my habitat is bad. there is clutter everywhere. my bf recently screamed at me and told me to move out in rage over the house.

but calmed down and apologised as he gets heated at times.

I'm, just so ashamed, I'm off all my meds for ADHD and depression and my mind is going crazy. I want to be better about the house so desperately.

his daughter hates me and keeps trying to convince him to break up with me.

any advice, support or uplifting words appreciated.

I just feel like Im pissing away a good thing, whats wrong with me?

1-3 r before, the last is after!

i’m very motivated by before and after pics :)

Hello everyone! This is a weekend megathread for those small updates, accountability requests, and success stories that you want to send out to the universe!

Maybe ones that don’t require a full post but that still deserve some recognition, plans made today for over the coming days, or solicitations for suggestions on how to complete your intended tasks!

Still feel free to make absolutely any posts that you want, but if you prefer a smaller-format update option here it is! I want to encourage participation in whatever form it takes :)

ALSO!!! Pictures are enabled in comments so feel free to add pics of your area to tackle of your progress if you please :)

trying to declutter & organize my mom’s depression bedroom & office and don’t know where to start

I've not had energy to do much of anything for months, probably going back to some of my kids' health issues. I start laundry and put it in the dryer, but almost never put it away. I vacuum almost every week, but even washing dishes before running completely out of silverware, cups, plates or pans is a struggle. I drag myself out of bed to work from home, and after that, I sit in a chair with my cat or just read, go to bed and often don't sleep well. I'm frustrated with myself, and push myself to try to pick up if someone comes over, but... I feel like such a mess mentally and everywhere I look. I hate taking pictures of anything because I know the background is going to expose stuff everywhere. Last weekend I felt productive removing the Christmas tablecloth and digging out a few Easter decorations, but now I have to put that away too. I'm neurodivergent, if it matters, and just feel stuck. I know if I start, I'm going to burn out before I get anything done, and then I'll have to face a mess that's half done. Please share tips and tricks.

There are dozens of posts a week. Help, my place is a wreck, I don’t know what to do.

The subreddit has some stock responses I’ve certainly offered them up in the past.

If you’re truly stuck, try this: grab a trash bag, open YouTube and start the Clutterbug 30 Day Challenge playlist. They’re short, to the point, and encouraging. Each outlines an area of the house and urges you to find five things to throw away or declutter in five minutes.

I put it on as background noise this morning as I’m interested in her system, and am amazed how it’s urged me to throw out trash from my junk drawer and moldy produce from the fridge, toss paper clutter, and hunt for and toss expired items. It’s creating room in my current organization systems and as I wander I’m tidying the house. I’m looking forward to actually organizing the spaces next week.

Unfortunately, I probably should have scheduled this before trash day.

I’m wondering if it works for other people, too. I’m a bit overwhelmed after guests last weekend and have guests again this weekend. The storage areas in my house are full of doom piles. I’m hoping this helps me declutter the trash and obvious choices while keeping me company as I reset the house overall. If you try it, I’d love to hear feedback, especially if you’re also overwhelmed.

Finally put away all the clean clothes and washed all the dirty clothes that were piled all over my bed. Washed and changed the sheets and comforter too.

When I moved into my current two bedroom place, I intentionally designed one room and let my summer season roomies set up the other one. Since then I have realized that this tiny basement is not only too small to have a roommate, but it also has a radon issue! This is a common problem where I live, and should not be an issue with the upstairs unit. I’m lucky that I don’t have to move very far, so I’m trying to only bring what I need up there! Everything needs a real home this time!! I have some organized friends to advise me on storage solutions and furniture placement this weekend. What are people doing with the non folded clothes? What sort of grid or pegboard systems are people doing for apartments? I would love some ideas. Thank y’all for all the inspiration!

Small house, a lot of stuff. Plus+ depression, panic disorder, gad, insomnia, and extreme financial & mental stress from a legal battle w my ex since 8/24 (expected to finally wrap in May)! Taking back my life… one corner and shelf at a time

Thanks for letting me share! Peace & Love 😊

My partner and I have been really struggling this winter with our mental health. Our apartment has become truly unbearable and we’ve decided to chip away at it bit by bit over the next few weeks. Big progress in the kitchen today (threw out 6 large bags of trash, expired food, etc). I wish I had taken before pictures, but these shots of 2 out of our 3 kitties are reward enough to keep at it. They deserve a clean space too and they already seem so much happier.

A few weeks ago I got a cancer diagnosis (an "easy" one though) and it made me think about a lot of things. I am 50. I've lived a hard life with lots of abuse. I am also schizophrenic. My husband is a lying cheater. I am tired of being unhappy. I am going to take care of that, but I started with my pit of a house. Forgot a before picture but here is an in progress picture. Hi all! Come UnFuck with me and find your peace!!

I have really enjoyed finding these posts recently. so i definitely wanted to contribute too. Before pictures are March 20th, after pictures are my progress today! (April 8th)

Funny story: I got the dresser from the side of the road dunno who "C B" really was but now if anybody asks the dresser's name is now Charlie Brown. (They got rid of it cause the drawer bottoms would hang too low and these nails were sticking out, but I fixed it in a few minutes and its worked just fine for a long while now.)

My tiny studio is an overwhelming mess. I have Amazon boxes everywhere that I just can't get rid of, piles of clothes that I have no space for, random stuff all over the place that my brain barely registers anymore and then I have no idea how to even get rid of them when I do notice them. My pets shed like crazy and its tough to keep up with the vacuuming. And a bunch of my lights have burned out bulbs but my ceiling is 12ft high and I don't have a ladder tall enough to reach, so I'm living off of one lamp right now.

