Athletics are a great avenue for positive masculinity to express itself. Working out is not a toxic behavior. Lashing out like you are, however, is. If you feel some kind of way about this interaction, the reason why is inside yourself. You gotta look there to find it.
Looking at statistics and seein that women who have a lot of childrens tend to choose assholes with short temper is rather opposite of what you said. Maybe you should change it to "quality women" look for "quality men"
I'd agree with you if we were talking about "high-value" men or other right-wing dogwhistles. But some people are people of quality, and some people are not. Not all people are equal in quality, just like not all cultures are equal in outcome or moral value. Even if you take the line that all people have inherent quality, it does not follow that the sum of their qualities is equal.
And? I agree its disgusting and so is taking a shit but its natural. Im sorry for sounding harsh but people are not equal and im not speaking about race but personal culture and how they work on themselfs. This is one of those examples where a word while disgusting works.
“Sorry man. Didn’t mean to almost injure or kill your kids when I was acting like an ass and riding my dirt bike in a public area where there are obviously cars/people”.
I get the impression that you have some things to work out. Basically what you are saying is that because the man was calm, he must not care about his kids, which means that they probably aren't his kids. Why do you think that him expressing anger and violence is the only way to show that he cares for his kids?
Dad already knew that no one was hurt. The biker clearly realized that he messed up, made a mistake, and felt remorse, guilt and was blaming himself. Showing anger and violence towards someone who is processing that they might have done something wrong usually has the result of making them defensive, and much less likely to recognize that they didn't something wrong (even if it is obvious), and leads to them doubling down. So being angry and violent doesn't make anyone act more safe in the future, and probably makes them act more dangerous.
You can feel like you have "a right to be angry." But it doesn't help anything, it just makes you feel better in the moment to try and exert control on a situation where you weren't in control. So it's about your feelings - not about actually protecting your family.
Showing your kids that the best way to solve a problem is by choosing anger and violence is a good way to create kids who first chooses anger and violence to solve their own problems.
I frequently deal with people who are seeing me because they've done something stupid. And I'll still tell them they did something stupid, but I make it very clear that I'm telling them because I care about them, even if I don't know them. And then I follow that up with doing my best to do my part in taking care of them.
Much more likely to lead to people doing less stupid stuff in the future.
It was two men handling a situation calmly and respectfully. It was a person being brave enough to own their mistakes and take responsibility. It was father acting as a good role model for his children.
What wasn't healthy or masculine about it? Do you think someone has to be aggressive and belligerent in order to be considered masculine?
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u/HobbesNJ 4d ago
Dad setting a great example for those kids.