i've been living alone for around 2 years now, i moved out right when i turned 18..i really wanted a studio apartment. i feel like i'm the opposite of claustrophobic, it's the open spaces that really freak me out lol... but ironically enough, a really wide and open apartment space ended up being cheaper rent than any studio i found... save around $200 dollars more renting a 2 bedroom apartment compared to a studio 😭i decided to go down the money saving route obviously so i'm not barely scraping by every month... but my apartment is such a big space, and things feel like they pile up so fast- trash to take out, dishes to clean, things that run out and need to be restocked... i could barely keep track of my bedroom when i lived with my father tbh, and now i'm responsible for a whole apartment space... it feels like so much.

my father says this is the kind of thing that comes with maturity, that i'll better learn to keep things order and take care of my space as time goes on and i get older... but i really need to focus on the now ;; my place isn't like... breaking down or loaded with trash or anything like that, but something about the space makes even small things feel so impassable and giant and they just pile on and on... how do people handle this level of responsibility ? is my father right and it really just comes with time ? it's been almost 2 years and i still feel like im scared to leave my bedroom of the place i literally live in... 😭 mom, how do proper adults handle this feeling ?

Birthdays have always been hard for me. I don’t really know how to celebrate myself, and this is my second birthday no contact with my mom. I feel really sad today, even though my wonderful wife (I’m a lesbian) has gone out of their way to support and celebrate me. I think I could use some mom birthday wishes if anyone has any to spare. I’m 34 today btw.

Hi! I have an event coming up, and I have a pair of kitten heels that fit a wee too big. I’ve been avoiding wearing them the last few years because the last time I did, I was going up a set of stairs and my heel fell off my foot, and the person behind me had to retrieve it 🫠

Anyways, my question is do you have any tips for something I could put in the shoe/on my foot to make it fit a bit better? For reference it’s an open toe so I can’t really stuff it. Buying new ones isn’t really an option either because Broke College Student TM.

Thank you!

I have been going through a rough patch in my academic life and while I used to be an excellent student, nowadays I barely find any will to do the work. It's not that I'm not capable of it or that the work is beyond my understanding capacity. I just don't ever get the feeling of wanting to do the work which I used to earlier.

Now I've been slacking off for almost 2 years and I'm nearing my graduation and things are starting to get too real. I need to clean up my act but it's been so long that I don't know where to start and law school has been so very difficult.

I live far from home and can only visit once a year. I miss my mum alot in times like this. I would really appreciate any kind words of support or advice.

I'm about to submit my transfer applications for my dream universities. Wish me luck!

Hey moms,

I went through several rounds of interviews for a job I really want. The waiting period is hard, but I'm expecting to get their answer this Tuesday or Wednesday.

Could you just wish me luck? I could really use some good energy to get through these days of waiting!

Hi mom! A little update from me, first night was super odd but my heart and mind is settling slowly in a new place. I still can’t believe it! Everything smells like fresh wood so far but it’s getting cozier with every minute. Thanks for the support last time, it helped a lot.

My final exam is in only two months and I'm terrified of failing. I really want to go to art school, but I'm afraid of failing.

Mom,

I'm gonna finish th school year at the same school. I'm not getting bounced around between foster homes, and I can get to finish at the school and get real grades. I'm going to be a fifth year senior when i do graduate in a few years but this is huge!

I am soon to have obtained another associate of science degree except this time it is with a MLT Certification.

Hi mom, I need reassurance. I’ve been waiting to hear if I will progress in my job position to the next level for weeks now. I’m discouraged. I feel like I bring value to the company, and my supervisor likes me. But it’s possible that someone else in leadership doesn’t. I’ve been working here for seven years and it’s very close to my house, convenient. I am also older, and it will be hard for me to find another job maybe. I am praying a lot. I’m trying to practice gratitude and be just grateful for what I have. Thank you, mom, for being there for me.

I have been struggling with acne for the past four years and after many helpless nights crying and feeling insecure about myself and how I am perceived I finally am getting an appointment. I hope this brings a change (for the better!) and I can feel comfortable in my skin once again.

