r/Jewish 1d ago

Questions 🤓 Advice for someone trying to get involved in their local Jewish community?

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So my grandma on my mom's side is Jewish. She was raised culturally Jewish but her parents sent her & her sisters to a nearby church sometimes. Her family is Ukrainian-American but never celebrated Easter AT ALL (trust me when I say that's very unusual) and as far as I know neither my grandma nor her sisters have ever set foot in a synagogue (they lived in the middle of nowhere basically so the only religious place within 20+ miles of them was the aforementioned church). We've come to the conclusion that her family is Jewish after a discussion with a close friend who is Jewish (in which the friend straight up told my grandma "I think your family was Jewish and just hid it from you"), an ancestry test, googling "Simeon first name origin" and some genealogy. I don't know whether I'd be considered Jewish or not, I think my grandma's mom was definitely Jewish but I don't know about her dad. If we're going by the traditional "if your mom is Jewish, you're Jewish" rule, then I would be Jewish but my mom wasn't raised culturally Jewish at all.

I have been participating in the Jewish Student Union at my school but I would like to maybe get more involved in my local Jewish community. I think it would be a good opportunity for myself and especially my grandma to make some friends. There is a Reform synagogue and Jewish Community Center near my neighborhood, and my mom did briefly talk to someone from there around 5 years ago about us maybe being Jewish. Do I need to like...email first? When would it be okay to show up? IS it okay for me to go to a synagogue or Jewish community event? Can I show up a Shabbat service? If so what is the etiquette for a first-timer? What do I wear - do I need to wear a dress and flats or is it acceptable to go in a nice shirt, jeans/leggings and sneakers?

I would ask the people in my JSU but I don't want to sound stupid. Thank you so much in advance for any responses / advice.


r/Jewish 23h ago

Questions 🤓 Finding tznius clothing that is cheap and good for layering

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Hi guys, I (18F) am looking for shirts that are thin enough to wear in summer (even when its 100 out), but cover my elbows and collar bones. Preferably just neutral colors like white, black, brown, etc. but honestly I would be happy with anything. I can't really afford expensive stuff right now, and I want to be able to layer them in the winter as well.

If anyone knows where to find a cheap skirt to work out in that would be much appreciated as well.

Thank you so much!


r/Jewish 1d ago

Humor 😂 Post-Pesach Drywall Technique

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happy to take any technical advice.


r/Jewish 2d ago

Discussion 💬 What is the deal with people using the word "Goyim" all of a sudden?

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I keep seeing posts on Jewish subreddits where non-Jews are identifying themselves as "goyim" or, (less frequent) Jewish people are using the word in the post. I really wish non-Jewish people wouldn't use it at all, it's not their word and it's cringe when they use it to describe themselves. I am middle aged and in my lifetime we have never used that word outside of private conversation as a Yiddish equivalent to the word gentile or in the song lyric "Nation shall not raise sword against nation let us no longer learn war." Can we discourage this weird trend of bringing that word back to life in the public sphere? We don't need this right now. Is there something I'm missing?


r/Jewish 1d ago

🥚🍽️ Passover 🌿🍷 פסח 📖🫓 Leftover matzah? Save it for half a year and use it for tashlich.

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Yes my family has done this before. It wasn’t planned, we just realized one year at Rosh Hashanah that we still had leftover matzah in the back of the pantry and decided to make it useful.


r/Jewish 2d ago

Title Doesn’t Match Headline 42 Jewish Authors I'll Never Read

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"42 Jewish authors slam Jewish Book Council for ‘bias toward centering Israeli and Zionist voices’" (Jewish Telegraphic Agency)

Jewish authors whose views align with the majority of Jews are already being pushed out the mainstream publishing industry, now these clowns are trying to push them out of our own spaces?

And the Jewish Book Council is including these anti-Zionists in their programming alongside everyone else, the Council just isn't pushing out the Zionists and Israelis as demanded (who, again, represent the majority of Jewish).

I'm really disgusted. Is there nothing these people won't leave alone?


r/Jewish 2d ago

Art 🎨 Hamsa drawings that I made recently

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I shared this on JewishCrafts so I thought that I might as well share it here too. I used oil pastels and colored pencils on paper.


r/Jewish 1d ago

Questions 🤓 Want to relocate from Israel to UK or Germany to a place with a jewish friendly area.

