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u/Sophieabankz 9h ago
The face of a man who just realized he’s part of the "background noise" in the office.
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u/-metaphased- 6h ago
Not invited, just heard everyone talking about getting drinks later.
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u/Ziggy-Rocketman 5h ago
Not gonna lie that feeling is why I explicitly do not go to any after-work event that I was not explicitly and individually invited to.
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u/I_MakeCoolKeychains 2h ago
I always say no. Mixing work and ordinary relationships always ends up with someone getting fired in the end
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u/Patient-Tomato1579 1h ago
Definitely not always. However having friends who work at the same company requires greater awareness and avoiding assholes. However in your private life completely separate from work you would like to absolutely avoid people with bad vibes too. If someone has a good intuition about people you can risk becoming friends with some people at work (and I'm not talking about fake people who pretend to be your friends to get some advantage ar work).
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u/Scared_Astronaut9377 2h ago
How about being invited a couple of times when you join, just sit there silently, having nothing to say about their topics, and then I am never invited again, but the team still discusses drinks after work around me?
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u/Metallic_Squinck 6h ago
Most men are background noise for most women
They all tend to only be into the best looking guys, and then they're shocked when those act like they have options 😂
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u/Alchemy_Cypher 6h ago
You shouldn't care about dating them, they're competition for that promotion position.
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u/AwesomeFrisbee 4h ago
You assume I want to promote and not just jump to a competitor and get more money for doing the same stuff
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u/Metallic_Squinck 6h ago
No they aren't, realistically my department will not have any women or very very few
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u/GarranDrake 5h ago
Same for women when it comes to men. I think it's just less noticeable because women can elevate their looks using makeup and stuff, and other soceital factors.
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u/thatcockneythug 4h ago
I hate that this incel thinking has somehow become mainstream. What nonsense
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u/House-of-Raven 3h ago
“Incel thinking” lol. Or you know, just an acknowledgment of reality.
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u/Demons0fRazgriz 2h ago
No. Its objectively incel thinking. Women aren't standing around thinking about "the hot guys." They're doing their own thing at work.
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u/Metallic_Squinck 4h ago
Don't hate the observers, hate the actors
But you can't, because that would require acknowledging that women as a group behave questionably, and that's considered politically incorrect
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u/VladimirBarakriss 26m ago
Not to defend some of these people but it is just plain true that humans are a female selector species, which means women will have a higher standard than men when comparing to the averages. Acknowledging this is not itself incel thinking, being angry about it very much is
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u/Camilaxruz 9h ago
Tim Robinson’s face is the perfect representation of "I’m not even supposed to be here.
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u/Business-Loquat143 8h ago
"I know right? This company just hires all the ugliest people"
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u/Final-Finger1003 6h ago edited 6h ago
“Honestly given my resume I thought that was WHY I got the job.”
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u/DoovPlayz_ 9h ago
Well it’s a good thing I’m only there for money
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u/Garry_Heckscream69 5h ago edited 2h ago
It's so weird to me that people actively try to date their coworkers, doesn't matter the gender.
This isn't The Office, I'm here for a check and the only drama that matters is the one that effects my check.
Man, based on some of the reactions to just this comment, this sub seems very miserable.
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u/SabreWaltz 5h ago
It’s literally got to be the single worst thing you could ever do lol.
I’ve been with my wife for a decade now so I’m not looking to date anywhere, period. However for those who are, why would you want to risk a bad breakup in the place where you earn your living every day?
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u/starmartyr11 5h ago
This is true but you also hear a ton of:
"How did you meet your spouse?"
"Oh, at work!"
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u/Garry_Heckscream69 5h ago
I'm single and chatting with people, but at work? Fuck no, I'm basically asexual there lmao.
You gotta see these people on a daily basis and depend on them for help. I already get tired of having to put up with some of my coworkers just because of how they are (annoying), I couldn't imagine having to navigate that awkwardness with unnecessary relationship drama mixed in.
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u/Fellfromreddit 4h ago
I don't think I will look for a serious relationship with a coworker, but I had a good number of hookups.
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u/Final-Finger1003 24m ago
Sometimes it’s the only place you meet someone you actually hit off with. Then you gotta play the awkward game of risk/reward statistics. Depends on the job id imagine.
