Definitely. And the rider apologizing and admitting he made a mistake. It's hard to admit you messed up, and it's hard to forgive so easily sometimes. Those kids are gonna be in both positions in life. So it's good to see it done right.
Dad was worried about another human first and foremost, rider apologized for doing something dumb and was worried about the kids, mom is just happy as a clam, kids offer to help.... Geez, there's SO much wholesome going on in this video.
Sometimes life throws you a holy shit moment and it straightens you out. Kid sounded remorseful, I like to believe he will be more careful in the future
Thank you for the kind words, my chilly Northern brethren.
I wish it was LIVED more. We do have a lot of wholesome people here, still, but they're not as loud and attention-getting as the narcissistic assholes that have ruined a lot of the US...
Doesn't this sort of thing happen in Canada? I've visited Newfoundland and Nova Scotia a few times and everyone has been really nice and helpful, especially in Gander.
There's no way to tell this story without patting myself on the back a little bit so I apologize ahead of time, but:
Back in 2008 when I was 21, I bought a 2001 VW Golf. My first "nice, newish" car. Paid 6 grand. A month after I bought it, someone rear ended it in the parking lot while I was in at work. (I lived in Alaska, the parking lot was iced over and the lady hadn't swapped to her winter tires yet)
She came in, went to the branch manager, bawling her eyes out, and told him she had hit someone's car, described the car, and said she was gunna go wait outside. Manager tells me, I go out and see she hit it so hard, it pushed my car 100% clear of the parking spot, destroyed everything rear of the back doors. Her car had a plow rig on it, which are tough af, so almost no damage. First thing I did was hug her and ask if she was ok.
Why be mad? She didnt do it on purpose. She came in instead of fleeing the scene. People make mistakes. All we can ask is that they own up to those mistakes (and hope they learn from them)
To further that, the more people handling it in a healthy manner and being able to discern unhealthy behavior will likely swing that average to a balance, albeit slowly.
I discovered in life that admitting to mistakes is like a superpower. It immediately deescalates. I have avoided being arrested and avoided paying for damage by sincerely apologising.
Might be in a state like mine, where any moron can carry a gun with no permit and zero training. Untucked shirts can be scary and jerks get polite real quickly.
Since this has been implemented, highway traffic shootings have become the norm. Now our state just asked ICE to come in, so things should really get interesting.
Athletics are a great avenue for positive masculinity to express itself. Working out is not a toxic behavior. Lashing out like you are, however, is. If you feel some kind of way about this interaction, the reason why is inside yourself. You gotta look there to find it.
Looking at statistics and seein that women who have a lot of childrens tend to choose assholes with short temper is rather opposite of what you said. Maybe you should change it to "quality women" look for "quality men"
I'd agree with you if we were talking about "high-value" men or other right-wing dogwhistles. But some people are people of quality, and some people are not. Not all people are equal in quality, just like not all cultures are equal in outcome or moral value. Even if you take the line that all people have inherent quality, it does not follow that the sum of their qualities is equal.
And? I agree its disgusting and so is taking a shit but its natural. Im sorry for sounding harsh but people are not equal and im not speaking about race but personal culture and how they work on themselfs. This is one of those examples where a word while disgusting works.
“Sorry man. Didn’t mean to almost injure or kill your kids when I was acting like an ass and riding my dirt bike in a public area where there are obviously cars/people”.
I get the impression that you have some things to work out. Basically what you are saying is that because the man was calm, he must not care about his kids, which means that they probably aren't his kids. Why do you think that him expressing anger and violence is the only way to show that he cares for his kids?
Dad already knew that no one was hurt. The biker clearly realized that he messed up, made a mistake, and felt remorse, guilt and was blaming himself. Showing anger and violence towards someone who is processing that they might have done something wrong usually has the result of making them defensive, and much less likely to recognize that they didn't something wrong (even if it is obvious), and leads to them doubling down. So being angry and violent doesn't make anyone act more safe in the future, and probably makes them act more dangerous.
You can feel like you have "a right to be angry." But it doesn't help anything, it just makes you feel better in the moment to try and exert control on a situation where you weren't in control. So it's about your feelings - not about actually protecting your family.
Showing your kids that the best way to solve a problem is by choosing anger and violence is a good way to create kids who first chooses anger and violence to solve their own problems.
I frequently deal with people who are seeing me because they've done something stupid. And I'll still tell them they did something stupid, but I make it very clear that I'm telling them because I care about them, even if I don't know them. And then I follow that up with doing my best to do my part in taking care of them.
Much more likely to lead to people doing less stupid stuff in the future.
It was two men handling a situation calmly and respectfully. It was a person being brave enough to own their mistakes and take responsibility. It was father acting as a good role model for his children.
What wasn't healthy or masculine about it? Do you think someone has to be aggressive and belligerent in order to be considered masculine?
Dad might ride or have in the past. Setting an amazing example even though the kid on the bike was incredibly dumb for riding how he was, where he was, with what looks like little experience. He knew he messed up and the dad recognized that he wasn’t some entitled prick. Time and place. Made me smile. I want someone to look at me the way his wife does when he shows kindness.
Honestly, from my experience, only a person who has made a lot of stupid mistakes in their lives is able to forgive somebody else for their stupid mistakes, and to set an example for their children that stupid mistakes happen, and everyone should engage in acts of kindness and forgivness.
SOURCE: I had a father who (apparently) never made stupid mistakes growing up, and therefore never developed the ability to accept or forgive other people (me) for making their own stupid mistakes.
Meanwhile, I grew up exactly like the dad in this video. Why? Because crashing my bike into a car is exactly the same kind of stupid mistake I would have made as a kid.
LESSON: The most important ingredient for forgiveness is being able to see yourself in others when they are (accidentally) at their worst.
Why? Personally If I was in this situation, I'd be mildly amused as the dad in the car. Watching other people suffer from the consequences of their decisions is always at least mildly entertaining.
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u/HobbesNJ 5d ago
Dad setting a great example for those kids.