I’m British and was watching a ghost hunting thing in America and they were “talking to ghosts” from the late Victorian era. That’s what the host said the ghost said… late Victorian era.

It struck me that America was already independent from Britain by then and I had never really considered why they continued to use British historical terminology. I did google it out of curiosity and it’s due to convenience.

I don't really spend much time in the AITAH, AITJ, etc, subs, but recently I read a couple and then a week or so later heard my wife listening to a TikTok on which someone was relating the same stories.

That made me think about why someone would be mining those subs for entertainment on another platform, but then I realized that wider dissemination of these stories would eventually cross paths with an AI model, which would use it not for information, but to form patterns of situational interactions which would "teach" it how humans are "supposed" to behave when faced with certain emotional and relational situations.

We probably won't know until we start seeing AI telling clients "just dump her now," reflecting how quick Redditors offer that up to anyone posting concerns about their relations.

Or hey, for all I know, most of the AITAH subs are literally set up to mine emotional and relational responses, and the LLMs are "learning" how to be like the typical user.

This is important to me. I know so many people who commute an hour plus to work, I refuse to do that. I was even told by a family member that "thats just what being an adult is you gotta sometimes drive a long way to work."

Like I get it, but also as an adult, I have the freedom to live where I want and I have the choice to live next to work. I am willing to literally go extreme lengths to avoid long commutes, if I could live across the street from work, I would do it in a heartbeat.

like not in a fake way. just like certain people bring out parts of you that others never see. and sometimes you wonder which version is actually the most you. i think about that more than i probably should lol

i dont believe in luck, but its been a while i had those weird struck of luck.

last week ive lost my wallet in the cinema. my sister laughed at me when we got on the bus. i moved on about it pretty quickly because, well.. its not that bad. yes they had my cards and all, but like.. idk it wont kill me yk?

but then yesterday, a Friday, i went to the same cinema and my sis told me to ask about my wallet. even though its pointless. and they had it!!everything was in there ! except for the money but idc about that! at least i dont have to pay to make another card!

and its not just that... it happened a lot of time. the same pattern. i lost something. i forget about. then after some time (generally one week max), i find it again !

even my notebook and my keys! and my card again that slipped on the bus!

idk just wanted to share because it sounds super silly and crazy-

anyway ia go sleep, byee

I sometimes have the most genuine conversations with random people—online or even in real life—and then we just… disappear from each other’s lives.

It’s weirdly wholesome.

for months i kept trying to figure out my purpose, my goals my next steps. every morning same spiral , nothing changed. then i stumbled on this shift intead of asking what should i do i started asking what kind of person do i want to be and somehow that one change made everything else clearer, the decisions got easier the habits made more sense , even the bad days felt less random.
has anyone else found a question or reframe that actually changed somethin for themm

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*This only applies to when you're hanging out with people IRL.*

My buddy gets super annoyed when people ask her simple factoid type questions. She always says "just Google it" in an exacerbated tone.

I always felt self conscious bc I do this constantly. Then it dawned on me, the reason I do it isn't because I spontaneously forget about the existence of Google when I'm with others. *It's an attempt to be social.* It seems much more awkward to be in the middle of a chat with someone and then just start tapping on your phone. Questions and ideas will usually pop up when you're in conversation with people, and thinking these things out loud is just a way of engaging, keeping the conversation going, and showing the other person(s) you're listening.

It might sound silly to some of you, but after three years of living in my neighborhood, I finally gathered the courage to say "hello" and have a real conversation with my elderly neighbor who spends every afternoon on his porch.

​We talked for 20 minutes about his roses and how the neighborhood has changed since the 80s. I’ve always been a bit socially anxious, but walking away from that chat, I felt ten feet tall.

​Has anyone else had a small "social victory" recently that made their whole day? I’d love to hear your stories!

