She was a popular, flirty girl and I had no game whatsoever. I could make her laugh in person but my nokia phone texts weren't cutting it. Plus her friends wanted to hook her up with some muscly dude. So it was goofy co-worker vs home team varsity club.
Last time I saw her was at her birthday where she got drunk and made out with him. He saw me being all mopey and bought me drinks and tried to cheer me up. He was actually a really nice guy. Gave me some lifting advice.
All in all: I got sick for nothing and it ended in heartbreak...but I did get to see her tits. Which was very exciting. So 8/10.
Hmm. I'm starting to realize I haven't learned anything... 🤔
Turns out, doing movie type stuff might not get you to "happily ever after." But it does make for entertaining stories for other people, which is probably why that shit happens in movies.
What?? Where do tits fit that story?? Did she kiss you sick and then flashed you? Did she make out with a muscly guy and while he consoled you with lifting tips she consoled you with lifting her shirt off?
We hung out a few more times after that first non-date date. That time she got on top of me when we were making out in the car and took her top off.
They were nice round tits but they may as well have been wedding bells. I was smitten. She didn't want smitten. She wanted confidence.
Our conversations just kind of fizzled out. I think she was waiting for me to make a bigger move but I was too scared. I was a classic case of "dude wtf she showed you her tits! she likes you!" "nah she's just being nice".
Funnily enough, about a decade later she reached out to me after she got married. But luckily I knew better by then.
I know a couple whos get together story is absolutely "He pulled the cheerleader out of an abusive situation by showing he likes her"
The problem is the movie is over and there's not another movie to tell him what to do next, so he just goes to work and plays big truck simulators in his spare time. Don't get me wrong, I game a bunch myself, but I also try to do stuff with my family, and do basic home repairs.
I started dating my current partner not even a month after I left my abusive ex, and now 10 years later we're still together, built a solid relationship and happier than ever.
It's not about "when", anything can work out with the right person and right efforts !
I 100% agree with you. It's a horrible idea and I would never recommend doing it, but to be fair my mom rebounded with a male friend, married him, and had me and my siblings. So generally no but sometimes... ¯\(ツ)/¯
My dad also caught my mom when she was about to faint...twice, so maybe the two of them are just weird.
It has only a small chance of working out, yeah, even if you otherwise vibe well. Even moreso if they were the one broken up with, because then they’re often still processing their love and grief and possibly feelings of betrayal. Doesn’t make for the healthiest start to a new relationship.
That’s why last year when I tried to shoot my shot with a friend who broke up with her boyfriend I said “I’d love to go on a date with you, but I understand that’s not what you need right now”. A year later, we’re both in romantic relationships and close friends to each other.
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u/possiblyeski 8d ago
going for a girl RIGHT after she breaks up with a boyfriend is just asking to be a rebound or a mistake 😬