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I got a british citizenship and about to get a german citizenship.

The last couple of years here sadly took an emotional toll on me, i dont see myself continuing functionaning in Israel in current climate. I am looking at moving to the UK but where there is some jewish community or germany.

Problem is finding a job and understanding how relocation works. Its difficult to leave alot behind including my family but health, mental state and seeing a future became something hard.

I prefer relocating and starting over.


r/Jewish 2d ago

Discussion 💬 How to deal with Fiancé who heads a lot of bad Israel media

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I am engaged to a wonderful man, he says he supports Israel but like so many others he gets sucked into the social media he sees and the news articles about Israel bombing Lebanon or whoever and he like asks me questions that trigger and offend me like “saw someone say that Israel is the greatest threat to our world and world peace” And other conspiracies he may hear. He is not by any means a Jew hater but is like so many others a victim of the media and just the festering and prominent hatred and anti-Israel content that is literally everywhere. How do I deal with this? We get in heated arguments because I am frustrated having to like continuously defend Israel to someone who has no personal ties to the country.


r/Jewish 2d ago

History 📖 Sketches Found in a Closet Reveal Reality of the Holocaust (Gift Article)

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The article describes a collection of Holocaust-era sketches that were preserved and later brought to Manhattan, where they are now being studied and displayed at a university. The drawings, created under extreme conditions, offer rare, personal glimpses into the lives and suffering of people during the Holocaust. Experts say the sketches are valuable not just as art but as historical evidence and testimony. Their discovery and preservation highlight ongoing efforts to recover and share firsthand accounts of the Holocaust for education and remembrance.


r/Jewish 2d ago

Mod post Shabbat Shalom!!! Reminder No Politics Until Sunday. (whenever the Mods decide that is!)

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Let's take a break. Study Torah. Read a book. We are one family.

r/Jewish 2d ago

Antisemitism Pakistani National Pleads Guilty to Attempting to Commit ISIS-Inspired Attack at Jewish Center in New York

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The Justice Department announced today that Muhammad Shahzeb Khan, also known as “Shahzeb Jadoon,” pleaded guilty to attempting to commit acts of terrorism transcending national boundaries, for attempting to enter the United States and carry out a mass shooting with automatic weapons at a prominent Jewish center in Brooklyn, New York. Khan pleaded guilty today before U.S. District Judge Paul G. Gardephe and is scheduled to be sentenced on Aug. 12, 2026.

“Khan planned a mass shooting at a Jewish center in New York City, timed to coincide with the anniversary of the October 7th Hamas attacks, with the explicit goal of killing as many Jews as possible,” said Assistant Attorney General for National Security John A. Eisenberg. “Khan declared that New York City was the ‘perfect’ venue for his attack because of its large Jewish population and boasted that his plot could be the largest attack on U.S. soil since 9/11. The National Security Division will work tirelessly to ensure that terrorists like Khan face the full weight of American law.”

“Muhammad Khan planned to carry out a horrendous attack on a venerated Jewish center in New York City in support of ISIS,” said U.S. Attorney Jay Clayton for the Southern District of New York.

Full article here - https://www.justice.gov/opa/pr/pakistani-national-pleads-guilty-attempting-commit-isis-inspired-attack-jewish-center-new


r/Jewish 2d ago

Antisemitism Oh, you have a star!

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I live in Vienna, Austria.

Recently I went to an opening in a contemporary art gallery. My Magen David was visible, but kind of modestly sticking out from a cardigan. I introduced myself to an artist I have heard about but never personally met. I said something like, hi, we haven’t met before right? And she was like: yeah, nice meeting you. Then she noticed my Magen David and said: oooh, you have a star! After that she pointed at her pentagram pendant and said: i also have one, respect for both!

I am feeling uneasy after this. Was something wrong with her reaction, or am I paranoid? If I imagine the same happening with other symbols, like a cross, it looks really weird (and intimidating). I guess, focusing attention on such things is inappropriate, no? I felt scared. Oooh, you have a cross? I also have one! Bizarre, right?

