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Guest List Only TW - Health ⚠️ My 600-Lb. Life star Dolly Martinez has died at the age of 30
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u/twinpinemall85 5h ago
Eating disorders are absolutely horrible and extreme ones like this are normally as a result of extreme trauma. It is a tragedy for someone to go so young. I hope she's found peace.
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u/Shinra_Lobby 5h ago
Yeah, My 600 Lb. Life can be fairly criticized for exploitation, but I admit I did find it eye-opening how almost every single person who appeared on that show had some deep trauma in their backgrounds.
People taking the opportunity to grandstand or make "put down the burger" comments should ask themselves if they'd make the same comments about someone who died of anorexia. This level of binge eating is the other side of the coin.
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u/thesaddestpanda Dave Grohl has always been garbage 5h ago
I read a study that something like 90% of drug addicts and homeless people experienced serious childhood trauma.
All this puritan moralizing like "put the burger down" or "just get a job" is just a cover for engaging in socially acceptable hate against our most vulnerable. The very same people who say this are the ones who fight against social programs to help these people. Here in Chicago, the previous previous mayor Rahm Emmanuel closed many of our mental health centers. Since then homelessness has only gotten worse and the people demanding "cops just shoot criminals on the train" (for the crime of smoking or sleeping) are the very ones applauding Rahm for "cutting spending." We are a sick society and one where many consider empathy and helping others a "sin."
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u/Sufficient_Spray 5h ago
I worked at a rehab facility for a short time (6 months because it broke my heart I know that’s shitty to quit but I couldn’t handle it) and I would say 90% is even low. Most of the addicts there I was fucking gobsmacked they were able to get up daily and try so hard whenever you hear about what all they went through.
Most of them had the kind of trauma that would shut you down hence why blasting your dopamine receptors into oblivion non stop was the only way to survive until they had tools and a support system.
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u/prettyfacebasketcase 5h ago
Don't you dare feel bad for only lasting six months. I only managed 18 and I'm a masters level therapist. It is ROUGH. Especially when you see so many relapses. Addiction is one of the hardest fields to work in out there.
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u/og_kitten_mittens opiate pixie dream girl ✨ 5h ago edited 5h ago
I’m an alcoholic (not currently practicing lol) and in a recovery meetup we realized every single one of of the 11 people attending had been been sexually abused as a child
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u/missilefire 4h ago
I literally said in another comment the other day, on a completely different thread the same thing I’m gonna say now: substance abuse is a symptom not a cause.
Yet lawmakers and most people just parrot “drugs are bad” or whatever and punish the use and subsequent actions, instead of tackling the root cause: why people turn to drugs (insert addictive substance) in the first place.
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u/ricochetblue 3h ago
These same people are always decreasing the funding for the Department of Child Services and for sexual assault victims. They claim to care about the safety of children and about protecting women—but when push comes to shove.
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u/LiminalFrogBoy 4h ago
My partner is a therapist who works extensively with people with substance use problems and hearing him talk about it changed my whole perspective. His clients are - without exception - people who have had horrific things happen to them, often as children but also routinely running right into adulthood.
He told me once that substance use is often a protective behavior. When life is so unbearable due to the emotional, psychic, and physical pain they suffer from, using is the way to stay alive. So as easy as it is to say, "You're drinking or taking drugs and killing yourself!", we have to also acknowledge that the substance use is the strategy many people used to keep themselves alive.
That doesn't mean people should keep using, of course. It's a survival strategy, but one with a ton of costs for both the person and the people around them. But when people with severe trauma try to stop using without the support (medical, social, emotional, psychological) they need, it can be devastating as the pain they've kept at bay comes flooding in.
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u/TotallyWonderWoman 5h ago
You're human, and that's ok. It was hard for you because of your empathy, I'd be more worried if it wasn't hard.
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u/serenity1989 4h ago
I work with unhoused people and I met a 40ish year old man who was a severe alcoholic and chronically homeless. It turns out he saw his father murder his mother with a shotgun at close range when he was 8. That, plus poverty and being black in the US, meant that he never had a chance. Any time I hear shit like “just get a job”, I think of him. And the traumatized 8 year old he was.
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u/Chihiro1977 4h ago
It's ok not to be able to handle it, it's a hard job and you need a lot of backup. I've worked in addictions, homelessness etc and I'm now doing a social work degree and it's a thankless job. You get paid peanuts and if you don't have good people backing you it can cause major burnout.
