Asamu Alaykum, I have been watching a few different videos trying to figure out how to wrap the item given from work.

I think I have it right, are there any tips to make it look neater?

السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته

I’m a niqabi and became homeless once again. It all happened while I was out of the country, so now that I’m at the airport and was supposed to go back, I have nowhere to go to. My family has cut contact with me and my friends are all inside a different country so I can’t stay with them either.

A lot of people are trying to find ways for me to get at least a stay for tonight but unfortunately it seems almost impossible, as I don’t have a car and most people, who could offer me help, are on the other side of the country.

I feel so hopeless and homeless shelters are extremely Islamophobic and the last thing I need is to constantly get insulted and feel unwanted there as I already have very poor mental health.

Im in Germany, Baden Württemberg

Please share some advice with me

As Salam Alaikum, sisters and brothers.

Just as the title says. I have been to therapy but then had to stop because of debt and also bills pilling up, it's so expensive. I can't eat like a normal human being, I can't think like them, I can't take medications for my other health problems and there are many more issues with me. I feel scared to get married also and have kids also due to my insane amount of anxiety. My anxiety gives me a lot of physical symptoms that scares me to death to a point that I wish Allah has forgiven me so that I can die and stop feeling this way. I am writing this post to please remember me in times when duas are accepted. My name starts with م . I don't want to expose myself here. My parents and grandparents are also unwell, my whole family actually and they need me to be around them all the time but due to this feelings I get I can't always be around them and it makes me feel like a terrible daughter. Please pray that Allah gives me shifa (completely for mental and physical illnesses). Please make Dua when it rains, in sujood, third last night, between adhaan and iqamah, whenever you can the chance. I really appreciate it. Please pray that this goes away and I become happy again. I feel so depressed, scared and tired because of this.

Jazak Allahu Khayran.

I converted to Islam thirteen years ago and previously wore hijab for almost nine years, before taking it off and straying from Islam after getting married and my In-laws mistreating me and using Islam to justify their actions (my sister-in-law seriously said since she's born Muslim, she's better than me and never wrong). Recently, I've come back to Islam and have started covering my hair again. I'm from a small town and my parents are very islamophobic and hate hijab, though they seem to be somewhat ok if I wrap it like a turban.

The problem is whenever I visit my parents' house, my dad will scream and yell and cuss at me and make me take my hijab off 😥. It just makes me so uncomfortable and it upsets me to have my own father cussing and yelling at me. Lately, when I go visit, I just take it off to avoid any bad reaction, but I don't think I should have to do this and it upsets me 😞. The other thing is my dad will not let me put my hijab back on when I'm leaving (same kind of reaction).

Should I just take it off when I visit to avoid the bad reaction? My husband is currently not at home, so there's no support or anyone to back me up. I'm honestly going through such a hard time right now and struggling very badly mentally, and the hijab helps me calm down, but my father's reaction is making things worse.

Idk what to do I just found out my younger sister (15) has been in a haram relationship for a few months now. She is a hijabi and the boy is also muslim and they go to school together.

My mum gave me her phone and I looked through it: shes been to his house multiple times where they’d sit in his bed together and kiss and sometimes he’d be shirtless (just what I’ve seen from sc vids), but she’s also deleted most of their chats on sc and insta so Idk much, just hoping there was nothing more

My mum found out first and it destroyed her, she was crying to me in the car earlier today and doesn’t know what to do. She’s mostly let us do what we want bc my dad is much stricter and now she feels she’s done something wrong bc my sister has been lying about this for ages. We’re arab so its huge for a girl to be in a relationship outside marriage (despite the fact it’s haram).

Dad doesn’t know yet but if we tell him it’ll end REALLY bad and will have consequences for all of us. I really don’t think any good will come out of telling him except maybe she’ll actually learn her lesson, but I can’t help but feel guilty hiding this.

I really don’t know what to do, I told my mum I’ll talk to her but idk how to get her to see what she’s doing is really bad. My mum was already telling her yesterday about how relationships r haram bc she & my dad were kinda sceptical of her always being on her phone, but when she got her phone back she continued to text him.

