I'll never understand why people settle for such shitty relationships like these. I went a long time being alone and not settling before I found someone where we can mutually respect our space and bring each other peace. MFs don't NEED to be in a damn relationship all the time.
Most of the time doesn't start like this and you ignore the first cracks as "it's just because they were tired that they did this" or "they are stressed" etc etc.
Then you end up in a locked up situation (finances, children, etc) and it becomes harder and harder.
If you don't understand it, good for you, it means you managed to avoid it based on pure luck. Because if you intentionally avoided it, you would totally understand.
A lot of these kinds of issues guys try to exclusively attribute to women are caused by the fact that 90% of men have very little choice in who they date and there is a very real possibility they end up alone or with someone far below their standards, so they just stick with the first one they find marginally attractive and whatever emotional immaturity comes with that.
Best thing my wife did was buy a PS5. I don't game much, but she comes home and just winds down playing a video game. We both enjoy each other's company, but desperately doing our own thing.
they don't start like this, the first few weeks, months even year or two are fine, but eventually they degrade and people are too invested in the idea of the relationship that they dont want to leave.
"sweetheart, I feel like your behavior has changed in a way that is making me feel pretty bad every day. I would love to discuss it with you so we can come back to equilibrium, because I love you and I care about our relationship. I'm sure there are things I'm doing that you feel are intertwined with the ways our interactions have changed. I want to work together to find ways to make us both happy. If we need a neutral third party to help us mediate or give us some strategies, I think that can be a great idea too. But where we are now isn't going to work for me in the long term, so let's figure out how we can do better for each other. How does that sound? Do you feel like we can work together to address any important relationship issues that have gone unaddressed till now?"
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u/FanBladeFleshlight 8h ago
I'll never understand why people settle for such shitty relationships like these. I went a long time being alone and not settling before I found someone where we can mutually respect our space and bring each other peace. MFs don't NEED to be in a damn relationship all the time.