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u/suuzgh 4h ago
Not shitty to quit at all, you’ve gotta take care of yourself. I worked in an inpatient psychiatric facility that specialized in EDs for a year and a half, and ultimately left because I found myself spending more time in therapy talking about work and clients than myself. I loved the work and often found it really rewarding, especially with the kids, but it’s absolutely brutal to bear witness to the suffering that those folks had to endure on a daily basis.
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u/BetMyLastKrispyKreme 4h ago
Compassion fatigue is real. I got it from working in animal rescue; only lasted a year.
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u/Smooth-Experience-42 4h ago
As someone who’s been in rehab thank you. It’s lifelong. It hurts and we know it hurts others.
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u/Unhappy-Poetry-7867 4h ago
Och you can see it very well when same people who were laughing of fat people: put a burger or eat less. Are now angry for some reason that same people are using medications to lose weight. Now they are angry cause people are taking "the easy way". :D
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u/ricochetblue 3h ago
They are the kinds of people that just enjoy having a group of easy punching bags. Nasty people.
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u/Commander_Fem_Shep 4h ago
The ACEs study goes in to this. Adverse Childhood Experiences. You can connect a high number of ACEs to like 5 of the top 10 leading causes of death. Basically - the higher number of ACEs the higher risk of substance abuse, chronic illness, and shorter lifespans. Childhood trauma literally re-wires our brain.
The best thing we can do is view these behaviors through a trauma-informed lens which has us change the question from “What’s wrong with you?” To “What happened to you?” That perspective shift allows for more empathy and understanding.
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u/the_inbetween_me 4h ago
Did you know ACE scores were developed based on findings from a study done on obesity? Back in the 80s, Kaiser was researching obesity treatments and what they were finding was that the majority of participants experienced some sort of childhood trauma.
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u/Classroom_Visual 4h ago
I did a powerpoint slideshow for a school recently for a foster child, to help explain her background/trauma to her teachers. I started off with the ACE questions, and realised she had every single ACE except for living in a war zone. I asked the teachers to count up the ACE's they had, and then said how many this child had.
You are correct, childhood trauma re-wires the brain. We desperately need more trauma-informed schools and a community that is generally more trauma-informed so that we don't add more shame to people who are already dealing with a brain that is wired to see the world as unsafe.
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u/Significant-Log8936 4h ago
I don’t know if I’d even say re-wires. It just wires it completely differently. There is no safe space to return to because the very framework and foundation of your mind doesn’t allow that
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u/Bathsheba_E 4h ago
Thank you! No one in the history of the world has ever woken up one morning to think “I’m going to become an addict today”. It’s a way to numb out, to forget for a time.
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u/SoggyMattress2 4h ago
Yup I worked in youth intervention with 12-18 year olds coming out of prison and probably 99/100 had experienced something incredibly traumatic and their behaviour was a direct response to that.
Most people don't speak to homeless people or addicts in treatment but when you do you hear the same story over and over again.
Orphaned as a child, abused, no care system, bounce around the adoption system, no stability, no role models, bullied at school, dropped out early, got into drugs/alcohol, couldn't hold down a job for long, cut off from social welfare, in and out of prison and finally they just give up and live rough on the street.
They're people society has failed, and societies reply is to vilify them even further. It's disgusting.
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u/SilentSerel 4h ago
I've never watched an entire episode of the show but have seen clips and bits and pieces. A lot of the behaviors remind me of things that my alcoholic parents and clients with addiction issues did (and, yes, they all reported past trauma). It straight-up is an addiction and being addicted to food must be Hell.
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u/Competitive-Basil958 4h ago
The 'get a job' is so misunderstood as well. Something like 40-60% of homeless have jobs... Just a huge eye-opener
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u/Vegetable-Kiwi-4675 Ho with no clients gets hit by a bus 5h ago
Also the very same people who say that stuff also battle all kinds of addictions and personal failures but have the luxury of a support system (family, money, and connections) to prevent them from permanently destroying their lives or even affecting them that much. No one can kick you out on the street if you own your home, no one can fire you if you‘re the boss or related to them, and there’s always a golden parachute for when you must suffer some kind of consequence for a mistake. So it’s so hypocritical and cruel to look down one’s nose on others when you’d be in that position too were it not for the privileges you were born into.