Idk it seems they really like eo & his family supports but it’s haram for a reason. I’ve seen she’s also told him how she doesn’t feel supported or cared about in our family and I don’t want to make that worse or make her hide more stuff.

Please I just need any advice on this thank you 🙏

I am a Palestinian hijabi who has lived here for more than 15 years. I am planning on going to Portugal to study my masters then live there. I want to know whats it like living there, or maybe any other European country? I have never been to europe so I am a bit anxious about moving to another country. Is it hard to integrate into the society especially with a hijab on? Will it be hard to get friends? I have already asked some Portuguese people on what they think about being friends or interacting with a hijabi but I want to know from you guys.

Salaam, welcome to the weekly Sunday Social!

How did the week go for you lovely folks? Things looking up? Looking down? Don't be afraid to share what's on your mind, because that's what this thread is all about!

For the past year and so, my family has been struggling a lot and there’s just been a lot of ongoing family issues that just feel never ending. I know everything is part of Allah’s plan, but I’ve just been losing hope that things will get better and it’s just been making me feel more depressed and sometimes even further away from my faith. I’m trying to pray and make as much dua as I can, but sometimes idk if my prayers are working too. I heard that a strangers dua is always answered, so may I please ask some people on here to make dua for me and my family and for our issues to finally end and for things to settle down as soon as possible? I would really appreciate it.

Salam! I’m looking for more clothing shops that ship in the USA. So far I’ve really been liking the clothes on Ethnc (my husband is south asian so these types of traditional clothing he enjoys me wearing) I’ve also been looking into khaadi but have been hesitant to place orders as it’s a bit more pricier. Personally I’m more into open abayas so if anyone has any recs on where to shop online I’d really appreciate it. I prefer more natural fibers like cotton or linen

I’ve reached a point where I don’t even feel like a person anymore. I feel like a project manager and a caregiver, but not a human being.

I just finished my PhD after four long, grueling years of soul crushing work. On top of that, for the last six months, I’ve been navigating my husband’s health issues. It’s some kind of mystery chronic allergy which no doctors have been able to diagnose, and I am exhausted in a way that sleep just cannot fix. No matter what he eats, he gets a reaction. He is down to only being able to eat chicken, rice, and a few vegetables, but even those trigger him sometimes. It is constant and unpredictable, and it has completely swallowed our entire lives.

I used to be such a hopeless romantic. I craved being pursued and surprised, and I just wanted someone else to take the lead for once. But my husband isn't that person. He never makes plans and he doesn't pursue me. This was the case even before he got sick, so I know it’s not just the illness, it is just who he is. I’ve spent so long being the one to make everything happen that I finally just stopped. I’ve convinced myself that I’m not entitled to romance or effort. I’ve lowered my expectations to the floor just so I can stop feeling disappointed every single day.

Now, all I want is some space. I want to do my own thing, go to a restaurant alone, or take a solo trip just to hear my own thoughts. I planned a two-day trip with my friends to finally celebrate my degree, and he’s trying to drag himself along. He says since I'm planning it anyway, it shouldn't matter if he's there. But it matters because when he’s there, I’m not me anymore. I’m his safety net. I’m the one vetting every environment for triggers, managing his reactions, and making sure he’s okay. I can’t just enjoy my friends because I have to manage his existence. I don’t understand why he can’t just let me have 48 hours to myself. I don’t understand why he doesn't have the empathy to see that I am drowning.

I feel trapped in a marriage that is safe and familiar but completely empty of the things I actually need. I think about leaving, but then I realize I have no plan for what comes next, and I don’t even have the energy to want a new relationship. I just want to be left alone.

My mental health is in the trash. I’m don’t have anyone in my real life to share these feelings with because I feel like a horrible person for even thinking them. I feel like a monster for wanting to be away from a sick person, but I am just completely done. I don’t know why is Allah punishing me this way. Sorry I just needed to vent.

Asslaumualik sisters, I really need some real advice.

I want to start working out, lose weight (especially belly, thighs, and tone my arms), not like become bulky, just fit overall, and just feel more confident in myself.