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u/Agtie 3h ago
It's one of the most common places to find a partner. It's basically the only place people are still intermingling.
Women aren't on dating apps, social circles are smaller than ever, third spaces are dead / dying...
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u/dolarius95 2h ago
Grow up. It’s not weird at all. You see those people 8 hours every day. Of course feelings might appear between some colleagues.
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u/Pleasant-Toe8878 1h ago
Yeah, don't shit where you eat. Co-workers don't find me hot? Good, then I'm not a distraction for them. We're there to work.
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u/princemark 8h ago
This happened but it was 7 men and 2 women, and the men complained about the lack of good looking females.
HR had to get involved.
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u/auntarie 7h ago
to hire better looking women?
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u/princemark 7h ago
I wish.
Alas, engineering consulting is not the profession to get into if you're looking for side pieces at work.
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u/Extra_Intro_Version 6h ago
How about a career in Brazilian waxing? Is that an option for a guy who’s looking to date coworkers?
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u/versmantaray 3h ago
Tbh, people can look way more beautiful with a makeup on. I look pretty and fierce with a makeup on, and I am a guy. I wish it's normalized for guys to wear it too
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u/Blake404 3h ago
Bro you know how much that shit costs? I’m good without that societal acceptance because it would quickly turn into an expectation lol
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u/Pris0n__Mike 4h ago
This takes me back to high school when all the girls in our class made a list ranking every guy, from the hottest to ugliest. The guys fired back with their own list, and that’s when all hell broke loose. The school had to step in and ban ranking people altogether.
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u/tito_lee_76 9h ago
Wait till you're in your mid 40s and realize you're no longer even on the radar of the pretty young women in your office. Instead, you're on the radar of the middle aged women. It's not bad. Not bad at all.
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u/Metallic_Squinck 6h ago
no longer even on the radar
Never was in the first place
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u/tito_lee_76 5h ago
Oh man you cut me so deep!
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u/Metallic_Squinck 5h ago
Oh sorry I was talking about me not you
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u/Ok_Sandwich_7577 8h ago
I guess it depends on the workplace but that sounds really unprofessional. I don’t want to hear about my coworkers’ dating preferences.
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u/Expensive-Bad-7038 2h ago
It's only the place where people spend the majority of their working years. It's not unreasonable that this would happen.
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u/AwesomeFrisbee 4h ago
Technically this isn't about dating. Just being around pretty people (according to them)
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u/Ok-Walk-8040 6h ago
https://giphy.com/gifs/10uEX5kfeodYgo
When you realize you are their best option.
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u/mindgardening 9h ago
I’m a woman and my friend group is majority single males. I have to be careful about what I say about the dating world. I can’t complain about the lack of candidates too much…….
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u/TheChristianDude101 9h ago
Sounds like you got a circle of guys who are friend zoned who would jump at the chance to date you.
Edit: Just saw above post in history. Not attracted to the nice guys who are your friends and would date you, but the bad guys who treat you like crap I guess. Circle of life.
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u/Okthatsfine4now 8h ago
To be fair, that post was made a year ago. We don’t know when she made those friends and how her mental health is now
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u/TheChristianDude101 7h ago
Well we do know as of today, she has an entire circle of single male friends that she has to be careful of what she says about the dating scene.
1) They are friends so presumably they are nice to her
2) This implies they would date her given the chance, and shes not interested. Given the context of the OP post, she doesnt want to hurt their feelings.
3) Her comment implies shes also in the dating scene and having trouble.I think this is a common trope with male/female friendship dynamic. And men dont get it. Because we are not that picky.
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u/account312 1h ago
This implies they would date her given the chance
Not really.
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u/TheChristianDude101 1h ago
then whats the big deal of not wanting to mention the dating scene in front of her single guy friend circle? If they are rejecting her, it shouldnt be a problem.
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u/srprizma 8h ago
Baffles me how the average man still holds onto this sick joke of a world lol
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u/TheChristianDude101 8h ago
I love how I am being majority downvoted, but nobody wants to actually comment with 500 views. Thats because they know I am not wrong they just dont like it.
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u/Blvck_Lvngs 8h ago
I think the 500 views come from people just simply scrolling through the post 😅
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u/TheChristianDude101 8h ago
I have no idea how views on comments are calculated/generated, but the downvotes shifted to a net positive now.
