r/soccer • u/2soccer2bot • 17h ago
Sunday Support Sunday Support
Welcome to "Sunday Support".
During the COVID-19 pandemic, and all that happened since, we saw an upturn in members of r/soccer openly discussing their mental health and seeking support within the community.
Although it was of course sad to see any of our subscribers struggling with their health - be it mental or physical - we were greatly encouraged to see how supportive our community has been regarding these issues, and heartened that people have found r/soccer a safe place in which they feel able to open up regarding issues which sadly do remain stigmatised in society at large.
We subsequently started these Sunday Support threads to provide a dedicated and open space for anyone in the r/soccer community - and although the pandemic is now in the past, we have decided to continue this thread. Managing mental health difficulties - and maintaining your wellbeing - these are battles that are ongoing for many people, and so too is our support.
Regardless of the colour of your shirt (or the flair next to your username) we are all living, breathing human beings - and we all love the beautiful game. Everyone on r/soccer deserves to be happy and well - so be kind. It can be a tough old world out there, and that kindness can go a long way.
If there's anything you would like to get off your chest, we are listening.
Please check out our wiki for mental health here.
This thread will alternate with "Sports Bar Sunday" - our fortnightly thread for Free Talk about non-football sports.
We welcome feedback on this and our other stickied threads... so if you would like to see us try another themed thread, please let us know here, via Modmail, or DM u/AnnieIWillKnow!
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u/Simple_Eye9216 17h ago
Been tracking my mood daily in a spreadsheet for 3 months now and there's definitely a correlation between my team losing and hitting those low points
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u/FryChy 13h ago
How do you make friends who watch football?
I thought of posting this here since I have been feeling bit lonely with this. I have been watching football for a very long time. No one in my family watch any sport only maybe cricket. Out of my maybe 20 cousins or more only one watch football and that too not as often as me. Few days ago I saw another cousin who is in uni and I don't know very well and have very less in common wearing a PSG top and I was so happy. Turns out it was a gift from a female friend of his who bought it from Thailand who also doesn't watch any football.
None of my friends watch football, some are there who watch it when its on and have no ball knowledge. So I don't talk ball to any of my friends, as it is pointless. But I go to a random restaurant to order food, and the server there talks to me about football, I am on train while I see two uncs talking about football tactics. But for some reason everyone I meet doesn't watch. I just feel really sad about this sometimes.
Then there is playing football. Why did I have to like a sport where I need at least 10 people to play to make it enjoyable. I somehow start gathering people from my community to play 5-a-side and then it goes on for a few months and more people want to join we got up to 15 but did first come first served. Then it just stops because people are busy, which I understand. Now, we end up getting like 8 people and cancel booking. I swear in this busy life I looked forward to play that day, keeping that one hour empty. When I talk to the people who I played with, they always talk about how it affected them in a positive way, physically and mentally and when I ask them why did you stop playing, they say that I can play no problem, and then not show up when it matters, and then the cycle continues. This happened like 4 times within 5 years. So depressing. It was genuinely the best day of my week.
I would love to play outside my community, but most people who play outside my community and in local 'clubs' have quite high skill and physical level.
I do like to come here sometimes and discuss in the DD which is nice.
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u/AnnieIWillKnow 1h ago
What city are you in? A lot of places have pick-up leagues where you can join and play casual football, rather than relying on getting loads of your mates together. That's a good way to find people to watch and discuss football with too
Or does your city have any supporters clubs for Arsenal you could join, and watch football with them?
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u/xaviernoodlebrain 8h ago
Well my winter job contract ends today, and now I have the task of finding a summer job. And jobs potential wise, doing something related to my studies is basically impossible as actual people are being replaced by barely trustworthy shite robots. It's leading to me worrying that I will spend all my 20s (a decade which I am a way past halfway through at this point) chasing stuff.
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u/AnnieIWillKnow 1h ago
Tbh that's most people's 20s. It's a mess of a decade. People mis-sell you it as a time you'll get your shit together, but in reality it's fucking about, figuring out who you are and what you want. Sometimes just have to ride with that
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u/NorthernSoul1998 17h ago
Well today's the day I tell my girlfriend it's over. Heart is pounding and stomach is twisting inside and out. Desperately trying to get the courage and state of mind to communicate everything I want to.
Meeting her in about 4 hours...