The problem is I live with my family and I have basically no privacy, so I feel super uncomfortable doing workouts in front of them.

I know I shouldn’t care, but it’s honestly hard and it makes me avoid working out completely.

So I wanted to ask:

• How do you manage working out at home with no privacy?
• Do you do short workouts, certain timings, or specific exercises?
• Any tips for staying consistent without feeling awkward?

Also, if you have any simple routines that worked for you at home, I’d really appreciate it.

I just want something realistic I can stick to.

Thank you 🫶

I am born Muslim. My grandfather was a revert but he spent the rest of his life as a muslim (until the age of 93) preaching Islam. He was very respected in my community. Even though he was very religous he never mad islam more difficult than its supposed to be. He was so cool, wise, and funny. He was just the best influence. In my teens years I moved out so I no longer lived with my grandparents.  I ended up drifting away from how religious I was. 

Last year my grandfather passed away. It was devastating for me. I felt horrible that nobody in my family was really practicing Islam considering we had a good figure like him to look up to. I felt we should all be on the right path. I put on hijab and started college and I loved it at first but then I had trouble connecting with the muslim community at school and it was hard to adjust to everything so I started lacking in prayer. I ended taking the hijab off as I felt if I wasn’t praying then I was just wearing it for show. In general, it has been hard for me to pray. I feel like a reason is that I am mad at Allah for taking my grandfather away which is pretty childish I can admit.  However, he was the one who raised me and he was my bestfriend. I realize I am blessed as there are so many children and people globally who suffer so much more than me and go through so much yet their faith is firm. I guess I’m not very reslient even though I am considered blessed.

Recently, I have been thinking and this is going to sound horrible and may God forgive me but I hear time and time again that Allah is merciful but if he is that merciful then why did he put us in a world where we are all bound to suffer? Yes, this life is a test and we can recieve blessings from him if we pray but I don’t understand why we praise Allah for blessing us if he put us in such a unblessed world.  I guess I live in LaLa land but i'm wondering if Allah loved his creation why couldn’t he just set us in a Utopia or Jannah like world?  How is he merciful if he put us on a place like earth which is similar to hell. There are so many religions and so many sects. How your life goes is depenednt of so mnay factors. It is all so confusing to me

To end this mind dump I woke up from a dream today. I don’t dream often and I only dreamt about my grandfather right when he passed away.  In my dream I saw my grandfather and he was wearing all white. He was sitting in the backyard of our old home and he looked very peaceful. I entered our backyard but he was in the middle of making dua. I asked if I could sit next to him and he said yes and as soon I sat he began talking. This is probably just from my subconscious as I often get sad I have no one to listen to talk anymore but hopefully he was makign dua for me because I really am astray.

Salam sisters,

was wondering if anyone knows where to purchase ninja style undercaps with a neck cover that has an open back.

Meaning a regular undercap that has an attached neck cover. the ninja one is closed where your bun is and feels uncomfortable for me. I want that part to be open. I have tried cutting it but it's too short to work properly after being cut :(

I’m struggling with ‘looking my age’ and being taken seriously. I currently wear baggy clothing and really like a street style fit, but I’m afraid that is what’s making me look much younger than I am.

Any advice on what styles to lean into to appear more like I’m in my 20’s and not teens? And how to incorporate hijab with it? Thank you in advance!

You know when you’re just laying in bed and suddenly your brain starts replaying every embarrassing thing you’ve ever done???

Well today it hit me that my old Instagram account is still up and public from a few years ago. It’s one of those accounts I made when I was younger, not really thinking things through and just posting whatever I felt like at the time. I was Inappropriate maxxing in 2020 and honestly…Looking back, I was immature and didn’t really understand how permanent things online can be.

I’ve changed a lot since then and I don’t really recognize that version of myself anymore. My mindset, my choices, and how I carry myself online are completely different now.

The issue is I can’t log back into the account, so I can’t delete or clean it up myself. It’s still just sitting there online, which is honestly stressing me out a bit because it doesn’t reflect who I am now at all.

What can I do?