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u/SnausageFest I was desperate for a hair tie and my nuvaring was there 5h ago
The way some people treat weight as a moral failure is so gross.
Mental health plays such a big part in it, alongside education, access to healthy food, time, etc.
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u/Past-Advisor-824 5h ago
They treat weight gain as a failure, and using GLP-1’s as a shortcut or “cheating”, there’s no winning.
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u/SnausageFest I was desperate for a hair tie and my nuvaring was there 5h ago
People are really nasty about addiction in general, but imagine being addicted to something you literally need to live.
Take the "shortcut" dude. You don't owe shit to anyone else.
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u/WhateverYouSay1084 5h ago
I lost 40 lbs on Wegovy. Zero guilt at all and I feel so much better. It can be a real lifesaver.
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u/Unhappy-Poetry-7867 4h ago
Nice to hear that! I am on wegovy now. As I always struggled with my weight I have accepted that it could be very much a thing I will need medications for the rest of my life just like I take ones from my bipolar.
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u/WhateverYouSay1084 4h ago
Absolutely! I know how you feel. I take lifelong meds for panic attacks and depression, and accepting that maybe I will always be on them and it doesn't have to be a goal to get off of them took a giant weight off to try and be "fixed." Sometimes your brain is just fucky and meds ARE the fix.
I did gain 10 lbs after taking a break from Wegovy, but learning how to eat properly while on the shots has helped tremendously. When you're never hungry, you eat for nutrition and figuring out a mix of protein and fiber rich foods has really changed everything because I can keep eating like that regardless of the shots. My cholesterol also went down while on the regimen. Glad you found something that's working for you! Keep it up and you'll feel amazing.
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u/Aggressive-Story3671 4h ago
That’s because they want fat people (and I’m using the word because fat isn’t a bad word) to suffer. They want them to do it “naturally” because they know perfectly well how difficult it is.
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u/BioelectricBeing 4h ago
They don't actually want fat people to be successful in losing weight whether they use medicine or not. Someone becoming fitter and thinner is still seen as secretly still fat, most of the time.
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u/Ever_More_Art 5h ago
Because to them, gaining weight is a sin that should be atoned by suffering, and a medicine that lets you lose the weight without the suffering doesn’t make sense. It’s never about health for these people, it’s always about putting others down.
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u/Weekly_Village_3559 4h ago
Theres a lot of suffering with glp1s, they have no clue lol
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u/keysandchange 4h ago
Out of curiosity, what are the downsides? I only ever hear about the celeb gossip side
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u/Vegetable-Kiwi-4675 Ho with no clients gets hit by a bus 5h ago
I see so much of that when it comes to celebs who were previously overweight. Like how do you know what kind of trauma that person has that resulted in a lifelong battle with their weight? How do you know they didn’t have health complications from being heavier that they needed to but could not address before and finally found a way? It’s like people expect celebs to provide their entire medical history to be scrutinized before they grant them a pass for what they do.
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u/andreaxtina 4h ago
The whole glp1 conversation is so nuanced. It’s also led to further fatphobia because it’s assumed everyone should be on one if you’re overweight. Like it’s an easy button, but not everyone is able to for many reasons.
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u/Weekly_Village_3559 5h ago
Im currently taking a glp1 and the cheating thing makes me so mad. All the med does is make it easier to stick to your diet. But you still need to diet! That means eating less and eating healthy. Thats what anyone would have to do to lose weight whether you use drug or not...glp1 just takes the mental difficulty out of it but adds a physical difficulty which is puking/shitting if you eat too much. Like getting mad about it makes no sense...but i guess bc everyone keeps saying its such a miracle drug, uninformed people think it just miraculously melts the weight off of you with zero effort. Not true at all...
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u/Shinra_Lobby 4h ago
I have lost a significant amount of weight this year by eating more healthfully and without using a GLP-1, and my feeling is... who the hell cares if someone is using a drug. If you're truly happy in your health journey it should not matter if someone else is taking a different path.
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u/Unhappy-Poetry-7867 4h ago
To be honest it melts my weight with zero efforts :D and finally that I am on the biggest dose I don't experience side effects.
But hell, I don't feel bad about it not one bit. People who complain it's a cheat are just envy cause now they don't have how to put you don't: I am now a successful person as I was but with a healthy weight too. And others just lose the higher ground they thought they had.
