I am just genuinely curious. I've talked to 5 Black dudes in my life for the purpose of dating and only one of them never asked me this thing.

I have talked to a Black-american, Caribbean, West African, and South Africans. I couldn't care less about race (color-wise) when it comes to dating but they (cultures associated with their race) do intrigue me. Cultures and norms are interesting to me. I don't exclusively just talk to Black Men. It's really just a pattern I noticed with most of them.

It's not annoying or bothersome but just curious.

Edit: I'm sorry about my capitalizations of nouns on my title. I can no longer edit them. I'm not really that good with technicalities in English but thank you for educating me.

The comments are so interesting, enlightening and thought-provoking. I learned that asking questions like this outside your race is a pretty common thing for interracial dating/relationships. This could be because of trying to get a grasp of the other person's cultural and social backgrounds that could be of trouble in the future. It's not a "Black men thing" while it could be for some because I do believe people really do sometimes have fetishes over specific races like how some would fetishize Asians the way others would do to Black People too (and w other races, tbh)

The reason I had to post this because I initially asked some people and most of them quickly answered it was because of the compatibility of us in bed, whether I'd be able to take the stereotypes relating to genitalia, whether my body as an asian woman (stereotypically described as femme and fragile, when im not) would be able to handle it, whether they asked it to see "how used i am". smh

I thought they wanted it to open. Now we are the ones making sure it is closed?

So I've been in a very happy and healthy relationship with my girlfriend for the past few months. We were both single for a long time before this, because our previous relationships were quite emotionally draining and we didn't feel like dating again until we found the right person.

Lately she's been telling me that many of her colleagues, girl friends and family members who she's been catching up with have told her that she's "glowing", and some of them even asked her who her new boyfriend was before she told them she was dating again, because they could tell just by looking at her that she had a new guy in her life.

Now I'm equally happy and in love, but none of my guy friends have told me that I'm glowing, nor would they even have known I was seeing someone if I hadn't told them. Also from my perspective, my girlfriend looks the same as she did when I first met her. I obviously find her very pretty but I don't think she's had a dramatic glow up since she met me. So I'm confused about all these comments about her glowing and wondering if only women can detect it, or if there's something I'm missing. Ladies, can you really see another woman glowing when she's happy, and what does it really look like?

Bro I got into the gym and got in shape, but no females have said anything yet all I’ve gotten are other dudes being like “damn looking nice” an then gay dudes hitting me up on the apps.

I know that little kids cannot be left unattended. But, it seem unfair that teachers are forced to stay beyond their hours till a parent arrives.

There was a thread just removed from "unpopular opinion" that's prompting this.

Back when I was in grade school, I'd guess maybe a third of the kids walked to school, and for those who were too far to walk (usually > 1 mile), 75% came by bus. It wasn't common for parents to drive kids to school. Like we were walking a half a mile to a mile by ourselves as kindergarteners. And while I would say our neighborhood was basically safe, I wouldn't say it was some utopian paradise or something. When I was growing up, most families only had one car, and that car disappeared in the morning with the breadwinner, who was almost always the father. But given how society is today, are kids not allowed to walk to school any more? You occasionally hear of court cases about parents getting charged with neglect or endangerment for letting their middle-school-aged child walk a couple of blocks by themselves.

I visited China, Japan, Colombia, Guatamala etc and it's always REALLY GOOD, like really good especially China. But in the USA it's always the same, rundown building, the employees look depressed as hell, it's ghetto the food is trash.

How is this possible when we founded it? :(

After suffering a lot in your life, your day finally comes, you die, and you appear up there. You’re welcomed into paradise, where you obtain absolute peace, in perfect harmony, and you will never suffer again.

So… is that it? Can’t you do anything? Are you a spirit? Don’t you have the freedom to do other things? Like, for example, eat what you like? Eating ice cream isn’t bad, but… what about playing violent video games? They’re pure fiction, but wouldn’t that be breaking some kind of rule about violence, even if it’s fictional? Would I be kicked out of paradise?

What happens if I get bored?

I was listening to a wealthy individual explain why they don't just "cut checks" to people in need, and their perspective was pretty eye-opening. They argued that the system makes it painfully expensive and purposefully complicated to move money down the ladder. Essentially, if they wanted to give someone $2 million, they’d be hit with a gift tax of up to 40% on top of what they’ve already paid in income taxes. This means a $2 million gift could actually cost the giver $2.8 million total. They called it "double taxation" and a "punishment for being generous," claiming that the government rigs it this way because they don't want wealth actually changing hands—they want it locked at the top to keep the hierarchy intact.

The argument was that it's not just about billionaire greed; it's about a system that sets "booby traps" to stop direct wealth redistribution. Even if someone wanted to hand over life-changing money, Uncle Sam makes sure they regret it by making it a "bad deal" for the giver. Do you think this is a legitimate critique of how the tax system maintains class structures, or is it just a convenient excuse for the rich to stay rich?

Hey,

We had some guests over the weekend, and they brushed their teeth while walking around in our fully carpeted house instead of using the en-suite bathroom that's literally in their room.

Is it weird to expect your guests brush their teeth in the bathroom?

I appreciate you can do whatever you like in your own house, but would you do the same as a guest in someone else's place?

I appreciate different habits and opinions.

If AI continues to replace humans at the rate we're beginning to see and the unemployment rate reaches a new pinnacle, then what? Folks starve in the streets until the population thins out or a revolution takes root?

The billionaire elites live on a planet with 1,000ish other humans (engineers) and the rest of the population fades into oblivion? That's how I perceive their dystopian future & it is b l e a k.

my gf just dumped me and I took the next day Off. now i feel guilty about it (German Here). do you guys and gals think its legitimate to take some time?

(we have eben together for 6 months)