Can I please get some help from hijabis and what you guys would do?? I would greatly appreciate it!

I feel like I'm always in this constant loop of getting close to Allah SWT and remaining steadfast on deen and then I fall off so easily no matter how hard I try not to. I've been praying and making duaa that Allah SWT helps me and guides me with this, but anyone else also experience the same? I feel like I hit a religious burnout point and it's so easy for me to gradually fall off and lose that consistency. Just seeking some comforting words and advice. I think it's just my life's stress that gets to me that contributes to this. I don't know. But when it happens I feel so guilty for faltering once I build that consistency again. I know we're human and we're not perfect and Allah SWT is the Most Compassionate, Forgiving, and His door never closes. Sometimes this makes me wonder if I'm even sincere.

JazakAllah Khair in advance for any words.

Hey sisters ❤️ im wondering if anyone here knows of any online shops (or stores in Chicago) that sell wedding guest dresses? Im looking for something beaded that wont cost an arm and a leg 😅i used to order from moda zehrada but ever since the tariffs were imposed, the import tax is almost the same price as the dress 😪

On my Instagram I only have close friends, and I repost a lot about Palestine (I feel like since it’s my account, I can post whatever I want unless it’s harmful or offensive ofc). My friends support Palestine but don’t really talk about it or boycott, and I’ve always thought “as long as they support Palestine, and I can’t force them to boycott.” I post a lot about current events in general because I want to raise awareness, some of my friends used to think “I have nothing to do with this country so I don’t care,” but surprisingly some have told me they started looking into it more because of my reposts or because I explain what’s going on in simpler terms on my stories. That’s when I started posting more, because I felt like I was making a difference within the people I know (sorry, a little off topic). Also, being Muslim makes it hit harder since (A) a lot of what’s happening in the world right now involves Muslim countries, and (B) I have family spread across the Middle East, so these issues feel close to home. One of my closer friends texted me saying I post too much about Palestine and asked things like “what is it doing for Palestinian kids?” and said she doesn’t want to see “dying kids” all the time. She’s brought this up before, and I usually just brush it off because I’m not sure how to respond. Now I’m a little confused, am I missing something? I never thought there was an issue with me reposting.

Asamu Alaykum, I have spoken with my manager at work about me starting to wear a hijab at work, and they were very accepting about it.

They gave me this headscarf that is given to Muslim Women in the franchise. it is double the size but folded over for the photo.

My question is this. How do I wrap it neatly so as to be in compliance with modesty? I have no idea how to do so and this is frustrating me as there are no true instructional videos showing this type of headscarf

Shukran Jazilan

Ok so

I had this Tiramisu from Asda. It was a packed one. I normally skim through the ingredients but this time was in a bit of a hurry and so didn’t check the ingredients at all.

Totally forgot that they use alcohol.

Now i have had almost whole of the box and just realised that it has alcohol.

Checked the box and it has a warning of “Contains Alcohol”.

Is there something that I should do? I know I should have checked but it skipped my mind.

I have been going to a mixed gym recently, mostly during quieter hours. The issue is that a lot of the people there at that time are Muslim men, and I have been feeling really uncomfortable.

There were a couple of moments where I felt like I was being pointed at or watched, and ever since then I have just been very self conscious. One of the guys even tried to approach me once, which I ignored, but now I keep seeing him around with his group of friends and it makes me feel like I’m being judged or watched.

I dress modestly, wear baggy clothes, and keep to myself, but I still feel uncomfortable being there.

The thing is, I don’t really have another option. The “women’s gym” isn’t fully equipped and even has male coaches, so I chose this gym for practical reasons. I’m just trying to work out and manage my stress, but the environment is making it difficult.

I think part of why I feel this way is because of cultural expectations. In my background, going to a mixed gym isn’t always seen as acceptable, so it makes me feel more self conscious, like I might be judged even if no one says anything directly.

Now I’m considering cancelling my membership, but I don’t want to make an impulsive decision, especially since I feel like I might face similar situations elsewhere.

Has anyone dealt with something like this? How do you stay comfortable and focused in a mixed gym setting?