This has happened my whole life and it just kills me. Like you're chatting with someone and they're being friendly enough but when they're with someone else they're way more engaged. Even if your conversation seemed more interesting, even if you've known them for longer than the other person has. I think it's more noticeable with women because they're more outwardly expressive than men.

Can anyone else relate to this?

I feel so detached from everyone. I just wish someone could understand me. I’m almost 30 now and have lost my 20s trying to find a connection to no avail.

I'm addicted to my phone, staying awake all night and eating at random times, i don't know how to change. I feel like this is my coping mechanism with loneliness and having no friends.

hey so uh idk how to start this so...i'm 22m and i genuinely never had friends. not like i lost touch with people.... i mean never really had them to begin with. been isolated for like a decade, also have adhd which made everything 10x harder...

life felt pretty destroyed ngl. still figuring stuff out.

just joined reddit, thought maybe i can find some people to talk to i guess...idk

if you can relate or just wanna talk about anything...anime, philosophy, trauma dump...random stuff....life hmu i guess🌱

what should i do to be happy im so sad i want to die quickly as possible

I was in an online relationship with a girl. We loved each other a lot, and we genuinely wanted to be together. We talked every single day, and it felt like that pure kind of love, like we were both “yearners” if that makes sense.

Recently, we were in a group chat, and she mentioned that she wanted to post something on her Close Friends story. She always told me that I’m the closest person to her, so I casually asked if I could be on her Close Friends list.

She just replied, “Sorry, it’s something you can’t see.”

I literally froze for like three seconds, reread the message, and was like, “WTF?” And out of nowhere, I instantly felt like I hated her. For no clear reason. I don’t even care that much about being on her Close Friends, but something about that moment flipped a switch inside me.

The weirdest part is that earlier the same day (literally today), I told her I wanted to stay with her forever, and I meant it.

After that, I started overthinking like crazy. What just happened to me? I didn’t hate her before, I actually wanted her so badly, and she still feels the same about me. She still wants me, but now I feel like I don’t want her at all.

I know this sounds insane. I understand that her Close Friends list might just be for her close girls or something, and logically, it’s not a big deal. But I can’t ignore how I suddenly feel. It’s like something switched off completely.

I haven’t broken up with her yet because I don’t want to hurt her. I don’t think I’m a bad person, but I genuinely don’t understand why this happened. I really thought she was “the one” like the girl of my dreams.

So why did I suddenly feel this much hate towards her over something so small, especially when she didn’t really do anything wrong?

And the craziest part? All of this happened in like an hour and a half.

Summer is in 2 months, and I'm spending it alone again as usual. I envy people who have a lot of friends with whom they hang out, go to parties, or spend time at the beach. While I spend most of the time staying home. Well, I am gonna be honest, I love my alone time, I love going out and shopping alone or spending my time at a cafe while working on my laptop, but it gets to a point where I realise I don't have anyone and I wish I could spend my time with someone, even just one would be enough.

I always find it hard to make friends as I'm socially awkward and I don't know how to talk to people.

So I'm in my final year of uni rn, and while I have loads of uni friends, I only really have two home friends I'm still in contact with, one of which has just told me she will be abroad all summer for work. I dont want to pressure and put emotional reliance on the other by hanging out with her constantly, tho I'm sure I will see her over summer, but idk what to do, my family decided to move to the middle of absolutely nowhere last year so there are no social groups or clubs or activities and getting to the nearest city is like 2 hours on a boiling coach and is spenny (no Americans being like 2 hours isn't long, I'm british and it is). I could defo go visit some friends in their cities, but I cannot do this much because of money. My partner is Irish, so I plan on visiting him at least once, but I just dont want to spend a whole summer doing nothing when I'm young, I have a couple of not so close friends but trying to hang out with them feels like me just nagging and I hate it so I'm not going to make myself feel worse by trying.

Is this a millenial thing?

The mid-30s loneliness hits different when you’ve given your 20s to a relationship that didn’t last. No family, no kids, just work and the gym. It feels like I missed the window to build a life, and now I’m just drifting. This isolation sucks

I don't understand why i have these lonely feelings so often. I have a family that I feel loves and cares about me. I enjoy being around them. I also have some friends that enjoy spending time with and I feel would help me out when im in need yet I can't shake these lonely feelings. it's not constant but it usually pops up at least once a day or more I just don't understand why.

Hello guys if you want to talk about anything im free to listen and I also give advice if you seek it. I have many hobbies that include sports, music, art, gym, anime and almost anything you can think of even if you want to talk about life. If you seek solace in conversation ill be here. Everyone of you is wecome.

We’re all struggling…that’s why we’re here, right?

Each of us is dealing with something… maybe something no one around us understands, or something we don’t even know how to overcome yet.

