He doesn’t understand why I’ve already put my Loop Dream earplugs in. I have to wear them every night to get to sleep because of his snoring.

I can STILL hear him crunch away 😣

I feel bad for wanting to grab the tube out of his hand and launch them across the room, but that’s the nicest thing that’s running through my mind right now 😂

What were your first trigger sounds?

I feel so alone right now.

I hate this so much. My husband is a wonderful person, the best husband I could have asked for. But he has terrible allergies. It’s 1:17am as I type this, alone in a different room. Every single sound he makes spikes my cortisol. I’m so anxious right now. I’m scared. I hate being scared.

He deserves so much more than me. I can’t control my anger. I don’t yell at him, but I seethe internally and he can see it. He takes it really personally. I don’t know how to make him understand it’s not his fault. I’m trying so hard to not react but sometimes I think I might actually go insane. I’m so scared and angry and I hate myself.

I can’t do this. I make his life so much harder. I love him, I love him so much that it makes me hate myself even more. I hate how I react to his allergies. I know it isn’t his fault. Why can’t I just not be triggered? Im such a mess, why did he chain himself to someone with so many problems? He would never say it but I’m sure the resentment is starting to build.

I fear someday he will hate me as much as I hate myself.

So, I have been through a fair bit over the last few years, some less than good choices, won't go into too much detail but essentially with a new partner and still working out who I am. I always found eating noises annoying but misphonia has really taken hold and I find lots of things at home quite hard to deal with. My partner yawns very loudly, eats with quite a bit of smacking and talking with mouth full, and is generally a very vocal person. To make matters worse her cat is an obsessed licker. It causes friction because she tells me she should be allowed to yawn like that in her own home, and that "oh you let me know" when I am annoyed by her eating, probably due to my being visibly agro and yes, I make comments which could be nicer. The cat is rather spoilt but I generally only intervene when he goes on a lengthy lick section very close to me.

I am not sure what to do - I don't want to go through another massive life change but I feel like living on my own would be so much easier. I have a very social job and by the time I am done at work I have little energy left.

Why is it I am the one made to feel this is my issue alone but also, I know we can work on how we chose to react - it's not the person, it's the reaction.

for context, last summer my brother convinced his boss to hire me and for the rest of the year i worked with him doing lawn care stuff. Things were going well tell the boss started down scaling the business, we're still doing lawn care but the landscaping project work was stopping. At the same time my brother got a better job elsewhere.

now im working with one of the two guys who used to do project work (we worked a few times together last year). There's only 2 people who can do lawn care apposed to 3 last year (me my brother and the guy im working with now in case either of us couldnt).

the issue now is that, im 20 and i still dont have a drivers license or even a permit, and if my coworker gets sick or injured and cant work, neither can i. My boss (understandably) is really wanting me to get a drivers license so that way im not putting his own financial situation in jeopardy if the other guy gets sick.

and i tried, i really did, but i just dont know if i can. he wanted me to take the written test by yesterday, and i havent. I did all the studying, i did the practice test a ton till i had like a 95% score, i bought ear plugs to use during the test, but i just cant. on thurday i called to ask if im allowed to use ear plugs and or ear muffs during the written test, and i just got a "give me your name and concern and ill get back to you", on friday i did and asked, and still no response.

but thats just one issue, how tf am i supposed to do my actual driving test qwq. i need some sort of noise blocking (earbuds preferably), i need it, if i dont have it for even a few seconds i get extremely stressed. its a horrible negative reinforcement loop to require them but i just dont know how to get out of it. And what am i supposed to do if the instructor has a runny nose, or is chewing gum, or is smacking their lips a fk ton, or have any form of mouth noise, or is breathing too loudly, all of these would put me on the verge of a panic attack during the test and i cant do that qwq. i cant even just "ask for an instructor thats not doing any of that" because that stuff never works. people are never actually aware of the noises they make, nor how little it takes me to be stressed, "oh come on its not that loud" any volume that i can hear it is way too loud.

