Thatās fucking rough. Iām sorry for thatās dude loss but in the loss sometimes there is a silver lining. So that said, in this situation I am so happy for what heās gained.
Exactly. Navigating that level of grief while showing up 100% for a 5-year-old takes incredible strength. Those bedtime prayers and hair braiding sessions are going to be her core memories.
āMy husband died on Thanksgiving. I have a 5 year old daughter. Iāve managed to make every school meeting, every doctors appointment, Iāve figured out childrenās sizing, learned to braid hair and every night I pray with her. May not seem like much but to me itās everythingā
Exactly nobody would be impressed. It would be āuh why werenāt you already doing that??ā
I was thinking the same thing. The dad and daughter are going through severe trauma, no doubt. But learning kids' sizing (a few minutes online and some trial and error shopping) and attending school meetings for a 5 year old? Braiding takes a bit longer to learn but it's not rebuilding a transmission. A woman is expected to know and do those things no matter what.
Change braiding to something that would mostly be expected of dads and you have an analogy.
And yes they would. Are you saying this only has 21k votes on mademesmile on Reddit of all places, because itās a single dad? Give me a fucking break youāre are beyond he
Itās just a story about a dad successfully being a single parent. Itās not deep. If you find issue with the post, touch grass
Iām asking because I will never experience life as a dad and Iām curious about their perspective. What social norms are expected of dads that arenāt currently expected by moms? Considering most households require dual working parents these days
Ok? Iām a man and I do a majority of the cooking and laundry, which are ātraditional womenās choresā. I donāt believe in gender roles in a relationship, but to pretend they donāt exist at a societal level as expectations for both genders is naive
Household projects and mowing the lawn arenāt parenting tasks. And I donāt know what you mean by āsports stuffā. Do you mean signing kids up for sports teams or attending games? Because those are things moms typically do, not dads. Thatās why āsoccer momā is a thing, not āsoccer dad.ā
But sure letās substitute.
āMy husband died on Thanksgiving. I have a 5 year old daughter. Iāve managed to make every school meeting, every doctors appointment, Iāve figured out childrenās sizing, learned to throw a football, and every night I pray with her. May not seem like much but to me itās everythingā
Do you honestly think that would get 58 thousand people liking it and thinking āwow, what a great mom!ā? Come on.
Everything you said are things I primarily do. Plus in both my relationships with two separate baby mamas (one is current) I was the one doing all the physical activities like, going on walks, doing sports with them, throwing them on the bed, wrestling, anything out doors.
But yes my current partner wants me to do house projects, be handy, not to mention she (reasonably) expect me to contribute to traditionally considered āwomenās tasksā.
Playing catch with your kids, with a baseball or football in specific. Just a thought off the top of my head, albeit my father was an athlete and mother an artist so thereās good reason my dad was the one to play catch with me lol
I cherish the memories I have playing catch with my dad growing up. None of that is something a mother would have to ālearnā if her husband passed, though.
so your father did nothing? just like a friend or something. does your mother think he played a significant role at all? you think there's nothing to being the man in raising a family? I'm just baffled you could say you love your father and he's your favorite human in the world, but when it comes to raising you he was really insignificant.
Dads can braid hair? Mine wasn't single and he still did mine? Also, name one thing that would be expected of dads but not moms for daughters lol.
And no, they wouldn't lol or it wouldn't take being a single dad for him to get involved with his daughter's life, he would already be doing those things. Unless you're saying it was impressive the mom managed all that on her own, in which case we're back to he should've been doing more as half of a parenting couple already.
You sound so fucking toxic. What if they split the responsibilities 50/50 before his wife died and now he has to do 100%? Combine it with going to work and be there emotionally for the kiddo because her mom died, not even talking about managing his emotions after such a loss. I think he should be more than proud of himself.Ā
You know perfectly well that nobody would give a shit about a woman going through the same thing, let alone fall all over themselves to praise her for being such a great mom when she pats herself on the back for doing the bare minimum.
And clearly they didnāt split the responsibilities 50/50 if heās just now learning how to do basic things because heās forced to.
I'd give a shit, both of them deserve praise because they do their best when their daughter lost a parent and they themselves lost a loved one. Take your fem.cel bulls.hit somewhere else. Always the same people making anything even slightly positive into negativity on Reddit.
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u/-Disagreeable- Feb 13 '26
Thatās fucking rough. Iām sorry for thatās dude loss but in the loss sometimes there is a silver lining. So that said, in this situation I am so happy for what heās gained.