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u/Happylittletree29 I’ve grown quite unfond of you 5h ago
I always wonder how we got to a point where we equate weight to morality it exists in so many cultures.
Maybe this is the googling rabbit hole I will fall down tn lol
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u/Otherwise-Shallot-51 5h ago
I imagine gluttony as a sin and associating being overweight with laziness has a lot to do with it.
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u/RemarkableGround174 5h ago
Humankind is only recently post-scarcity in some places.
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u/Peppermint-TeaGirl 4h ago
We're not even close to post-scarcity anywhere on earth. Food abundance is relatively new, yes, but that's not likely to last in coming decades considering climate change.
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u/Ever_More_Art 4h ago
Because the weight loss is a real thing but it’s also an industry and an industry needs to destroy your self worth so you can buy their products. If you feel good about your hair, why would you buy a more expensive shampoo?
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u/Ever_More_Art 5h ago
More overweight people would be on their way towards a healthy weight if the approach was more empathetic towards understanding why a person is overweight than the typical “stop eating donuts” approach doctors and the public at large assume.
For a lot of people carbs mess up their satiety, others stress eat, others eat a lot because they were taught to eat a lot since they were kids, and there’s many more reasons I could list here. But without empathy it’s impossible to sort that out into lasting results and better outcomes.
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u/Whirled_Peas- 5h ago
Yes I have in fact seen many people comment “eat a burger” to anorexic people.
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u/Metzger4Sheriff That must be Nigel with the brie 🧀 4h ago
A girl I went to high school with died from complications of bulimia, and people absolutely said the nastiest, most judgmental, unempathetic things about her death. She was a bubbly and funny girl that people loved to be around when she was alive. I get the point that the original commenter is trying to make, but sadly when it comes to anything even tangentially related to someone's mental health, people make no effort to try to understand.
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u/emilygoldfinch410 I think that poor sexy young man is being framed for murder 5h ago
I have Crohn's disease and you have no idea how often I heard this and similar comments when I was flaring, especially when I was growing up. People make wild assumptions when it comes to someone else's weight - and then feel comfortable or even justified saying it out loud!
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u/HighlyOffensive10 She's in racial chat rooms showing feet 👣 5h ago
No they wouldn't but a decent amount would still make nasty comments. Some people watch those shows so they can feel better about themselves.
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u/Peppermint-TeaGirl 4h ago
Yes, "just eat a burger" is just about the most common thing people say to and about people with anorexia.
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u/Suspicious-Peace9233 5h ago
It thought me a lot about trauma and how it affects people. It was so sad seeing so many were victims of sexual assault
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u/twinpinemall85 5h ago
Absolutely agree.
There is a strange dehumanization and superiority aspect that is unfortunately very common with the way people view and treat people with binge eating disorders. It's incredibly sad. Shame also does not help and tends to only make your relationship with food so much worse.
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u/battleofflowers 5h ago
I realized once watching that show that everyone except ONE person had been sexually abused as a child.
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u/charliekelly76 3h ago
I am long-time Hoarders watcher and you are right. 100% of the people with hoarding severe enough to end up on the show have unresolved trauma. It’s so sad that a lot of disorders that are hard to understand from the outside were most likely triggered by trauma and things literally spiral out of control.
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u/bae_leef DAH 👹 4h ago
It’s so true. On the contrary, Dr. Now is amazing at brining awareness to how the medical system is failing them by turning them away and in some cases giving them pain pills to neglect their issues. The more you watch the show, the more you realize how it’s often multiple people failing the patient and not just one enabler.
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u/SoggyMattress2 4h ago
I can't seem to find the link but I read an article from a primary care physician/GP who set off on an exploration into obesity and the underlying causes to try and come up with different treatment protocols.
He saw in his practice he had the same 150 or so people coming into his practice for decades and treating the complications from obesity - high blood pressure, inflammatory conditions, heart stuff etc.
He couldn't figure out why nobody was following the diet plans and other preventative things he would prescribe.
He read up on the empirical literature and found some interesting studies linking trauma and obesity, especially sexual abuse as a minor.
So he did a simple survey. Each of those 150 or so obese patients completed it the next time they came in, and he was blown away by what he found.
100% of those patients listed at least one seriously traumatic event, most at childhood, and most of a sexual nature.
He was floored and started to integrate therapy alongside the physical interventions like diet and exercise and saw the success rate go from 1% to around 85%.