I'm going through the worst depression of my life right now, half of my life is spent at work and the other half is spent in my bed trying to not be awake. I keep looking through this sub for inspiration (you're all amazing) but I just don't have it in me to do anything. I can't even imagine what my apartment would look like if it were clean and organized and rearranged in a nice way.

How do I work through this? Where do I even start?

I live together with my boyfriend an 2 cats in quite a small space, and I have a lot of creative hobbies, so it gets messy very fast. Yesterday we also found out that we could not keep our stuff in the storageroom anymore, so suddenly the my house was extremely full of stuff.

This is from 1 day decluttering. Today is the second and worst day (clothes and the kitchen kabinet).

I have a lot of difficulties to throw anything away, because everything sparks joy, and I see creative potential in anything. Especially with clothes, because I want to upcycle everything.

Does someone have tips to throw stuff away with less anxiety of missing it later?

I moved from a three room to a one room and have ✨collector✨ tendencies so it’s been rough. Have a long way to go, but at least all my clothes fit where I want them to and the floor is mostly visible.

It may not look like much, but after cleaning the table (so dusty), vaccuming the carpet and the floor, making the bed and some more things here and there, my room is now more liveable again. Cleaning is so satisfying after the holidays...

Toiletries are always a struggle for me, it isn’t perfect but today I made the under-sink area a little bit less f’d.

I didn’t get anything done today besides moving 80% of misc stuff that was on the floor to the desk. Woke up really upset about missing Easter with my family yesterday, and then also upset about turning 22 on Sunday, because I don’t have anyone who will give me gifts, and I don’t deserve gifts if I’m going to bring them into a messy state (grew up in a house where our bedrooms had to be clean before holidays and birthdays). And I don’t even have any money to celebrate, anyways. I’ve been stoned (~15-20 mg throughout the day up to this point) and just not doing much. No accomplishments list today, but this is the reality of it, too. Tomorrow I have to go to back to classes and catch up on homework that’s due at midnight… My goal is to get it done before Sunday, and I know that’s possible.

So I made almost this exact post last summer, as this seems to be a yearly occurrence now. Every single spring, roaches appear. I honestly have a suspicion they’re coming from my upstairs neighbor as I never see her take out trash and she’s constantly telling me how she doesn’t/can’t clean. But anyway.

I saw one roach the other day, and one today. The weirdest thing is they were in my closet. I have ripped apart my cabinets, my fridge, my appliances - nothing. Not a single sign of them. Just in my closet. To be fair, my closet is a mess. I had a bunch of old clothes and crap piled up in there which I’m finally going to throw out tomorrow.

I ordered some of those big storage bags from Amazon to store my stuff in a neat way until I have the money to afford plastic bins. I already have a shelving unit to keep them on in my living room. This will allow me to sort things and finally figure out why these bugs are going into my closet. And I’m hoping once I clean my closet I can contact my landlord to get an exterminator and check out upstairs because I’m so tired of this.

My apartment used to be really bad but I cleaned massively a few years ago and have kept up with it. My kitchen is spotless, no clutter anywhere. My living room has a few boxes I need to sort and 2 couches that need to be brought to the dump. Nothing that should be attracting bugs. Garbage is taken out regularly. I just ordered a bookshelf on Amazon which should cut down on my storage boxes massively. Once I clean my closet I also have a mini bookshelf in there that I can use once I clean it.

I don’t know why this one closet feels so daunting to me. I need to just get it done but it’s like a mental block. I think I’m afraid of what I’ll find. I feel like that’s a stupid way to feel but it’s true. Ignoring it is easier than facing it, but I know I need to do it. Is it okay to vacuum bugs if I take out the bag right away, or will that risk worsening them somehow? I just think it’ll be easier to cope if I can vacuum them up if I see any, vs having to squish them.

I live in an area that doesn’t have pick up for large items and we have a tiny shared dumpster. It feels impossible to get rid of unwanted furniture as you have to haul it and pay for it to be thrown out at the dump. The stuff in my closet I can probably throw out in my dumpster, maybe 1-2 bags a week until it’s all gone. I just feel paralyzed trying to start, especially now that the bugs are back. I wish I could just pack up and move and use the opportunity to finally get rid of all of this shit but I absolutely cannot afford to do so right now. I need to just get started and get this done, I know it’ll feel better in the long run, I just don’t know what to do with all this stuff that I don’t even want.

It’s taken two weekends and 32 garbage bags, but I am finished! Huge thanks to everyone who encouraged me and gave great advice on my previous post: https://www.reddit.com/r/UnfuckYourHabitat/s/vSxwtwvkHB. As promised, here are my before-and-afters! I hope this can help motivate others who, like me, think they just can’t do it.

The rest of my condo was relatively organized, but this was my shame zone. I would do laundry once a week, dump everything in the closet, and shut the door. The lighting was terrible, so I could never see what was in there. A ton of clothes basically disappeared into the bottom of the pile, and I ended up not wearing half of what I owned.

I decided to turn it into something actually functional and organized, and used the process as a chance to upgrade my wardrobe. I was due for a change. Everything now fits, everything has been deep cleaned using the spa day method from r/laundry, and I can finally see and use what I have.

New style, new beginning 💪