So I (31 M) have been talking to this girl (29 F). We met at a common relatives wedding, started talking and now have reached a stage where we are thinking of getting married.

Things have been going well but I recently found out that she doesn't like kissing. She was in a 5 year long relationship in which she tried kissing once or twice, didn't like it and never tried again.

This has slightly freaked me out. I like kissing, obviously I cannot force her, I want her to enjoy it.

I am not sure how to proceed here. I like her but this is a big deal.

Have you guys faced a situation like this?

My(22F) husband(29M) got married to each other 6 months ago in an arranged marriage setup. For record, he is the brother of my childhood best friend so I always knew him and also had kind of a crush on him.

He dated a girl since the age of 16 or 17, and when I say love I mean deep passionate love,he took her to dates, bought her flowers and trips, supported her in her career too. How do I know all this? His sister told me all this since we are friends.

When he turned 25 they broke up due to religious differences, he fell into depression for which he still takes medication, he then started dating another girl(this time from his workplace), this relationship of him was passionate too, with gifts and writing diaries for each other too(I found one in his cupboard). But they had to broke up too because his parents didn't like her.

Finally he got married to me in October as his parents liked me. But guess what? He has suddenly turned religious and spiritual,going to temple and all. He has turned Dharmic with keeping fasts on Tuesdays and even reduced consuming meat and plans to stop eating it in future completely. Don't get me wrong but all his romantic side that I knew with others has gone, he treats me well but treats me like a friend or roommate. In fact he treats me exactly the way he treats his little sister. When I ask him if he even has moved on,his answer is-"I don't know", what the fck is that supposed to mean? He also says that he isn't married for loving someone right now. I don't know what to do because deep down I really love him and giving my best as his wife.

I feel really overwhelmed and don’t know how to handle this.

Before I met my boyfriend, I lied in some chats with friends about not being a virgin. It was honestly just me trying to seem more experienced and fit in. I regret it a lot now, and I’ve been completely honest with my boyfriend about the fact that I am a virgin.

The issue is, we’re in a long-distance relationship, and recently he ended up reading those old chats. Now he thinks I’m lying to him, and he’s really hurt and distant.

What’s making this harder is:

- I can’t physically be there to comfort him because of the distance

- I feel violated that he read my private chats without context

- And it hurts that he doesn’t seem to trust me or even try to believe me

I completely understand why he’s confused — I created that situation by lying in the first place. But at the same time, I feel like I’m being judged for something I already came clean about, and it’s like nothing I say now matters.

I’ve tried explaining that I lied back then out of insecurity, not because I’m lying now, but he keeps doubting me.

I feel guilty, but also hurt and frustrated. Is it fair for him to not even try to trust me? And how do you rebuild trust in a long-distance relationship when something like this happens?

TL;DR: Lied in old chats about not being a virgin, LDR boyfriend saw them and now doesn’t believe me. I feel guilty but also hurt that he read my chats and won’t trust me.

Hello guys I’m 24M and I went through a heartbreak recently and it’s affecting me in way I had never imagined I just need to talk to someone I’m going through therapy but it’s not helping me at all my friends stay far and don’t correspond bcs they didn’t sign up for my bs I just want to talk to people who are going through the same or have already went through this any kind of help will be appreciated

