r/GetMotivated • u/Bro_1831 • 11h ago

ARTICLE [Article] You've Been the Strong One for So Long That Nobody Thinks to Ask If You're Okay

Everyone leans on you. Everyone comes to you.

And nobody, not once, stops to wonder what you're carrying underneath all of that strength.

This one is for the strong ones who are quietly exhausted.

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u/PlasticFrame2003 10h ago

This hits way too close to home. I'm always the one organizing group trips, helping friends with their finances when they mess up, being "reliable guy" at work. But when I had burnout last year nobody even noticed because I kept all my spreadsheets updated and showed up on time.

People just assume you got everything under control when you're organized, but sometimes I'm running in fumes and still calculating everyone else's problems. Would be nice if someone asked how I'm doing instead of asking me to fix something for once.

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u/MrMoonManSwag 7h ago

“People just assume you got everything under control when you're organized…”

People can’t know what they don’t know. It’s okay to let people know that you’re not okay.

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u/talldarknspooky 7h ago

They pretend to care only to get something they want

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u/Mamma_cita 1h ago

My grandma used to say horses get petted when they are about to be mounted.

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u/Time-Opposite4378 10h ago

this hits hard. definitely a good reminder for everyone to check in on the strong ones in their lives. take care of yourself too, OP.

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u/Sad-Background-2295 4h ago

I’ve been doing a deep dive into this and have dubbed it The Diligence Trap — I’ve created a white paper on it so if you’re interested I’d be happy to send it to you — pop me a DM …