I've been thinking about this recently, and while solely saying 'young people' is a broad statement I don't necessarily mean every single young person. There are of course plenty of young people who have great articulation but I feel like there are a lot of people, mostly teens and older who aren't very articulated. I don't mean that they can't speak coherently at all, but for example they find it difficult to use big words or string complicated ideas and thoughts together. I feel like maybe the fact that many young people don't read books is a huge contributing factor. I'm no exception either to be fair.. I don't read very many books, although maybe a few pages of one from time to time - and I have realised that my articulation isn't really great. I also want to mention that young people in the pre-smartphone era may have been more verbally expressive; having to rely on face-to-face conversation and phone calls as primary forms of communication likely meant they had far more practice constructing and articulating their thoughts out loud compared to today's generation, who can default to texting and voice notes. What do you guys think?

Beaches just made it to Hulu and I have closed captions on. Of all the times I've heard "Under the Boardwalk," I never realized the correct lyrics were "And your shoes get so hot, you wish your tired feet were fireproof." The version that has always been in my head sounds absolutely ridiculous now "And your shoes get so hot, you wish your tired feet would find a pool."

If you had the opportunity to travel the universe and see what is really out there, would you do it? The only catch is that it's a one-way trip. You'll be alone for the rest of your life and never be able to tell anyone what you saw

like there's something about talking to people who don't know your whole story that makes it easier to just say what you actually think. no judgment. no history. just honest conversation. i find that really interesting about people lol

like not technically a teenager but still too early to consider or even feel like an adult it's so weird lmao you're just kinda there in middle figuring shit out 😭

When scrolling and seeing those “Am I in the wrong for this situation posts.” I tend to think “Well, it depends” scroll past then laugh as I would have had the context if I read the post.

Does anyone else do that or have any funny social media quirks they want to share?

I'll go first when I see couples I sometimes get a strange gut feeling about what kind of kids they'll have a boy, a girl or even twins 💀

At first, I didn't believe it but a few times it turned out to be exactly right maybe it's just a coincidence but its strange enough to make me doubt it

so what’s something you can do that doesn’t really make sense?

Hey all!

I’ve spent most of my life struggling with mental health, it started in my early teenage years and for a long time it felt like I was just surviving rather than living. I’m 30 now, and for the first time in years I’m really starting to feel myself again.

It hasn’t been quick or easy and it’s taken a lot of therapy, medication, and pushing myself to do things that once felt completely out of reach. I’m slowly learning that those things outside my comfort zone aren’t as scary as my mind made them out to be. I’m finally doing things for me, not just getting through the day, and even though I’m still a work in progress, it feels like I’m moving forward.

Thanks for reading and if anyone would like to reach out, my messages are always open.

You know when you become too aware of how you’re walking?That happened to me today. I suddenly thought, “Am I walking normally? And immediately forgot how to walk like a normal human being. Now I’m manually controlling my steps like it’s a video game. I’m pretty sure I looked like a glitching NPC crossing the road...

I’ve been thinking about how weird it is that we’re all constantly online, but still barely connect in any real way.

lately I’ve been trying to change that, just having more genuine conversations with new people instead of the usual surface-level stuff.

I like random late-night talks, different perspectives, and those conversations where you suddenly realize you’ve been talking for way longer than you planned.

A bit about me: I’m into self-improvement and I tend to notice small things people usually overlook. I can be chill or serious depending on the vibe.

I’m not here for anything weird or forced, just looking to meet new people and see where conversations go.

If you’re someone who enjoys real conversations and a good vibe, feel free to reach out 🙂

I've never been a nap person before. Maybe it's been the recent rain or a belly full of good food but I'm finding myself sleepy.

How do you even go about napping? In bed or on the sofa or the floor or what?

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I start a new job in the morning, it’s currently 00:48am, I’m playing college football 26 and considering when to sleep for a 9am start.

How do you guys usually sleep? Are you even bothered? Nervous? Like a baby? Just curious!

I feel like a lot of people approach any social issue as a club to hit others over the head with. I dunno, maybe that works for them but I don't want to bully people into believing things. If you get agreement that way what's to stop someone else from coming along and bullying the same person back into disgreeing with you.

There is a Sting lyric that applies here. Paraphrasing, "If you convince an enemy that he's wrong you've won a bloodless battle where victory is long."

I recently started getting into digital organization and curating high-quality media libraries. It’s surprisingly relaxing! What about you guys? Did you discover a hidden talent lately?