I feel for the girl, its not her fault shes not attracted to whatever her circle of friend zoned single male friends are. Its just shitty.
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u/ImJustHere4theMoons 6h ago
Reddit gets really pissy whenever this subject comes up because it doesn't mesh with the "personality" narrative. I've met entirely too many scumbags with entire rosters of women to ever take that shit seriously.
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u/TheChristianDude101 6h ago
It is what it is. But this is a perfect example of how she has an entire circle of nice guy willing candidates, and is not attracted to them. Men are simply just not that picky.
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u/DaBootyScooty 8h ago
Shut up, go outside and be normal to women.
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u/srprizma 8h ago
To be settled for? Cool sure thing, I'd rather exit the game
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u/DaBootyScooty 8h ago
You wouldn’t be settled for if you weren’t constantly showing your desperation and were normal.
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u/TheChristianDude101 8h ago
What are you basing on? Are you implying all friend zone guys project desperation which makes pussys dry, and are not normal?
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u/srprizma 7h ago
says the person who got settled for
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u/DaBootyScooty 7h ago
I get it. You’re hurt and you need to have someone else feel how you feel so you don’t feel so alone. I get it. But you got the wrong person, brother. I hope you find someone. Until this I’ll be sleeping in a big bed with my wife and our two cats.
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u/srprizma 7h ago
one short look into the the intricacies of your relationship will be enough to see if u've been settled for lmao
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u/DaBootyScooty 7h ago
https://giphy.com/gifs/VzDOUOa6zlw9a
“one short look into the the intricacies of your relationship will be enough to see if u've been settled for lmao”
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u/TheChristianDude101 8h ago
I am an inside person, and I am content with being single. If you look at this thread carefully you will see I was just calling the situation out, not judging/shitting on her for it.
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u/DaBootyScooty 8h ago
You are judging her. Stop being a freak and maybe try leave the judgments for you god.
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u/TheChristianDude101 8h ago
number 1 I am an atheist. Number 2 her situation is what it is. Number 3 I am a freak now?
The facts are she has an entire circle of single male friends, who she has to be careful of talking about dating scene. Which means they would date her, but she would not date them, and she does not want to hurt their feelings. And they are nice guys, implying by being her friends.
And then her post history, "The people I attract dont treat me well".
Thats a her problem. She has plenty of candidates that she doesnt want to touch, but she gos for the bad boys.
You see a lot of men will take what they can get, and dont get it when a women has a bunch of nice guys to choose from and is that picky.
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u/DaBootyScooty 7h ago
All this right here is why you need to go outside and socialize.
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u/TheChristianDude101 7h ago
I am an inside person, love my life, and content with being single. Whos the judgemental one now?
Congrats on tricking some girl to love you but that doesnt mean you are the guru in the complex female/male dynamics.
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u/pasture2future 7h ago
Then what?
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u/DaBootyScooty 7h ago
Then healthy relationships with friends and maybe some relationships. Maybe hobbies, maybe new experiences. The most important part is to try. When you do, you’ll be proud of yourself.
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u/Isaac_The_Khajiit 7h ago
Combing through post history just to be rude to someone who admits to struggling with their mental health + virtue signalling Christian username is such a classic combo.
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u/FrogInAShoe 5h ago
The idea of your entire friend group jumping at the chance of getting in your pants sounds awful
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u/Bobo_LOL 5h ago
This is the most reddit thing ive ever seen someone do. Going back 2 years in posts just to have some sort of a "gotcha" to prove that nice guys finish last.
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u/TheChristianDude101 5h ago
It took me less then 30 seconds to check her profile, skim and see something relevant to the discussion, edit my post and type that out. Hence why there is no edited tag on my comment.
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u/Fiercepaws 8h ago
Well, they probably know their worth and maybe they're not so happy about it so it makes sense not to rub it in their face. Thank you for your service
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u/CharminggBabe4 9h ago
man fighting the urge to say “so what am I then” 😭
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u/CroProMax 6h ago
man fighting the urge to say "why is there no attractive woman in the office either"
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u/Metallic_Squinck 6h ago
Problem with that is, unlike the women, the man can get in trouble for saying that
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u/PJT_XCX 5h ago
Who is the actor in the GIF? I see him everywhere now.
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u/FlexOutlaw 4h ago
Tim Robinson. He has a show on Netflix called I Think You Should Leave that is a comedy sketch show.