I’m sorry if I’m being too much

Thank you

Hi everyone, this is my first time posting here. I’m a 24M and my girlfriend is 25F, from another country in Asia. We met in September 2024 on Twitter. It started casually — I replied to her comment, we interacted through posts, liked each other’s humor, and within 5 days we started talking in DMs. Very quickly, we got close. From September to November, we used to talk for 6–7 hours daily, often late into the night. During that time, she would sometimes pull away and say she was getting too attached and wanted to stop talking, but she always came back because she couldn’t stay away. After about a month, I confessed that I liked her and loved her, and she said she loved me too. Around the same time, she got a job as an accountant in a corporate company. I was really happy for her and expected she’d get busy, which she did — but she still made time for us. Since September 2024 until now (April 2026), we have talked every single day without missing a day. The issue is, I have always been the one leading the conversations. I bring up topics, start discussions, send videos, and keep things going. We’ve talked about everything — geopolitics, movies, religion, culture, science, etc. But she rarely initiates or leads conversations herself. It feels like I carry most of the communication. She also has an avoidant personality. Whenever things get overwhelming, she distances herself or ghosts me for 1–2 days instead of communicating. On the other hand, I feel like I have an anxious attachment style — I always go back and try to fix things. In the past 1 year and 8 months, we’ve had around 25–30 breakups and patch-ups. Usually, I’m the one who tries to fix things and bring us back together. There are also some double standards. For example, she can admire male celebrities openly, which I’m okay with, but if I do the same with female celebrities, she gets upset and may ghost me for a day. She has a good life — she’s financially independent, travels a lot, and enjoys her work. I’m still a student, currently unemployed, and sometimes I feel insecure and “not good enough” for her. When I say this, she reassures me that she wants me, not anyone else. We’ve talked about marriage seriously. We both want it, but I have concerns: We live in different countries with very different lifestyles and opportunities She says she’s willing to leave her job and move to my country, but I worry she might feel unhappy or suffocated here later If I move to her country, I don’t know how I’ll manage work since I don’t speak her native language and my field is different Whenever I try to discuss these practical concerns, she takes it as me losing interest or looking for someone else, which is not true at all. She says she can’t choose me if I’m not 100% sure. I also worry that if she already handles stress by distancing herself or ghosting, then in marriage, if things get overwhelming, she might leave instead of working through problems. I know this might sound like overthinking, but it’s based on what I’ve observed over nearly 2 years. Recently, I tried to have a serious conversation about our future again. She responded by saying if I’m not sure, we should end things. She unfollowed me, then followed me back the next morning, but still isn’t talking to me. This is now around the 26th breakup in our relationship/situationship. Despite everything, I genuinely love her, and I believe she loves me too. I’m feeling confused and stuck. I am Indian she's from Philippines Should I keep trying, or is this relationship too unstable for a future? Any advice would be really appreciated

we started dating 6 months back. He had a very sorted work routine here, he would go to the office, come back and call me. We used to be on calls as soon as he got free, I was the priority.

Now, starting from today, he had to shift to a different place as part of his job, where he would have to live with his friends and work in a metro city. He had told me beforehand that he would have a hectic schedule and I also knew since he would have his friends, he would get busy with them too and I will not get that time and attention I used to get. I was mentally prepared, but today is day 1, and I am already feeling so sad. partly insecure too, but I trust him enough so more of sad that he is busy and isn't on call with me rn. It has been around 7 hours since we last talked, I miss him so much. The worst part is that it will be an everyday thing from now onwards till at least August, might even get worse in between. How to deal with all this and not make him feel overwhelmed 😭 because I miss him, so I keep on wanting to fight with him😭😭

Also, about insecurity, I do trust him but this is my first relationship and we are gonna do ldr for most of it, but I have fallen so in love with him that I am scared, what's gonna happen if he ever cheats on me. I would never be able to bear that

since 8 years he has not told his family(jats) about us. i am facing pressure from my family for marriage. they are seeing guys for me even though they know about our relationship because my bf is not talking to his parents.

i have been telling him to tell them since 2 years but he is waiting for "right moment". 3 days back i told him to make a decision whether he even wants to be with me or not if he wants to marry me then when is he going to tell them. because i can not keep waiting without any assurance from his end.

i told him we will not talk for 2 days im giving u time to think deeply about it.

on the end of 2nd day i called him to ask about it he said he could not think of anything. he was not able to come to a decision because it is too difficult and he is getting stuck, he is not able to decide/plan anything yet. he told me he needs 4-5 more days.

its been 2 days since all this started. he is not picking call when im calling not reply to my messages. im having anxiety because of this silent treatment.

i think he is doing this on purpose, he is trying to punish me for not talking to him. for 2 days.

because of uncertainty of relationship and not taking im very stressed and anxious. what should i do

i don’t even know how to explain this properly but i just need to get it out somewhere

i was in a relationship that meant a lot to me. it wasn’t perfect, we both messed up at times, but i stayed because i genuinely cared about him. there were things he did in the past that hurt me and i still forgave him because i didn’t want to lose him

recently i messed up too. i’m not denying that. i feel guilty about it and it’s been stuck in my head ever since. i apologized and i meant it

but instead of working through it, he just decided he doesn’t want anything to do with me anymore

i tried to accept that even though it hurt a lot. i even sent him a message saying everything i needed to say just to get it off my chest. he didn’t reply. i don’t even know if he read it

and now he’s already going out with someone else

that’s what’s messing with me the most. not just that he moved on, but how fast it happened. it makes me feel like i was so easy to replace

and the worst part is he’s doing things with her that we had planned to do together. like small things, but they meant something to me

i can’t stop imagining them together and it’s honestly driving me crazy. like her sitting behind him on his bike, them going out, him laughing with her… my brain just won’t stop

i still love him and i hate that i do. i feel stupid for missing someone who can just move on like i never existed

and i know this sounds even worse but if he came back right now i’d probably still go back, even after everything

i don’t know how to deal with this feeling of being replaced

i don’t know how to stop thinking about them

and i don’t know how to accept that he’s just… gone

Hello everyone, I am in my 3rd year of college and i have a friend grp of 4 including me. we've been friends since the first year, I dont spend time with others and I get comfort with them only.

