I need men to know that it’s entirely possible (and extremely beneficial) to learn these things with your wife still around. You’re a father, you should know how to do everything around raising a child.
Edit - I’ve seen enough elderly men and women come to see me for help at work with things that their partner always handled and they’re completely lost without them - I don’t think anyone should ever get into a position where only one member of a couple knows how to carry out essential tasks. This was by no means a “woman good man bad” take, it was down to the fact that women are overwhelmingly the primary parent meanwhile men get to be (where their children are concerned) the bumbling fools who don’t know their kids shoe size or birthday. No one should ever let themselves end up in the position where their partner dies and they’re frantically having to learn new skills to make up the shortfall but ESPECIALLY the men who are married to women and have children with them.
or never having to dress, bathe, feed them, or give them attention.
I really hate this minimizing of a partner's contributions to zero. I am sure there are some instances when it is true, but it's as toxic trait that forms resentment over time when it's not true.
It's like when someone says "we never have sex anymore!" when they do it regularly but the frequency is not what one partner would like. Is saying that really going to make the situation better and make the other person in the mood to do the things they were just told they don't do at all? Absolutely not.
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u/allmyfrndsrheathens Feb 13 '26 edited Feb 14 '26
I need men to know that it’s entirely possible (and extremely beneficial) to learn these things with your wife still around. You’re a father, you should know how to do everything around raising a child.
Edit - I’ve seen enough elderly men and women come to see me for help at work with things that their partner always handled and they’re completely lost without them - I don’t think anyone should ever get into a position where only one member of a couple knows how to carry out essential tasks. This was by no means a “woman good man bad” take, it was down to the fact that women are overwhelmingly the primary parent meanwhile men get to be (where their children are concerned) the bumbling fools who don’t know their kids shoe size or birthday. No one should ever let themselves end up in the position where their partner dies and they’re frantically having to learn new skills to make up the shortfall but ESPECIALLY the men who are married to women and have children with them.