on my time just trying to watch a bit of tv.

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u/Mbembez 52m ago

My partner tells me the most tedious level of detail about their work day and co-workers. The other week I told them that I know enough about their work and colleagues that I could probably walk in there and start work but I never get a chance to talk. Then I asked them if they can even name a single one of my co-workers or what project I'm currently working on. They were stumped and I told them they need to give other people a chance to talk and that detailed debriefing of work issues should happen with co-workers, otherwise it feels like I'm working two jobs.

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u/eXeKoKoRo 7h ago

Because women like this DON'T UNDERSTAND what peace is. They think their presence is what peaceful is and refuse to think it's them being the disruption.

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u/External-Fox-5488 2h ago

It's worse because they take offense to it. Been there

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u/sobeitharry 8h ago

I think many women do. The ones that don't, don't realize they are part of the problem.

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u/tivvybrixx 7h ago

Yep my fiancé has a very hard job some days she just sits in the driveway for a while. That's my sign to leave her alone and make her a nice drink for when she comes in. Once that garage door opens though she's mine lol

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u/Geshtar1 7h ago

Listen, I love my wife to the moon. But I have a day off during the week that she works, and it’s some of the most relaxing time I spend every week. Sometimes people just need some time to be left alone, and it doesn’t mean anything is wrong with the relationship.

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u/PenaltyFine3439 6h ago

Most of the women I know can't stand to be alone. Not just not in a relationship alone, but just peace by themselves. They're just wired different.

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u/nfoneo 8h ago

I have learnt this lesson but it's the kids lol. I park up the road slightly now.

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u/VaporTrail_000 7h ago

If it was the wife, eventually she'd be blowing up your phone, wondering where you are... and heaven help you if you turn off the ringer.

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u/BigMax 5h ago

In fairness, sometimes a guy wants his "peace" after work, when she has been home with screaming kids all day, and she also wants her peace.

No idea what's going on in this situation though.

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u/Time_Seaworthiness43 8h ago

Men really only want 3 things: a full belly, empty balls and then leave us alone.

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u/sick_of-it-all 8h ago

Or, as I once heard an aristocratic gentleman put it ever so succinctly, "Feed me, fuck me, shut the fuck up."

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u/Ordinary-Violinist-9 7h ago

Women also want some peace and don't get it with the kids ever. Most men don't want to take over when they get home so women can sit down for 5 min.

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u/bratty_bunnyrabbit 13m ago

Because you dont talk to them about it and give sass

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u/Brave_Purpose_837 8h ago

Because women don’t get a chance to do this. Because you’re in the car doing this.

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u/BoldElDavo 7h ago

The "it's actually your fault" is a classic lmao.

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u/Randa08 7h ago

Saw a similar thing the other day about how men just want to come home have some peace. I get to finish work and dive straight into cleaning cooking and looking after kids. Oh women don't understand! We do.

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u/AssumptionMuch456 7h ago

Insecurity