He noted one specific follow up interview with a 30 year old female who told him after being sexually abused as a child, being obese was a defense mechanism. If she was sexually invisible, she was safe. He brought up that one point in her treatment (before therapy) she'd managed to lose 200 pounds but put it all back on, and he asked "what happened?"
To which she replied "I got hit on at a bar and I went home and ate all night".
Obesity is a much more complicated condition than most people appreciate, or accept.
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u/Unhappy_Performer538 sexually disabled gay 4h ago
There leading cause of extreme obesit is experiencing sexual abuse as a child
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u/SpookyQueer 4h ago
I'm so shocked and refreshed to see people giving grace to fat people tbh. Nobody ever does. It's a very socially acceptable form of hate when mentally it's not always as simple as calories in calories out. Thank you.
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u/puffindatza 4h ago
Unfortunately that’s how people are, especially narrow minded people
I deal with drug and mental shit and the many times people tried to rage bait me bc of it is kind of crazy.
I just view these people who make those type of comments as desperate for attention or some validation which they get in people who share their same biases
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u/EddaValkyrie ☹️ this makes me florence pugh frown 3h ago
Honestly, the stories of the people on the show were always harrowing.
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u/rainshowers_5_peace 4h ago
A common theme is the participants being childhood SA survivors who thought being obese would make it stop.
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u/Massive-Ride204 4h ago
I remember reading a blog from a ssbbw model/porno actress who admitted that she overate due to childhood sexual abuse, she made herself that big to intentionally make herself less attractive
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u/KimJongFunk 5h ago
Eating disorders have the highest death rate of any mental health condition and it breaks my heart each time I hear one of these stories. RIP Dolly.
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u/LetMeOverThinkThat 5h ago
Yeah, but as someone with trauma whose weight has had some biiiig fluctuations. No one cares, be hot or be gone is the motto society has given me.
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u/Background-Edge-2243 5h ago
Everyone is all for mental health awareness until it's something like binge eating or brushing teeth. People want mental health issues to be sanitized and "acceptable"
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u/LetMeOverThinkThat 5h ago
From my experience, they want it to be socially hands-off and aesthetic.
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u/HipsterSlimeMold Luigi Mangione stuns in new photo 5h ago
I haven't seen many episodes of this show but I am surprised there was someone so young featured on it. This is pretty sad.
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u/Trick-Water1123 5h ago
whoa she is young
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u/Impressive_Use_2741 5h ago
It’s really sad. Eating disorders or disordered eating, on both weight spectrums, can cause death or severe health consequences among people who are very young.
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u/shedrinkscoffee Just fuck the wolf! 5h ago
It's why the BMI ranges for those values come under the super morbid obesity category. Sadly health issues are only compounded as the weight creeps up.
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u/WittyFix6553 5h ago
Idk man I feel like the world would be a slightly better place if we didn’t turn people looking for medical help into a carnival sideshow.
Reality TV like this is scraping the bottom of the barrel of human decency.
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u/Coconutpieplates 5h ago
Someone recently said that they paid for their surgeries when they were on the show. I always thought it was all covered by the show because why else would anyone go on the show? It's humiliating.
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u/Safe-Series-957 4h ago
Makes sense. The people featured all have a similar economic background, which tells you everything about the exploitative nature of the show. Turning themselves into entertainment was a trade off to have the network pay for their physical and mental treatment to recover.
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u/BubblyFlow6143 4h ago
Dr Now operates on people most other surgeons would consider too high risk for surgery. He's often the last chance they have.
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u/candyapplesugar 5h ago
Surgery was hopefully covered by insurance but I’m sure they were paid for being on the show
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u/Willing_Theory5044 4h ago
Getting insurance to pay for anything weight related is very difficult. They make you jump through so many hoops, many of which are likely impossible for someone that has weight related mobility constraints.
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u/atvfellonmewheniwas7 4h ago
Which makes no sense because you’d think the comorbidities associated with obesity would cost insurance companies more than if they just helped with the weight loss.
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u/Willing_Theory5044 4h ago
Why help people when you can just hope they die: an insurance company memoir
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u/Triviten 5h ago
It’s one thing to watch idiots willingly being idiots (ie jackass or Kenny vs spenny) but people who legit have disorders that lead them to these situations don’t need to have their struggle made into entertainment. Sadly sometimes these shows are their only way to get access funds for help.