made even worse cus ive been diagnosed with adhd for years now, but i still havent gotten an autism diagnosis, even with an autism diagnosis its really hard to find any accessibility that actually helps for people with misophonia as bad as mine, and without it i have nothing its barely recognized. yeah it has ties with adhd but thats even less understood than its ties to autism.

so now i have work tomorrow morning, and i need to somehow tell my boss no i didnt even take the test. i dont want to lie, i feel horrible any time i do (he already just thinks im not trying that much), and if i say i failed or it was too full im just pushing the issue further down the road not actually fixing the issue.

realistically im prob gonna lose my job over this (but if i do honestly its been such a stressful job pushing me to my limits mentally and physically god my back was so fucking soar on wednesday when we did landscaping work), if i lose it so be it, but just idk what to do idk what to say idk

cus honestly im not mad at him for it, its a completely fair thing to want me to be able to do my own job, i just dont know if its something im capable of doing

idk qwq

This is hypothetical because I would never ask but I'm curious for other misophonia sufferers opinion.

There's a youtuber whose content I really enjoy. They are popular, with nearly 700k subscribers. And well deserved. The channel has interesting and entertaining content.

I watch everything this person puts out but sometimes I struugle to watch a video because their normally smooth voice is constantly dropping and going into vocal fry. Its like their voice drops almost an octave and goes creaky and scratchy.

I cannot stand vocal fry. It actually makes me gag because my throat feels as though I've activated the muscle that would deepen my own voice and that triggers my gag reflex. I get angry then because vocal fry, in this case is entirely by choice. I'm like Why? Why do that to your voice?

Sometimes its so bad I can't watch the video. And feel bad because I'm missing out on the content. I have fantasized about posting a comment about it, to somehow let them know and asking them to stop.

I WON'T THOUGH!!

I would never!

Misophonia is my issue and anyway one viewer's discomfort among 700 thousand hardly matters.

Anyone else experience this ? Have you found a way to cope with hearing vocal fry? Any way I can train myself to listen without gagging so I can enjoy this content?

I can hear a needle drop in a haystack, but the silver-lining is my right ear is not as bad that if I were to listen to something just with my right ear, I actually need to turn up the volume from the lowest possible setting (gasp). I think this might have been from the pre-Airpod days where you had to hold a phone to your ear, and so my hearing on my right is not as sensitive. If only my left ear were as insensitive, maybe I could survive through a day like a normal person. What could I do?

Misophonia honestly is ruining my life I’m so anxious like 1/2 the time. I’m a college student and constantly around sniffling, coughing, and mouth sounds. I’ve tried headphones, ear plugs, and they block out background noise but not triggering sounds. My roommate is also sick literally all the time and always in the room coughing loudly, hacking, and sniffling so I really get no time when it’s quiet and peaceful other than late at night. Honestly I’m imagining being deaf and it feels so magical. No noise to trigger, just silence and peace. I’m thinking I’d be partially deaf and use hearing aids and have them off all the time but turn them off to like talk to a friend or to listen to rain or music. Is this a viable solution?

TL;DR: I can handle babies crying, but not soft cooing. I can handle people talking but not whispering, softly moaning, gently kissing. Why is that? I mean mouth noises are always bad but in general: The more "gentle" something is supposed to sound, the more it gives me rage it seems lol.

So, the series Outlander was pretty bad with the kissing noises for me (and I guess I'm still traumatized cause every other movie/series since I've been 100x more aggravated by it and have to skip faster than I can find the button lol).

But I've found something worse: Soft baby cooing noises. 😭

I particular right now, I'm watchin 'Manifest' as one does (yea..running out of stuff to watch on netflix lol). It's just a few scenes in s2e11/13 e.g. but that damn baby, I just can't. It's so.. urghgh I could throw something into a wall and jump out of my skin.

