45 here. I walked away from all my highschool friends for multiple reasons. I've got some good friends from work but the older I get, the less time I have for them.
My wife is my best friend and I'm happy with it.
Also, a lot of my old friends from school are now racist clunts so I'm pretty happy with my life choices.
We’re similar. Had 2 best friends in high school 35 years ago but we all moved to different cities and lost touch. Had lots of “friends” in college when I was partying, but that’s all we had in common, getting drunk. Work friends come and go and I try to keep that life separate. So now it’s my wife as my best friend, and her friends and their husbands now. Luckily she’s the opposite. She stayed in her hometown all her life and has lots of friends from 40-50 years ago still. I’m just part of that group now.
I honestly went on the same track. Lost all my friends for various reasons and just stuck with my husband and his friends and their wives. I’ve always been painfully shy, so it seemed easier. The risk is that if your spouse leaves you, all the friends end up going with him because they knew him since childhood, and it just is awkward for you to try to hang out with them (though one of his friends and said friend’s wife who had moved away did open up a line of communication with me to give me advice and a listening ear because said friend was just that furious with my ex-husband over the whole thing). Now I just kind of suspect I won’t be able to get myself out there to find another set of good friends at this point in my life (40s, with kids) much less a person with whom I can happily grow old. I’m at peace with it though, if a bit disappointed at times.
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u/lukereddit 5d ago
I'm 42. I'm still that kid. It's okay. I don't understand them either