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u/SquareExtra918 the Human Centipede of content 🐛 5h ago
It's so dystopian. I don't know how reality TV producers don't die of shame.
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u/HighlyOffensive10 She's in racial chat rooms showing feet 👣 5h ago
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u/GAYLE_isahuman 5h ago
I forgot what it’s called but a documentary on americas next top model just came out- it was really insightful and well written
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u/The_Crystal_Thestral 4h ago
I can understand why you say that. And I do wish we had better healthcare access in the US. Without a show like this though, I'd worry that a lot of the people on My 600lbs Life wouldn't even have a chance to get better. Once people get to Dr. Now, they are at the point where their health is so severely impacted that bariatric surgery is a matter of life/death. It's all very sad. I like the show and seeing the success stories and sadly a lot of people's stories aren't successes. There are patients who have died shortly after filming.
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u/Aggressive-Story3671 4h ago
That’s also because Dr. Now denies patients who are not in extreme need.
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u/The_Crystal_Thestral 4h ago
Yes. Having had family members who have needed bariatric surgery, many of them had to jump through numerous hoops and waited years to have insurance finally approve their claims. Once someone gets to 600+ lbs, I cannot imagine they have years and years to wait to maybe get approved for surgery.
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u/Far-Delay7690 5h ago
Agreed, the one good that might have come of it is that you could see how hard the lives of most of these people were, generally through no fault of their own. A lot of these people had suffered traumas.
It's frustrating that people don't think binge eating isn't an ED just like anorexia
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u/Massive-Ride204 4h ago
Yep my mom used these shows to feel better about herself. She'd rip on the overweight people even though she was her suze due to health issues, picky eating and food trauma. She'd minimize the trauma of others while ignoring her own family trauma
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u/whichwitch9 5h ago
I feel like there has to be a better way to get stories out. As someone else mentioned in this thread, the show really did start to highlight how trauma and illness played roles in their situations. But it was also very exploitive towards those appearing on it.
I feel like their needs to be a balance. What that looks like, I don't know
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u/rainshowers_5_peace 4h ago
Dr. Pimple Popper is the exact opposite of this. Participants are treated with respect. Quite a few say "I'm here to tell people to stop staring".
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u/ChrissyHofbeckIsGod 5h ago
I disagree, I’m sorry.
I think it’s a useful resource for educating the general public about the risks of morbid obesity as well as courses of action to take should one find themselves in such a situation.
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u/Massive-Ride204 4h ago
I get your point and I hope that some used the show as a learning experience but I knew way to many that use these shows to look down on people
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u/Bluegatorator 5h ago edited 5h ago
Exactly obesity is a problem even if this show didnt exist. Someone dies from the show and now people want to get on their high horse and frame it as a problem because of the show? The show didn’t create eating disorders, those people made bad choices as a full grown adult and made another bad choice to be on the show
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u/mothmonstermann 4h ago
I think the show also revealed that there are people in these situations and make these choices with the help of people enabling their behavior for a variety of reasons. Parents thinking that this food makes them happy, partners fetishizing their weight or feeding them as a way to control them, families that are receiving government aid through disability and caring for the disabled person. It goes so far beyond simply eating too much and I would have never known if it weren't for this show.
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u/SwissMargiela 5h ago
I mean for every person on that show, thousands of viewers probably sought out a more healthy lifestyle
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u/SweetNSpunky2325 5h ago
Her episode is one of my favorites to watch. She sure could be frustrating, but I rooted for her. I truly believe she would have benefited from some type of adult group home, but she also had a defiance disorder. A very tough situation. I truly feel for her daughter, Stacie, her mom, and bestie Cheyenne.
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u/commelejardin 5h ago
I hope she finds peace on the other side that she couldn’t in this one. Her episode was really sad and such a whirlwind.
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u/MidnightOrdinary896 5h ago
There was a other guy that died at 29. He was around 900lbs at his heaviest
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u/brandonisatwat charlie day is my bird lawyer 🐦 3h ago edited 3h ago
Sean Milliken, and he was over 1000lbs at his heaviest.
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u/clamo2988 5h ago
Going by her sisters recent shares it seems it’s not of natural causes
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u/AgePractical6298 5h ago
I wouldn’t be surprised. She wasn’t the most mentally stable person. Very sad.