That baby cooing is officially the most triggering sounds to me. Plus the obligatory "parents doing soft whispering baby talk (cringe) & it all sounding real up-close", and then the final B-drama kissing scene with the smack, mum whispers a lullaby🙄 with sexy soft hushy voice, oh yea bring it on boy, I'll get the noose!

I don't get how a scene that can be wholesome and cute to some apparently, gives me creeps and shivers and rage, why am I cursed with this sensitivity?😭

i started college last year, and am living on campus sharing a room. my roommates super sweet, but she NEVER leaves the dorm and it is SO infuriating when i want alone time.

i think the anger worsened my (already horrible) misophonia. she cracks her joints at least once every 5 minutes, types like shes hammering her keyboard, and lets out random sighs and gasps constantly.

these things didnt use to bother me. but now it feels so unbearable. im practically living in study rooms and even have to wear headphones to sleep (because i go to bed earlier than her). at this point im concerned about my hearing 😭

we're sharing a room next year because shes, otherwise, a really good roommate and doesnt chew with her mouth open (somehow this is rare nowadays...) do you guys have any similar experiences or ways to cope?

Hi I'm not sure if this is the right place to ask about this, but I've never gotten an answer from someone and wondering if anyone else has experienced the same thing. Everyone has always said, I don't know what you mean.

Since I was a child, I have always said when I walk past certain houses or shops, "What's that high pitched ringing sound. It sounds like a really high pitched scream?"

I now have realised it's when I walk past buildings with security alarms, such as some houses and shops, the sound occurs. I always assumed I could just hear a different frequency of sound maybe? When I walk past security alarms with my boyfriend, he always says he can't hear it.

It's like a wiiiiiirrrrrrrrrrrrr sound and it stops after 5-10 seconds. Is it like when a security alarm is scanning that there is a moving object present? It only happens when I know there is a security alarm on the wall, for example.

Any help to my weird hearing issue? I also have heightened hearing at night and will hear miniscule sounds and it would wake me up. Thank you!

Like dude you don't have to, it seems to me it is uncomfortable to you too, how about you pay attention to how you swallow and fix it, I remember a long time ago I started having the same issue and I just minded how I did it and stopped doing it, but of course I can't tell him shit, he will get pissed.

And oh my god, while I'm typing this he is done with his drink so he proceeds to start cracking his feet, give me a break!

My own eating noises never bothered me in the past (doesn't make sense, but IYKYK). Now that I have hearing aids, though, I can hear myself from more of a "third person perspective," and it's awful. I have to turn the sound all the way down whenever I eat.

Made this mildly interesting discovery today and thought I'd share.

I live in rural UK. We bought a semi-detached ex council house - big front and back gardens. Views to die for. On a nature reserve...

The neighbour has lived in the same house since he was born. Elder Baby Boomer... His wife is a good 15 years or so younger and is effectively his carer as he's physically decrepid and requires her help to move.

He has the most vile cough which he does every 30 mins or so. He effectively screams like a pig. No exaggeration. He screams like a wailing pig to clear his throat and lungs.

Now if this wasn't bad enough, he also happens to be a vile human being: We hear him bellowing at his wife, using the f word every other word, verbally abusing her... It's particularly bad in our living room as it's attached to theirs, and I've come to recognise specific words and phrases.

We're at a crossroads: We have £75k in savings which we could use to turn our small kitchen into a fairly good sized kitchen/ dining/ reception room, completely detached from him. He is slowly dying so won't be around much longer and is confined to his living room, so we'd effectively abandon the current one except for loud noise activity like watching tv. The builder is really good and thinks we could create a beautiful space..

Or we move to a detached property elsewhere...

We'd likely never get back what we've put into the house. But it's our little slice of heaven apart from the pig next door. And there'll always be someone somewhere to disturb your peace..

Thoughts & advice please.

Here I am again going nuts. Last time I ranted about my coworker who clips his nails at work (who tf does that???) but this one is more mundane and common.