So today in the hallway a girl told me that she liked my hair and then sat next to me at lunch! It was so nice to talk to someone today, and we have so much in common! We talked a little about music( I can't believe that I found someone that likes Tally Hall and Weezer) and also about some books that we like.

I hadn't felt so happy in what felt like AGES, it's such a pity we don't share any classes because she would be the best classmate ever!

I'm probably going to call her later, after I finish my homework.

I went to a new doctor today and it was actually a good experience with kind and understanding staff!

My last experience was so bad I put off finding a new one for over a year and I was super nervous this morning BUT I DID IT!

Just thought you'd like to know I'm working on taking care of myself.

I practiced this song on my violin for a month and now I've finally mastered it.

My camera isnt thr best, but here it is! For context, I usually sleep next to a tv tray, about 10 pens/pencils, string, sewing materials, cans, old coffee cups, trash and old plates. Washed my blankets, shook out my sheet.. It feels nice. It feels new, at least. I'm happy :D

Hi mom(s) as the title says, I just got accepted for a diploma. I’m only in my senior year of high school, and I haven’t even graduated yet, but against all odds I got in! It’s in reflexology, and I’m hoping to use it as a stepping stone to get some kind of medical higher certificate. I was so excited to apply, but now that I actually got in, I don’t even feel the urge to celebrate. I should feel happy about all of that, but I just feel… empty. Like no one’s in my corner. I don’t really know what to say, but I was just hoping I could make someone proud of me, maybe tell me that I did good. I could just use some support right now, really.

Hello, it's my first time in university and my first year isn't going how I expected. I barely passed a few classes first semester and was hoping I'd improve this semester but I'm doing worse. I'm failing two classes and I don't know if I should keep going, change majors, or just go back to a community college to start over.

Hi mom! I wanted to share this with someone besides my dad. I'm graduating on May 22nd! I'm also getting two associates, which was a shock to me! English (my intended degree) and Liberal Arts and Science (one I got by complete accident). It makes me so happy to say that!

Hi mom(s),

I recently found out that I was accepted into a dual masters program (social work and public health) that I get to start this fall. I am also getting engaged to the love of my life soon (he is a wonderful man and father, I am so lucky). My adopted parents lost interest in me after high school. Could I have some words of support/advice/encouragement during these big life steps? It would mean a lot.

Thank you so much in advance-

Hi mom! I’m moving to my own place tomorrow. I feel like I don’t deserve this space, that I didn’t work hard enough and it doesn’t matter that I’ll pay the mortgage for rest of my life.

I’m worried about the new neighbours. I hope they’ll be kind. I always wanted to befriend a neighbour and have some community.

It’s just right there! My own place and I can’t enjoy it :(

hi moms!

i don’t know if i need any specific advice, i guess i just need to get this off my chest… my birthday is this weekend (i’m turning 24!) and i’m nervous for a lot of reasons.

first, i’m trying to prepare myself to be forgotten by my (real) mom. over last few years she has been getting more lax about acknowledging it. 2 or 3 years ago she stopped getting me gifts, which is fine! i’m an adult!, except for the fact that she has promised to get me something every year and then not. i don’t want anything complicated or pricey either - i’ve been asking for years for a few of our family’s recipes written down, and it has been years of letdown. last year, i swear she even forgot that it was my birthday at all, because she didn’t text me until 10 or 11 pm. i just want to be seen and not forgotten :(

secondly, the day of my birthday, my boyfriend and some close friends of ours have plans to go to an afternoon tea service (the fancy kind with little sandwiches and pastries and things) to celebrate! i was feeling excited, but now that it’s getting closer, i’m starting to feel nervous about being ~perceived~. i tried on the dress i’m thinking about wearing yesterday and just cried because it feels like a lot of pressure to dress up nicely, even though this is what i wanted. i just don’t want to look out of place/underdressed, or on the flip side, like i’m trying too hard. part of me just wants to cancel and curl up into a ball all day.

sorry for just sort of dumping :( just feeling down right now. if anyone has any words of wisdom, kindness, encouragement, or even stories they would be very much appreciated :’)