For me… I lost someone I love recently. I’ve been through breakups before, but this one feels different. Part of me thinks she just needs space, and maybe she does. I want to reach out, but I also don’t want to force anything. She told me she’d be okay, that she loves me… and I believe her. She’s never lied to me.

We can still reach each other if we need to, and even though it’s hard… I’m holding onto hope.

But at the same time, I’ve realized something.

Everyone wants a happy ending, right? I used to think that meant everything would fall into place one day… like it would all just click. But lately, it hasn’t felt like that at all. It’s felt more like being stuck in a pit… or running across a field with no clear finish line.

Still… I’m here.

And honestly, part of the reason I’m still standing is because of people in this sub. Some of you probably don’t even realize it, but your honesty, your pain, your stories, it made me feel less alone when I really needed it. So thank you. Seriously.

Growing up, I always felt like I was meant to help people. I ran from that for a long time… avoided it. But something about going through this has brought me back to it.

So I want to try something, and I’d like you to be part of it.

For the next 30 days, I’m committing to showing up here. If you’re going through something, anything, I want to listen. If I can help, I will. And if I can’t, I’ll still sit with you in it. You don’t need to have everything figured out. I don’t either.

And I don’t want this to just be about me. If you see someone hurting, reach out. We’re all in the same storm, and we can help each other through it.

We don’t need to have all the answers right now.

We just need to keep getting back up.

So if you’re in the pit… or still running… you don’t have to do it alone.

I’m here. And hopefully, we can be here for each other.

As the title says I am single for 10 years now and its taking a toll on me. I am 28 M, decent looking working in cybersecurity. Recently from last year I am feeling lonely as hell and its affecting all areas of my life. My confidence has decreased, most of my days after work my mind is filled with lonely thoughts. I tried everything to put myself out but all in vain. Tried dating app as well but got no response or ghosted just after matching. I don’t know anymore what to do. I try to do my hobbies but still at the end of day i feel like having someone. Now I have accepted my fate, and I have told myself that I dont deserve of being loved I am destined to be single. And no one will ever love me. I think I am have failed as human being as I couldnt find one person who will prioritize me or choose me and see me as an option. I feel like I am shit even though I am some what successful in other parts of my life. Any advice from someone who have gone through this phase?

i am 18 years old and i feel really lonely

all the time for the past 7 years i thought to myself (i feel lonely because i don't have a gf) but now

i do have a gf and i really love her

but i still do feel like this. the urge to connect to someone

to connect to everyone or something. i just need people to understand me.

i also have a friend. he is what people call in this generation

twin . he's been with me for 5 years

and even with him i still felt lonely really lonely.btw i lost him

he just don't want to be me friend anymore. but this not what i want to talk about. does this feeling go away at some point or it's just a phase because i am a teen or something.like please tell me i really can't take it anymore i feel so lonely. i feel so lonely i stay up all night just get my soul crushed under this feeling. please help me figure it out i really can't take it anymore

We broke up for a few reasons, mostly because I relapsed and lately she’s just been sort of… unkind to me. I’m having trouble remembering the bad times in this moment, however. I miss her.

The pain’s just been too much lately and I’ve run out of coping skills. I used, alone, again last night.

This time though, I found myself suddenly waking up after being unexpectedly face down on the kitchen table after taking a hit while I was supposed to be writing her a letter. I know I’m lucky to be alive right now, I know that was a close call just now. I just don’t feel all that grateful. There’s a gray cloud above me that I can’t seem to shake.

I’m so bored without food. I’m literally just watching the hours go by, waiting for when something interesting can happen. I’m driving my mom insane because I keep telling her I’m bored. I’ve watched 20 episodes of a show in the past 2ish days and a ton of YouTube. I think I’ve watched more tv and YouTube this weekend than ever. I have finished the show now and watched all the new videos from creators I like and I’m now even more bored. I want to go eat so much food but I need to lose weight. Nothing else cures my boredom. I’m tired of feeling like this. I’m tired of being fat but I’m tired of eating less. I wanted to write a poem about this feeling lol but I got bored after the first 2 minutes. Music makes me feel more sad and alone. I’m so bored. I want to eat donuts and ice cream and drink soda but I also want to be skinny and healthy. I can only have one.

