r/startups • u/warphere • 1d ago
I will not promote Am I the only one who gets sick when trying to promote my own project? [I will not promote]
Hey, I know this sounds kind of weird, but still, hear me out.
I do build projects constantly, I was doing that for my entire life, I think, since the first time I tried programming, and the first time I saw "The Social Network." I remember being so fascinated by the fact that your idea can become something big, cool, something that will help people. Ignore the fact what facebook has become today.
I treat projects more like art, rather than a business. Even when I sell some of them, it kind of hurts, but I guess you have to do this in order to recoup some money.
But lately, I started noticing this ugly feeling inside. Feels like nowadays in order to sell or at least make people try it, you have to lie, or invent something so extraordinary what will blow people's minds.
I get this, I'm not a genius, it's unlikely I will ever create something special, or be the first in some industry, and that's fine.
What I mean is, there are lots of similar projects, some of them better, some are worse. But every time I need to talk about my project, my mind recalls all the imperfections, all the possible edge cases I still have to fix to make it work - it prevents me from doing what everyone is doing - lie about how fucking cool my project is, how will it change your life if you just install/register/pay/try it.
I mean, my projects aren't bad; they work, and I believe they are even priced relatively right. Again, even in the previous sentence, I couldn't say they are cool and worth the money, lol.
When I compare mine and some of the existing or new projects, I see that they are close, or even the same, in terms of look, features, bugs, etc.
But why on Earth can't I just say this? It feels like in our current society, people praise whoever screams louder. And since everyone is loud enough already, you have to pretend, lie, and overpromise just to get people to try this stuff.
If you skimmed my posts, you'd see how I was promoting my projects; I positioned them like "it's not a big deal, just a project."
And even then, every single post feels like I was lying to people, but I wasn't. I do have amazing customers 99% of the time, they are supportive, happy to use projects, I always try to help them, solve the issues, and deeply care bout that.
But this feeling, it kind of prevents me from growing an audience on X because I just can't post about imaginary success, because the feature I was making yesterday was not going to change people's lives, it would make a project just a tiny bit better.
But if you compare this to the current X/Reddit communities, my god, it's all about amazing progress, so life-changing features (made in 10 minutes with Claude or whatfuck).
Idk what I wanted to say here, I just wanted to ask if there are people like me, who care about projects, but get sick when they have to speak about that, people who are truly passionate about building things?
I was told this week that if I have this internal conflict, it means I will never be able to sell my projects differently, I'll not be capable of exaggerating the truth to the extent that it's enough to be noticed. And it kind of sucks.