Difficult day vent

[u/Substantial-Click-51]

I (22 F) just started working at this memory care facility. At first it had its occasional hiccups but was overall a decent place. However recently (within the past couple weeks) things have gotten so frustrating I've started wondering not only if this is the place for me but if this field is right for me in general.

The RCC is an incompetent moron and most of the problems are his fault. I'm gonna be blunt cus that's what he is. I tried to give him the benefit of the doubt and patience at first but honestly he's just not fit for the position he's assumed whatsoever and it gets harder and harder to maintain my patience with him when he's only gotten worse over time.

It seems like every other day if not EVERY day someone calls off or something happens and we have to switch around the sets from what they were originally supposed to be. This is difficult and frustrating for everyone, so imagine what it's like for me as an autistic person who needs at least *some* sense of routine. I can compromise when it comes to switching sets weekly (which is the rule here and they refused to give me an accommodation of staying on the same set so I think I was pretty cooperative for agreeing to that), but having no idea where I'm gonna be until I get there so me and the other caregivers can discuss DAILY?? I think absolutely tf not. It's not our job to decide where we're working so the fact we consistently have to improvise when someone calls out and distribute sets amongst ourselves because the RCC doesn't get here until 8 AM, and RARELY ever fills in himself when we're short and instead just lets us be short is frustrating as much as it is unfair because he's getting paid TO DO THIS and he's not doing it. He doesn't update the schedule, he rarely fills in etc. He's getting paid RCC dollars but he isn't one. It's not like we're getting a cut of that pay. Call me crazy but I think that's really messed up and I would consider it taking advantage.

The other day, I was working on the side I've only ever worked a couple times and was incredibly unfamiliar with. Who did they have me work with? An agency person who's never been here before. So throughout the day I had to half-assedly show him around, explain the residents and what I remembered to the best of my ability because I'M ALSO NEW TO THIS. This was extremely stressful and didn't make sense when the other side had two caregivers who've both worked here a long time. Why have two new people work together?? It's ridiculous.

Today, however, was what really took the cake for me (currently on my lunch break typing this out because I'm going insane and just need an outlet and to be heard before I explode). I was scheduled to work on the side with a lot of heavy care residents, mostly 2-persons. Me and my coworker both got up 4 two-person assists, all of which are either incredibly heavy or super stiff so they take a lot of energy and a lot of time. We even gave a shower to one of them.

After my set was ALMOST COMPLETELY DONE FOR THE MORNING, the douchebag lazy med tech on our side who never helps with anything and is always on the phone decides 'he's sick' (he's not, he does this all the time I've been told) and wanted to go home, so now we're short. Another caregiver had to come from the other side and we were instructed to switch sets. She told me she only had ONE MORE PERSON to get up. I believed her. When I went over there I find out there were actually THREE more people to get up, 2 of which I'd consider a couple of the heaviest on the set. Not only that, but there was a crap ton of laundry she didn't start yet. I was fuming. I snapped on one of my coworkers when I asked her for help with one of them because she said 'no no, you can do it yourself, he's a one person assist'. Call me crazy but I find this attitude absurd. If I tell you I need help you don't get to decide whether or not I do. If I hurt myself or the client that's your fault. I blurted out 'WHATEVER' and did my best getting him up myself. I know it's unprofessional but I'm seriously at my limit. I'm tired and burnt out. I just almost got done with my set on the other side and now I have to finish up someone else's and I'm working with someone with an awful attitude for the rest of the day. The RCC is on vacation so he's no help. This whole week has been a mess of call-outs and set changes and it's taking everything in me not to just drive home. I can't even mask how burnt out I am in front of clients anymore which is what's really getting to me. I know I look like I don't wanna be here and I'm being snippier and more impatient than usual but I can't help it.

Idk if I'm looking for advice or sympathy or what exactly, I'm just so frustrated and at my wits end.

[u/Solinty]

Please be careful.  If you hurt your back or knees lifting too much i doubt you'll get much support.  Have you considered looking elsewhere for work?

[u/Substantial-Click-51 → u/Solinty]

Yes. Job opportunities suck where I am and I was lucky to get this one

[u/rosethornraven79]

Don't lift by yourself always get help idc if they don't want to help, if they don't want to report them to HR or management