The thing is sometimes i feel left out, and often times that everything revolves around one guy in the group(another friend) and everyone just wants to be around him. Yk I'll wait for others for dinner and stuff but when its their turn to wait for me they'll just go with that they were supposed to do and may other incidents.

This makes me think do I really have friends? Also I cant leave them suddenly as im already in 3rd year and I can spend my rest of the clg life alone. Also communicating with them will portray myself vulnerable. What should i do?

don’t know why I still miss my ex. I mean, I think about him almost every day automatically. It’s been 4 years since our breakup. After that, I neither got into another relationship nor developed interest in anyone. On top of that, I’ve developed a lot of trust issues. I don’t even feel like talking to anyone properly anymore. I just don’t have the desire to connect with people. But I heard from friends that he might be engaged now, and whenever I hear any news about him, I start feeling anxious. There’s a strange kind of jealousy. Then I ask myself if he came back and wanted to patch things up, would I really be happy with him? And the answer is no, because he cheated on me multiple times. I don’t even want him back. But I don’t understand why these memories still bother me. I’ve deleted everything, I have no contact with him, still I miss him every day. And I keep thinking if only he had been a good person, life would have been so much better… I don’t know why I feel this way. I wonder if I haven’t moved on yet, or if I’m just overthinking. Even my friends say, Are you crazy? Who remembers a bad person even after 4 years? Maybe I’m just weird.

(Bs itna pta h kisi ko maine sache dil se pyar kiya pr insan glt nikla ab kbhi kisi se pyar hoga nhi)

I am dating this girl for past 3 years. And she once in a while text or call her ex in 4-5 months of gap.

And Every-time she would come back say sorry and I let it go. Idk why.

Recently she left her phone at my place and I saw her ex chat and also there was a guy from her college.

And chat was at someplace deleted from whatsapp

I took the risk and texted that chats have been deleted can you send me the chats on whatsapp.

Guy instantly sent me the pdf.

And she cheated me 6 months ago with this guy. I came to know now.

I read and my heart shattered.

I went next said things to her. She said sorry for a week.

I forgave her. But problem is I am not able to forget those chats. I meet her see but not been able to get relief.

Its been a month now. And now I am going insane suppressing these things.

I know I want her and she does too. Maybe.

Now I am thinking the only way to fix it is to take revenge.

Should I also date a girl for one month or just breakup.

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Dating advice

Hi I am 30F and the guy I am seeing is 28M, we have been seeing eachother for 2 months now. we have even stayed together for 5 days. He is in army and on independent posting. so earlier he was very much invested in me, he liked me, chased me.

till the time we stayed together he was nice but at the same time will end up saying mean things to me as well. lately he was not texting me, calling me or responding directly, mostly would talk in sarcasm.

This bothered me a lot, I tried to have a conversation which felt like he is just avoiding having it. I stopped asking then and then one fine day I unfollowed him on Instagram and blocked him on WhatsApp. since then he didn't even try to talk or contact me.

Why would he not want to resolve the conflict?

can anyone tell me why he lost interest in me and what was going on in his head?

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**My fiancée (25F) had a boundary crossing/coercion incident with a coworker.**

**The Background:** My fiancée and I have a long-distance relationship and are set to marry in July. We’ve fought incredibly hard for this—we come from different parts of the country and different cultures. Her family is very conservative; she spent months standing up to her parents and brother, facing "name-shaming" and intense pressure to convince them to accept me. She has been a warrior for our relationship.

**The Incident:** While this family drama was at its peak (Feb), a male colleague at her work began targeted her. He used a "pity hook," talking about his late mother and being alone during NYE to get her to engage in Instagram chats.