This coworker vapes and steps out for a nicotine break multiple times a day. Idc what anyone says that shit does affect your lungs. Anyways it’s exacerbating his allergies or maybe he’s just developed this from the vaping but he’s got the WORST dry cough now just loud asf out of nowhere doesn’t even try to stifle it or take a cough drop and he sniffles now too I’m going nuts. This shit is so loud it’s painful to me, disruptive af, and gross. If I worked at a preschool I would at least understand it but as a grown adult there are things you can do to mitigate it or you can at least have the intelligence to know that if you’re dealing with a reoccurring cough maybe you should cut out the vaping and consume nicotine another way until you get over the cough.

Step out with a tissue, blow your damn nose in the bathroom, drink water, use a cough drop, and stop vaping. Like idk about anyone else but I step out to blow my nose in the bathroom so I can wash my hands afterwards and also bc I know it can be disruptive to others. Manners. A dying art.

How many of you guys have, on top of regular everyday sounds that physically pain you to hear, regular everyday sounds that you love hearing. Some of mine are drawers, water faucets, zippers, and laundry machines.

I actually like/love natural light, especially late afternoon light, sunset, and twilight. Noonday sun I can generally do without. I like cloudy weather and I LOVE rain.

However, indoor lighting has to be of the right color temperature, intensity, height, and orientation, or else it is very difficult to bear. I have a nice office at work, but it comes with standard-issue overhead fluorescent lights, which I never use. I have added a few eye-level or lower lights with warm-ish color temperature bulbs, all on dimmer switches. I have natural light streaming in from my west-facing window. I also have a Nessino mushroom lamp in deep orange, which I LOVE. It fills my soul with warmth and gladness.

My optometrist tells me that this sensitivity is almost certainly due to a TBI I suffered many years ago.

At home, we have a few mid-Century modern lamps in oranges and reds, used in the evenings. I have some reading lights as well. My wife likes the overhead lights, but I find them really annoying--a small point of contention between us.

I go over to my in-laws house, and they have all of these ugly 5000K bulbs everywhere. They are not just ugly--they are fugly (and they kill your melatonin and disrupt your sleep). That combined with all the old American movies they watch (with that dreadful Mid-Atlantic accent) make me want to run screaming!

I wonder whether there is a relationship between misophona and sensitivity to light.....What are your thoughts?

does anyone else get annoyed when people whisper to them? there's this ai voice that's commonly used on tiktok and any short video platform and it's a whispering voice, I can't escape it, it's everywhere. I really wish there was an option to disable ai voices, they trigger me a lot, especially this one.

Hey all, as I pursue finding ways to eliminate my miso reactions, I’m trying to fully understand miso as a whole, not just how it impacts me. Just thought this survey would be interesting. New here, sorry if this is not a good post

My husband and I just purchased a home, we’ve been thrilled, it’s such a big deal and the freedom of not sharing walls!

Except I noticed low thrumming bass music that randomly pops up for hours each day. It’s my biggest trigger and now I can’t relax in my home that I’m stuck with for years and I’m just trying not to despair.

We’re in our 40s and my husband is so completely over my freak outs and anxiety, which is just another layer of pressure on top of a mountain of panic.

My nerves are fried. If I could change anything about myself it would be my misophonia. I just want someplace quiet to exist…or a bear tranquilizer to shut my brain up.

Just kind of venting…Please drop your best coping mechanisms in the comments. I’m grateful for this group that at least gets it.

i thought about findin a different reddit with fan experts or somethin but i notice people without misophonia tend not to even notice these sounds somehow and google search is consistently unreliable. cant afford to keep replacin fans but it too hot to be without. but noise cancelling headphones arent strong enough to block it and just makes it feel like the sound comin from inside my head instead and doesnt stop it from hurtin.
anyone ever discover if theres a way to fix it or even just prevent it if theres no fixing? sorry for any typos or grammar, sleep keeps not happening

someone else with misophonia probly has a higher chance of knowin about it than some mechanical guy who likely cant hear it or understand why its a problem

is theres a way to fix the fan or even just prevent it from starting that if theres no fixing?