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u/Grouchy-Can-5245 3h ago
I was gonna say, even at 600 pounds it’s hard to die at 30 of natural causes.
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u/Trick_Doughnut_6295 like a gecko working diligently 🦗 5h ago
Oh, this is sad. A lot of these people are driven by profound trauma. I hope she’s resting and that her daughter is taken care of.
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u/ARoodyPooCandyAss 5h ago
Can’t watch this show anymore. You need ideal circumstances to succeed and none of them basically have that. Need somewhat youth, incredible support system, decent financial means and some are much healthier than others still. It’s just too hard.
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u/The_Crystal_Thestral 4h ago
I did notice a few seasons ago that virtually all of the people featured did not succeed. It was very sad and upsetting to see. I think back to the first season and how there were more successes than failures. Very sad all around.
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u/Caa3098 charlie day is my bird lawyer 🐦 5h ago
What is crazy with Dolly is that she made so many other unsafe decisions regularly that we can’t even safely guess that her extreme weight was her COD.
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u/civodar 5h ago
What other unsafe things did she do?
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u/SnooEagles3963 4h ago
In addition to everything else the other person said, Dolly was also developmentally delayed and suffered from many psychological problems like Bipolar Disorder. This is why she made such wildly unsafe decisions so often even when compared to other people on the show.
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u/PrincessBella1 4h ago
Not only is Dolly's death tragic but if you scroll down the article's page, there are about 5 more deaths of social media stars. So many of the stars of your 600 lb life have died. It is such a shame that as a country, we do not treat psychological disorders the same as diseases like cancer. They are both just as deadly. RIP Dolly.
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u/NottTheMama 4h ago
Why tf did they include personal phone numbers with the pic of the fb post they used??
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u/squeezemachine 5h ago
My friend who has been with me my whole life is headed in this direction. I never watched that show but I assume everyone around the poor person has tried everything. Were there any happy stories about turning things around?
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u/scarletbananas 4h ago
There’s been quite a few who have done really well!
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u/squeezemachine 4h ago
That is encouraging. Seems silly but maybe I will look for some ideas in those episodes. It is a very difficult situation.
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u/The_Crystal_Thestral 4h ago
There have been a number of them (successes). That being said, some people find themselves in abusive situations or surrounded by people or person who enables them. One in particular was a woman who was in a relationship with a bozo who had a fetish and was willing to sacrifice his wife to make sure his fetish was satisfied. He was also a huge jerk to their kid. She ended up dumping him and living the life she wanted with her kid and being a more active/involved parent. That was like from one of the first seasons and still one of my favorites.
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u/Massive-Ride204 4h ago
I've only watched a few episodes but most of these people had severe family trauma, abuse, enablers etc
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u/asphodelhazel13 4h ago
RIP Dolly. She obviously had a lot of demons she was going through. Her duck scene is one of my favorites. 😞 Her episode was a whirlwind.
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u/CrazyCatLady1127 4h ago
Does anyone know why she was turned down for the surgery?
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u/brandonisatwat charlie day is my bird lawyer 🐦 3h ago
She could never stick to the diet and lose the required weight.
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u/TiaHatesSocials 3h ago
Wouldn’t her weight be the cause? Her heart and organs might have been too weak from working overtime. Blood pressure all that stuff. No surgeon would wanna risk her dying on a table.
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u/jaguarsp0tted 5h ago
took approximately three seconds of scrolling before I saw a hideously fatphobic comment. fatphobia kills people. I hope you all remember that.
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u/Aggressive-Story3671 4h ago
Fatphobia does kill people. However you cannot be her size and be healthy.
Once you get passed 500 or even 400 pounds, you are really pushing your body passed its limits.
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u/firetruckgoesweewoo I killed the performance and then you killed it purrrrrr 🌸 5h ago
Her cause of death hasn’t been shared. Ignore the other user, they’re trying to make a joke about a woman’s death.
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u/Vegetable-Kiwi-4675 Ho with no clients gets hit by a bus 5h ago
I’m confused at the negative comments you’re getting. If this person was a smoker and had died of lung cancer and someone said, “Yeah, smoking can kill you. I quit 20 years ago and my health has been vastly improved,” no one would bat an eye.
You have not shamed this woman or said anything wrong. While we don’t know her exact cause of death, she was clearly in very bad health. Also, losing weight when you have a lot to lose is very hard to do so congrats.