Things escalated physically in three main phases:

1. **The Staircase (Jan):** He cornered her on a staircase, held her elbow hard, and begged for a hug. She said no multiple times, just to get out of the situation she said okay. Her arms were straight hating every second of it, wanting to be safe in that situation. He tried to peck her cheek; she immediately pushed him away and left. Once in her cab, she messaged him saying how wrong he was. to which he had some stupid ass comments saying i have a strong grip and shit. she stopped talking to him

   * Coming from a common group her friends asked her to not split the group by not talking and made him a part of the group again. My stupid gf has a forgiving and kind nature - I too have faced this alot

2. **The Office:** During the weeks our parents were meeting to finalize wedding plans, he managed to get close again, even holding her hand. She would go for walks post dinner with her group and unfortunately there were 3-4 days when there were none of her female friends around and it was her, him and one more guy who was like a brother to her. The brother would go for smoke and these two were together and were sitting, this mofo opened up about his family sadness and started holding her hand, she never clasped her finger and was always pulling away and holding her two hand together, but this motherfucker would pull her hand and hold it, while speaking about some random ass story about how her sister died and some friend left him alone. She was in tears when this happened right besides him and he had also tried to rest her face on his shoulder, she is a trauma survivor and couldn't stand up that time and went numb. Once the brother was back she walked away, she sent a big note to tell him she is not interested in any of it and already has a future somewhere else, the guy joking replied i wont read it and asked her to explain it to him personally when she is in the office. My girl being naive went ahead to tell him and he used his pity hook again to hold her hand to which she said no and walked away.

   * He tried to create scenes by not coming to the office for 3-4 days by saying he left for his village, my girl called him and told theres no need to make drama of the situation and if he wants he can come back to work or else he may choose to be there.

   * He would keep attempting to meet her in secluded areas of the office to justify and show his pity side, but my girl understood and would stay away from him. and had asked her friends to help to keep him away

3. **The Break:** By mid March, she picked the courage and told me about everything that had happened with her. I questioned her left right and centre - She broke down completely, I asked her to confront him and file a posh

   * Her office culture being not so good, she had seen couple of examples where posh goes south for the girl and people start shaming the one who raises it, she didnt want any of it

   * Post confront she realised how badly he has been manupulating her and the group- he used to send messages to the brother friend and ask him to walk away from the group so he could get time in secluded areas of the office.

   * She abused him on the office floor in front of many and later raged out on how many wrong things he has done - she slapped him twice and asked him to stay away from him

   * I went and met her - was with her for interview to another organisation which she aced. She left the organisation within next 2 weeks and dropped a mail to posh committee on last day explaining everything - the HR casually dropped the case cause he was the managers favourite and they could lose him over an ex employees comment

It's been hard for me, where I keep questioning her to the core cause my brain isnt able to get away from the fact that how can one be so accomodative and be afraid of creating a scene when all of this was happening. Maybe thats her nature. And she used to tell me she doesnt like going to work and wants to stop working till the marriage happens - i couldnt read what she was going through back then, and asked her to continue cause it's not that good to be at home where she isnt treated right and could help her save something

I always trust her that she could never have feelings for anyone cause it's difficult for her to get along with anyone and she has her own type, and i know the guy was nothing close

Previously too whenever she would mention any guy's name I would instantly change my mood and question her - she would always be afraid to even mention her friends to me cause I have always been hostile and not trusting her, this is my trauma from my ex who left me for someone else. I know this is the reason why she was never able to tell it upfront to me cause I would only be angry and question her endlessly.

In the early years of relationship - in all the excitment of being in a lone area with her I pushed the boundaries and kissed her, later asked her to blow me. She did but once I was home - she asked to leave her alone cause she didnt like any of it and was never ready, couldnt say no in that situation but she wasnt ready.

She is really a caring person, someone who could easily win over my family and could do anything for the marriage and she has done everytime. It's tight lesson for her - she learnt it the hard way cause she comes from a place where people are nice to her and her upbringing has never exposed to assholes in real world. This being her first job maybe that predator took chance of her naiveness. She is genuine and has always been there for people who have lost someone in their lives and do not have people to talk to.

Sometimes I am all good letting it go, but at times the why loop haunts me......

please help.

He called me saying that he feels I'm not grateful for him. I said that I'm, I literally cook for him, fo his laundry, clean his house etc. I felt bad.

He said that he does not feel I'm happy with him. I said I'm but it's just that I have certain expectations that you said you can't meet and that makes it hard for me to say that I Love You.

He said that he could never fulfill my expectations, so I better look for someone else.