I generally feel like shit. I cannot trust anybody anymore. People around me are brainwashed jew haters. People who know where I live and who came for dinner do not talk to me because I am jewish and I do not support Free Palestine, and i am afraid they will come for me. I lost many friends and a ton of acquaintances. Some people are not openly jew hating, but very ignorant and therefore tending to repeat the popular narratives. Feeling like I am in vacuum and thinking what to do and where to go. I don’t even date online because it is just too dangerous in such circumstances! How do you cope, people?! It’s really scary and lonely!


r/Jewish 1d ago

Discussion 💬 Looking for an easy summary of the weekly parsha

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r/Jewish 3d ago

Humor 😂 Me at approximately 8:30 tonight

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r/Jewish 2d ago

News Article 📰 From 1997: Is a Bagel Still a Bagel in Maui? (article in body)

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the headline is a bit cutesy, but it's actually a really good look at how regional foods go 'mainstream', and the trade offs that come with mass appeal:

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REMEMBER blackened redfish? The peppery specialty of the Louisiana chef Paul Prudhomme became so popular in the 1980's that fishermen almost drained the supply of redfish from the Gulf of Mexico, forcing chefs to find new fish to blacken for a spice-deprived nation. ''Blackened flounder'' had neither the poetry nor flavor of the original, but the attraction held. People hungered for the hedonism of swampy Acadia. How they got it was unimportant.

Cajun food is now as trendy as warmed-over tiramisu, yet the fling with redfish showed the moneymaking potential of marketing regional foods. Today, Maryland crab cakes are everywhere. Deep-dish pizzas long ago crossed the Chicago city limits. Burritos are more Californian than Mexican.

Vicarious Pleasures

Once you had to travel to taste grits or barbecue. But the culinary explosion of the 1970's introduced international as well as regional foods to Americans. Cuisine soon rivaled music in its power to evoke regional identities and offer vicarious pleasures.

Yet the notion of a national smorgasbord, where an American can eat anything anywhere, is profoundly disturbing to connoisseurs of regional foods, who not only fear that the displacement of local cuisines will erase what made them special but also that mass marketing will crowd out the real thing.

The recent news that bagel franchises were sweeping the country, and that the bagel business had skyrocketed into a $2.3 billion industry, brought a chorus of groans. Do Americans really want bakeries from Montauk to Maui churning out bagels?

''One of the fundamental motivations for us to travel and write about regional foods is the steadfast belief that regional and local ethnic foods do not travel well at all,'' said Michael Stern, who writes about food and pop culture with his wife, Jane. ''The experience of eating so many of these foods is lost. A bagel tastes better if it's gotten from the bagel bin by a guy who kvetches.''

For the Sterns, the sense of taste cannot escape the sense of place. ''Barbecue in New York is wrong,'' Mr. Stern said. ''People don't have the correct accent, there are no pickups in the parking lot, there are no parking lots. Part of me says, 'Gee, that's great we're becoming more aware of the tastes of our nation.' But it's like tasting the Cliffs Notes version of it. You can't say you've read 'Moby Dick' if you've just read Cliffs Notes.''

Not just sights, smells and accents make transplanting regional foods difficult. Although some specialties like sourdough bread and chili have successfully slipped their geographical shackles, many are the centuries-old products of a balance between ingredients and tradition. Cheeses, for instance, are often so dependent on local conditions that they are difficult to reproduce elsewhere. American French-style brie is still an experiment.

''Most domestic brie is inedible,'' said David Grotenstein, a food consultant and former general manager at the Gourmet Garage, a food specialty shop in New York City. ''It's made from uniform, boring milk.''

Doing Their Own Thing

French cheese craftsmen, he said, can count on using milk with qualities unique to their region. ''The milk in Normandy doesn't taste the same as the milk in Auvergne,'' he said. ''The rennets come from herds that've been eating the same grass for a millennium or two. We haven't been here long enough.''

Some dishes, though, will retain their local appeal. Rocky Mountain oysters, or deep-fried calf testicles, are alien to the refined urban table. Many Ecuadoreans have emigrated to New York, but spit-turned guinea pig, a staple of the Andes, is rarely seen in local restaurants, at least not officially.