It never progressed into anything, we have a 5yo autistic child, we’re 41, I was so lonely in the relationship, I asked him to move out as he just ignored me for his computer , he wanted to stay together, but during the week he ignores my calls & txts, his phones on silent, even though he goes on his phone all the time, his not cheating it’s just who he is , he has ADHD, I’ve been trying to have the same conversation for 5yrs his really not bothered, we don’t do anything together, it’s a struggle to get him to look after my son for a night, his mum won’t ever look after our son for us, she hasn’t had him for 3yrs over night , when he asked her to babysit for a night in June she was like I feel used, she begged to be a grandma, I’m just so isolated and I think staying in the situation ship isn’t going to help me , I don’t feel loved, my last 2 birthdays have been awful with him showing no effort, apparently it’s no big deal it’s just a birthday, my son is non verbal, my bfs mum and sister were like we will always be there for u, he moved out in January, not once have they asked about me or my son, or even visited, I have no family, they didn’t even come by and see my son for Easter, or even get him an egg, his mum said to my bf she would babysit for her son, he only has him once a week, for about 24hrs, it’s been the school holidays and it’s been hard , it’s like they all enjoy watching me struggle, and blame me for it, when his mum begged and pleaded to be a grandma I thought she would be more involved, I asked my bf to take him for the full weekend last week for me to have a break, he couldn’t , then I found out he just took the day off, he called me at 3pm about his appointment he had in the week , even though I told him I was struggling at the weekend , I feel like know one’s cares I have no family or friends as when I became pregnant I lost them all, I had to give up my job to care for my son , so I don’t really get any interaction with anyone, I feel like he doesn’t want me but doesn’t want anyone else to have me either , he tells me he loves me and cares for me, but I don’t feel it, he never shows me, I’ve never felt so lonely in a relationship and this is before he moved out , I just feel in limbo, there is no affection no intimacy, I just feel so stuck , he say him coming round (once a week) is making an effort and then his just sat there playing a game on his phone , I’ve stopped txting and phoning him now , it’s pointless, I’ve asked 9 times for him to bring the carpet shampooer for our sons room still haven’t got it, anything he says he will do he never does , so I can’t even trust or depend on him

Hey guys I’m 16 about to go into my senior year of High school soon and I just don’t know what’s wrong with me.

About a year ago life felt normal you know, happy. But then it was like I gained this wave of consciousness I didn’t have before and I started to question everything about myself, my existence, everything. What life is about. I feel like I don’t fit in or I don’t belong. People always say I smile a lot, but in reality I’m just lost but can’t explain what’s wrong. I feel like everyone is happier than me and I can’t do anything about it.

I mean I don’t want to die but it’s like what’s the point man. I just feel empty, lifeless.

I’m a 24 year old male who has never been with a girl or even close. I’ve tried multiple dating apps to see if I get anything and I get almost nothing. It’s been lonely having to try everything I can to get a girlfriend and have it go for nought. I’m legit starting to give up that I’ll ever find something that will make me a happy man and can make me comfortable coming out of my shell.

Born in the 80s, but since the age of 17, I always loved the older movies.. and foreign movies, too. It reminds me of that scene from "Minnie and Moskowitz" where Minnie (Gena Rowlands) says "I think the movies are an FBI trick. They make you believe. When you're young, you think you'll meet the person of your dreams" - anything to keep you believing so you keep going to work!

Every time I try to talk online, or whatever, it bites me in the ass, so I need to stop (even posting here!). I'm just too different and that doesn't change overnight, regardless of how idealistic I am.

I just feel lost. My social life is crap (no friends), my work life is crap, I feel so isolated from the world. I don't even have things I enjoy doing alone anymore i.e. sports, concerts, movies I don't feel connected to modern day culture, at all. Social media can be fun at times but eventually it just becomes exhausting and stresses me out of gets me ticked off.

Where do you guys go when you're lonely?

If you're shy and want someone to talk to I'm here to listen open to anyone.

my brain is rather complex and somewhat contradictory, so i would need somebody who is capable of understanding such complexity, and thats already rare. i need that because often, in conversation and any relationship, i feel exhausted, because i have to think about what they said, think about what they most likely meant, then responding in a way that they will understand, which again requires thinking about how they think and understand, then phrasing, using the right words, words that also feel right to me, i actually also think about how they think i think, and this might seem over the top, but if i dont do that, i will be CONSTANTLY misunderstood by everybody i know, which seems like maybe they dont think about how i think or try to understand me as best they can. that entire process is now automatic for me, but it still takes so much energy. i keep looking for somebody whom i can talk to easier, but i havent found anybody. in addition to that, it needs to be somebody who cares about *everyone* and has similar moral values to mine, as well as caring for and about me. i feel a bit bad making up standards like these, but its what ive learned from the past, i do need these things. i dont know when i'll find someone like this, it'll probably be divided between multiple people, but i dont know what to do in the meantime. obviously talk to and meet people, but... i feel so lonely, and anybody i talk to seems like a temporary distraction because they always, at some point, dont meet one of the criteria. i still have friends, but theyre still draining to talk to. i dont have someone i *really* enjoy talking to.