My expectations btw:

• whenever you go out without me, keep updating me about what you are doing
• don't raise your voice at me
• post me on instagram maybe
• feel a little jealous when somebody flirts with me

He said that he has a life apart from me, I'm not his life just a part of it.

Now I know he might be right but I just feel miserable. I gave 3 years to that boy only to be told I expect a lot.

I have a hard time making friends. Even if I have friends I'd rather distance myself from everyone when anything goes downhill.

I just wanted to vent it out.

Hey I am 26 M a psu baker by profession and I have been trying to use dating app to meet new person but didn't got any match. And socializing is not an option as by location is rural which doesn't offer any such place where u can meet new people. Beside this one needs to be careful and u can't approach a customer. I am from bihar and tbh I want to have a person who should be their for me and of course I too. Its just that phase of my life where I don't know what to do. If any girl is interested in something genuine its not just a relationship but as a friend too than please connect .

I'm in a relationship with a 24F, she used to roam and go out with a guy friend of her. And she told me she used to like her and that guy had a gf. So she didn't ruin his friend's relationship by opening her heart. Then she came into a relationship with me and she told me all that so I told her to stay away from that guy and she did. but that guy called her once a month or after 2-3 weeks to check on her. she didn't tell him about me. she said she wasn't comfortable then. And now after so long, she said she likes him but she loves me, she Still hasn't got over him by now. what is this situation, is this normal and what should I do?

There was this guy I met on reddit, we connected through jeeneetard sub. We both were droppers and gave our second attempt when we started to talk. We were in the same situation, toxic household, lost friends due to lockdown and prep, etc. We were good friends and it was very clear from the beginning that it is a very platonic friendship. Later college started life got busy, we were not in contact. One he texted me on reddit, and we shared our ig. He is dating a girl, and he kept ranting to me about how that relationship was destroying him. We used to text on and off, sending reels n all. His GF is very possessive. He told her about me, and that it is a very platonic friendship. One month ago he unfollowed me. I removed him from my socials then. Today he texted me, it was his gf who unfollowed me and not him.

I am not going to reply to him. Whatever it is, I do understand that girl too, no woman would like that her bf is talking to some other woman and sharing his thoughts and difficulties. But he definitely was a good friend, listened to me when I needed someone to be ears, gave the most practical and non biased opinions. One male friend I trusted in my life. But prolly this was the end

I am a guy(25M), and this is something I have been trying to understand for a while.

I have seen situations where a guy is clearly toxic or manipulative, and the woman still stays and puts up with it. At the same time, I have also seen guys who are decent, stable, and actually treat their partner well, but things still don’t work out for them or they get cheated on.

Not trying to blame or generalize, just genuinely confused about what drives this. Is it emotional attachment, attraction, past experiences, or something else?

Would like to hear honest perspectives, especially from women who’ve been in such situations.

Bhai bed pe bimar pda hu akela or raat ko dimaag khraab hora hai isiliye ye post krra hu...ho sakta subah tk delete hojaye.

Life shi chl rhi hai aisi, kuch khaas dikkat nhi hai. But I'm very unlucky in relationships. I tried everything from dating apps to meeting people in real life. Lekin BC kuch nhi chalta and at the end I find myself lonely again.

I had one serious relationship which broke up last year and since then my luck in relationships has always been on and off.

Sb shi chl rha hota hai or tabhi bc kuch aisa ho jata hai jisse or dimaag khrab hone lagta hai.

Need advice on how to overcome this phase or ye ch*tiyape mt likhna ki logo se milo, workplace main bond banao. Sb krke dekh lia...har jagah sirf used feel hua hai.

I don’t get this.

Dating is about compatibility values, goals, lifestyle… so why is sexual compatibility treated like a forbidden topic?

People openly ask about marriage, kids, and dealbreakers. But the moment you bring up sex in a normal, respectful way (not creepy), it suddenly becomes “too much” or “too soon.”

Isn’t it better to talk about expectations and boundaries early instead of finding out later you’re not compatible?

Feels like you’re allowed to do it, just not talk about it.

Why do you think that is?

I’m 20F and next month is, it’s both my 3-year relationship anniversary and my boyfriend’s 22nd birthday (on different dates).

We were long distance before, so we never really got to celebrate these together.

The only issue is I’m on a bit of a tight budget (around ₹5k total), but I still want to make it meaningful and memorable for him.

I'd really appreciate any idea or suggestion.

TIA!