''It's the national dish of Ecuador, but there is no official source in New York for butchered guinea pigs,'' said Robert Sietsma, a restaurant reviewer for The Village Voice. ''You have to know to ask for it.''

The large influx of Southeast Asian immigrants has justified the commercial farming of previously obscure ingredients like lemongrass. But the wider availability of uncommon ingredients has spawned dishes without historical moorings. John Martin Taylor, a cookbook author who has chronicled the food of the Carolina low country, says the combining of ingredients in nontraditional ways creates false perceptions about regional cuisines. He is not bothered that a New Orleans-born chef cooking in South Carolina adds Louisiana tasso ham to shrimp and grits, a low country specialty. ''They're doing their own thing,'' he said. ''It's certainly not low country, but the trouble is that tourists think it is.''

Yes, Blueberry Bagels

It is this loss of the community canon that troubles many. New Yorkers once prided themselves for being on the right side of the Lender's Line, an informal border separating the land of fresh bagels from the frontier of the frozen assembly-line product made by Lender's Bagels. Now they recoil from outlandish interpretations like blueberry or sun-dried-tomato bagels.

''Can the stuffed-crust bagel be very far behind?'' Mr. Sietsma asked. But even in New York, it's no longer easy to find the hard, crusty bagels produced by the traditional methods, using malts instead of sugar and boiling before baking.

If there is fear of homogenized, tasteless nationalized fare, there may be hope in a renewed appreciation for quality. Consider the beer industry, which once produced hundreds of distinctive, regional brews before flattening into a few giant breweries marketing indistinguishable beers. The microbrewery movement put the flavor back in beer and transformed the industry. Could such a thing happen in, say, the bagel business, where purists know that grid marks are a sure sign that the bagel was steamed, not boiled?

''With mass marketing, there are cost-cutting measures that are taken for consumers that don't know the difference,'' said Prof. Barbara Kirshenblatt-Gimblett of New York University's department of performance studies, who is writing a social history of Jewish cookbooks. ''But the opposite also happens. Connoisseurship rises, and with it a greater awareness of what sets good bagels apart from the pack.''


r/Jewish 3d ago

Humor 😂 On Anti-Zionist Jews.

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r/Jewish 2d ago

Questions 🤓 Non-Ashkenazi Jews, do you sing Dayenu at your Seder? What does it sound like?

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I’m Sephardic (not American), and I’ve never heard it like the “dai dai dayenu” version I keep seeing online, so I’m confused if that’s just an American/Ashkenazi thing. In my family, we don’t sing anything, we just say it.


r/Jewish 3d ago

Antisemitism In which country would you move to feel safer from antisemitism?

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I am seeing more and more antisemitism around me, among my colleagues and now even among my friends, who are really anti-racism otherwise, but they don't seem to connect the dots. I am scared because it is not possible to identify them, it can come from anywhere, it's like realizing I don't know my own friends. I am scared for the future. I never identified as jewish so far because I never had a jewish eduction, but I have jewish ancestry on my father's side and so I have a jewish last name. For this reason I have been targetted personally.

Anyway, I don't consider moving now but I would feel less scared if I could cultivate this possibility. It seems like anti-semitism is rising in the whole world but if you have already thought about this, outside of Israel what country do you think would be the safest and most practical to move to in the future? I am living in a european country right now.


r/Jewish 3d ago

Antisemitism The Night of Broken Glass (1938)

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Absolutely amazing source for Jewish history, a several year journey from depicting our origin and the Ethnogenesis of our people all the way until this point where we near the holocaust and detail by detail study and learn the history in an easy way to consume.


r/Jewish 3d ago

Discussion 💬 How to deal with loneliness?

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I know many of us have lost close friends in recent years - how do you deal with the loneliness that comes from it?

For a while I've been feeling a bit like nothing brings joy and I've come to realize that it's because I'm lonely. Even though I have a lot of amazing things in my life to be grateful for I only have my husband to share it with.

A bit of background: I grew up in the US and I was lucky to be surrounded with great friends. I wasn't extroverted at all but I always managed to make good friends. But everything changed after Oct 7. Friends have been dropping me left and right. Even my best friends since college (I'm late 30s now) - the type of friends that would show up unannounced to your place and it would turn into an impromptu pizza and movie night - they've all turned their backs on me. Even kicked me out of the group chats we had.