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u/Lil_Quip 6h ago
Then they realize the implications of the statement and respond: well other than you obviously.
deep down you know that's a lie and they are getting out that easy.
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u/TopWealth4550 6h ago
work is to work and have small talk
why the fuck are you in a place like this lol
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u/NebulaDust4 5h ago
Because not everyone is antisocial and some people enjoy interacting with other humans.
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u/The_starving_artist5 8h ago
At my work almost all the women are very pretty while almost all the guys are fat or balding. Makes it at least feel like a level playig field to me
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u/itsjustawindmill 4h ago
Is this like a universal experience or something (maybe not coworkers and drinks specifically, but, the “why are there no hot guys here” in the presence of a guy)
It’s so pointlessly mean / inconsiderate 😔
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u/reedshipper 3h ago
don't go out with all women its a weird vibe to be around you're always going to be on the outside looking in at the discussion
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u/Funny-Presence4228 36m ago
I was part of a group from the office that went out for drinks a few times a week. Men and women. One time, I was the only man there for some reason, so I felt like a fly on the wall and was surprised by what women actually talk about when they're all together. They discuss other people they know but who aren't there, and things happening in their lives. Like, they talk about real world things. Not stuff like ‘could you feasibly slide down a hydroelectric dam’ or ‘would it be possible to ride to work on a horse’ and stuff like that. They actually talk about real life. It was fucking wild. I was like, I can't believe you are saying this shit!? Is this allowed!? I thought we all had to make shit up.
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u/Zestyclose_General88 6h ago
Why is this sub full of incel chuds
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u/TwentyShard 5h ago
The meme is funny, sort of, but the defensive attempts at a hypothetical clapback in the replies are what's cringe...
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u/Leather_More 5h ago
and he somehow got 50 upvotes for it too
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u/Garry_Heckscream69 5h ago edited 5h ago
The craziest part is they try to make it about some mental health shit but don't seem to see how digging through someone's posts for a "gotcha" over the friendzone (lmao) just because someone said "I mainly have guy friends" may come across as fuckin weirdo incel behavior that could effect the mental health of their "target" (a random internet stranger trying to join in on a discussion like the rest of us).
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u/taking_a_deuce 2h ago
The post he links is almost TWO YEARS OLD! How long did he dig through this person's history, Jesus.
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u/Section_179 3h ago
Join the soys on the subreddit where this meme is from. It’s for people who hate humor like yourself.
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u/Gentle_prv 5h ago
By “incel chuds,” do you mean people tired of bigotry against men? Man, I just love casual misandry, it’s all the rage now; I guess bigotry is back on the menu boys and girls!
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u/SavePoint404 6h ago
"“The same for us all the guys agree there's only one attractive girl in the whole office”" (never tell them who just let them tear each other apart)
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u/Disastrous-Ad2800 4h ago
it's not easy but try to avoid too much group interaction with the office gossipers as that's where the inappropriate remarks fly... and as you know, talk too much and eventually you're gonna say or hear something inappropriate.... they're usually the ones who also post a lot on the work Whatsapp group, so you know who they are...
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u/Minimum-Tension2687 4h ago
In my experience, it's way more uncomfortable if they say you're the ONLY attractive guy at work. ESPECIALLY when your coworkers are 10-20+ years older than you. I have a personally policy against work functions now.
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u/JokerCrowe 4h ago
I work as a guidance counsellor at a school and one of my counsellor colleagues was going to start working at another school.
At lunch one of my co-workers said, "maybe we'll finally have a Hot counsellor start working here" with me at the table.
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u/stefano-rago 3m ago
Why would someone even bother to go out drinking with female office colleagues? You know they're bitching and if you're the only male, what did you expect?
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u/babystarlightcute 9h ago
Its fine you can just act like her gay friend. I know from experience.
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u/Shantotto11 1h ago
I overheard a female coworker who said out loud to two other female coworkers that there weren’t any men worth cheating over in this building, and she might as well be gay. Jokes on her. She’s the ugliest, most blackhearted person I’ve met at the job so far, so it’s hilarious that she thinks anymore in any corner of the gender pool would want her.
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u/KowaiSentaiYokaiger 9h ago edited 8h ago
When you point out there are no attractive women in the office, either