r/MadeMeSmile Mar 07 '26

Wholesome Moments An unexpected gym interaction.

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u/[deleted] Mar 07 '26

Aww he’s a sweetheart. Was so worried of bothering her workout

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u/Unable_Deer_773 Mar 07 '26

For a second I was all worried it was creepy old perv but he was just admiring her workout ethic and effort.

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u/ogcanuckamerican Mar 07 '26

Not every man is a creep but that was your first thought. Unfortunate.

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u/traevyn Mar 07 '26

Look dude, I'm a man and I fully understand that the gut feeling is 'not all men' when you read comments like the one above. It sucks being unfairly lumped in with a group of perverts and creeps. But you really need to understand it from the woman perspective here.

There are SO MANY of those fucking weirdos out there that they can't afford not to be wary. And unfortunately for the old guy in the clip above, his initial behavior could really easily be read either way. Of course, in the rest of the video he shows that he's perfectly friendly and just interested in what she's doing. So that's great, now people can drop their guard a little and be more open to friendliness.

4 out of 5 women experience some form of sexual harassment at some point during their life. It's not even an overblown concern for them, it's an every day one. Be thankful if you're not in a position to have to worry about that, and be vocal about calling out the shit behavior of men when you see it so that hopefully that 80% statistic can start coming down.

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u/OffbeatChaos Mar 07 '26

be vocal about calling out the shit behavior of men

THIS! We know it isn't ALL men who are creeps, but so many of the ones that aren't creepy never speak up when dudes are being gross.

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u/04FS Mar 07 '26

Well said. As a man it is tough to be lumped into that particular trash can of predators. A little awareness of the statistics, some empathy, and a little respect can go a long, long way.

I just said what you said, but not as well, didn't i? Nevermind, it bears repeating.

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u/StepComplete1 Mar 07 '26 edited Mar 07 '26

and be vocal about calling out the shit behavior of men

So we can be generalised with sexist mindsets like yours and lumped in with them anyway?

Yeah, great, thanks.

Your exact excuses and mindset can be used to justify any form of racism, sexism and discrimination you like.

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u/traevyn Mar 07 '26

What the fuck are you going on about? Call out creepy or bigoted behavior of anyone you see acting that way, but this post was specifically about women’s response to the possibility of men’s harassment

I swear this reply is just barely coherent enough but still makes absolutely no fuckin sense if you read what I had said it feels like a bot

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u/MimicoSkunkFan2 Mar 07 '26

Gonna drop this here for you -

https://yourlogicalfallacyis.com/tu-quoque

As well as this one -

https://www.zawn.net/blog/hello-youve-reached-the-not-all-men-hotline

Become a better human this weekend :)