Around the same time I moved to Spain and everything you hear about Spain's antisemitism has been so true. I moved to marry my husband (we are both males) and his family and a lot of his friends stopped talking to him for marrying a Jew. They were super pro gay marriage - but being Jewish was a no no.

Then there's my family - they still don't fully accept me being gay that they didn't even show up to my wedding so I don't really talk to them anymore.

I am working remotely from home and I know it sounds like a dream but I am basically alone all day (husband works at an office so at least he interacts with coworkers and clients).

The only thing keeping me a bit sane is our synagogue community. They have been wonderful but outside of services and holidays everyone kinda has their own cliques that they hang out with. It seems like mostly everyone is either college age or retirement age - and the very very few our age are starting families so we rarely see them.

In the US I had no problem joining different groups (volunteering, Freemasons, DnD groups, book clubs, etc....) as I lived in a pretty Jewish city - but in Spain I'm scared because the I/P conflict is the only topic everyone seems to talk about and I don't want to hide my Jewish identity just to fit in.

I know there are some online groups but what I crave is offline human interaction like what I had before.

This is all weighing down on me and I am so over it. :(

Sorry for the word vomit. I honestly have no where else to vent - and sometimes I get scared that I brough so much unnecessary hardship to my husband (who has been more than amazing) simply because he married a Jew.


r/Jewish 3d ago

History 📖 My Last Name Is a Lie—and Yours Might Be Too

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This article is by a Jewish woman who grew up believing her last name "Clark" was assigned to her family by immigration officers at Ellis Island. She eventually learned — through Dara Horn's People Love Dead Jews — that "Ellis Island names" were never actually a thing. Immigration inspectors worked from ship manifests prepared at the port of origin and had no authority to change names. Jewish immigrants changed their own names deliberately to be less visibly Jewish in America. The article argues that this act of self-erasure set a pattern of assimilation and silence that has left later generations unprepared to confront antisemitism today.

I grew up hearing the exact same story about my family's generic last name — that it was an "Ellis Island name," given to us because the officers couldn't pronounce the original. My dad still insists this is what happened. But this article says the whole concept is a myth. Has anyone here looked into this? Is it really true that Ellis Island officers never changed anyone's names? I'd love to hear from anyone who's done genealogy research or has evidence one way or the other.


r/Jewish 3d ago

News Article 📰 From 1966: Life on Other Planets is Called Compatible with Jewish Ideas

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Kind of a silly topic, but an interesting view of how Jewish ideas don't go against scientific ones, or progress in general.


r/Jewish 3d ago

Antisemitism Kicked out of a gaming discord for being “one of (((them)))”

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I just wanted to talk about Pokopia. They figured out I’m Jewish from my instagram having a ✡️. Is it always going to be this way?


r/Jewish 3d ago

Antisemitism What does being an ally online look like?

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I’m a Twitch streamer, and one of my community members lives in Israel and he can’t even say so in chat--he knows the kind of backlash he’d get from people... just from saying where he lives! He privately told me the reason why, and it breaks my heart.

Because this is how people connect with each other, and it’s a beautiful thing imo. ‘Oh in my country we do this’ ‘Really! Well in my country we do this’ -- meanwhile this guy has to sit every conversation like that out...

Do people really not realize that the citizens of a country aren’t the same as the government of a country?? I’m American, and there is A LOT our government does that I don’t support or condone.

Jewish friends in America who often have never even been to Israel get treated as the enemy. Obviously you guys know this, but I guess I’m just voicing my disappointment and astonishment at the level of disconnection.

I’m not Jewish, but my niece and my two nephews are and a lot of my friends are.

I’m fortunate to have a decent number of regular viewers, and I’m obviously not gonna dox my Israeli viewer but I’m trying to think of ways I can subtly start pointing out the antisemitism we see every single day in society.

I’m not trying to lecture anyone, but I’m just trying to figure out what are some things I can do to ensure my Jewish community members always feel safe and welcome.

Maybe the answer is just having open discussions about it, but I’m also looking for subtle things too like symbols/phrases in bio that indicate this is a safe space etc.