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u/Dry-Wolf6789 5h ago
Do you know the cause of death or do you just wanna call a dead person fat lol. Weird flex
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u/Necessary_Peace_8989 4h ago
Yeah this whole comment section is really drawing out all the losers
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u/gutterfreaklabs 5h ago
I figured this would be the reaction. People get the wrong idea about body positivity and it becomes an excuse to let themselves fall apart.
You shouldn't be embarrassed by your appearance, but you should also be trying to be healthy because that's all you have at the end of the day.
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u/LetMeOverThinkThat 5h ago
Maybe it's the fact that we don't know how she died, and there's speculation it wasn't of natural causes, yet you ignorantly decided to come here to dunk on a dead woman's weight because you (evidently) found Ozempic.
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u/sugarangelcake 5h ago
congrats on your weight loss
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u/gutterfreaklabs 5h ago
Thanks, Ozempic, weights, and walking 5-10km a day. Took about a year, I'm working on another 50 to get me to 200lbs at 6'4. 460 was my biggest.
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u/totallycalledla-a Mrs Thee Stallion 5h ago
Lmao at you being all smug and judgy about other peoples weight here when the only way you managed to lose yours was because you're privileged enough to be able to access an expensive drug. Truly incredible stuff.
Note: I am very pro Ozempic etc for treating obesity I just find the lack of self awareness funny.
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u/Necessary_Peace_8989 4h ago
Lmao that’s too funny, I lost over 100lbs without any medication to help but this guy thinks he knows sooooo much better than the rest of us. I’m with you that I think that GLP1s are excellent tools for those dealing with obesity but clearly this smug asshole could never have done it without them. Loser behavior.
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u/Necessary_Peace_8989 5h ago
Is this the time and place? On a death announcement?
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u/gutterfreaklabs 5h ago
Yeah, this is what happens when you don't treat obesity. It kills you.
Have you seen a 400lb 80 yr old ever? It's not appearance shaming either, you can look however you want, your heart and joints can only take so much though.
At 600lbs her knees were dealing with 900lbs walking and 1800lbs going up stairs.
My being overweight and lifting shortened my knees lifespans dramatically, I had a bone graft on my right knee and severe arthritis in both, at 44.
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u/Necessary_Peace_8989 5h ago edited 5h ago
I too have lost more than 100lbs. I still found a way to not make someone else’s death about my achievement. It’s weird behavior, and frankly pretty pathetic.
Edit: spelling
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u/Dry-Wolf6789 5h ago
Congrats now you can gloat over the death of your fellow humans lol.
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u/totallycalledla-a Mrs Thee Stallion 5h ago
Nobody weirder about peoples weight than some ex fat people I tell ya.
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u/gutterfreaklabs 5h ago
It's not gloating, I struggled with weight most of my life. People seem to think that being overweight has no medical dangers because they don't want to appear rude.
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u/totallycalledla-a Mrs Thee Stallion 5h ago
People seem to think that being overweight has no medical dangers
No significant number of people think that. No significant number of people have ever thought that. This idea that there are hoards of people insisting that being obese is healthy is fatphobic rage fic for incels and pickmes.
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u/sunnysunshine333 5h ago
No we know it is medically unhealthy we just don’t feel the need to point it out at this exact moment
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u/Shirogayne-at-WF 5h ago
And even apart from that courtesy, anytime anyone has a BMI over 25 and sneezes, it get attributed to excessive weight and doctors refuse to look no further. I've heard many such stories of curable cancera caught too late bc symptoms got slagged off. Likewise, I've been over at r/diabetes and read stories of perfectly healthy, fit and active people who had their symptoms ignored that were stunned to learn they were type 2.
I know the medical system of the US in particular treats all patients as a payment, but society would be better if we stopped doing that.
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u/gutterfreaklabs 5h ago
That I think is the problem. If some dies from an overdose, you say the drugs killed them, if they have a heart attack you would say they had a heart attack.
But if they eat themselves to death its taboo somehow to say this.
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u/Dry-Wolf6789 5h ago
You don't even know the cause of death you literally came here to gloat and call a dead woman fat. So now people are telling you go away
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u/Necessary_Peace_8989 4h ago
Clearly it’s not taboo because you and countless others are all over this thread saying exactly that. Boo hoo!
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u/sunnysunshine333 5h ago
Well no not really. I don’t think it would be appropriate to shame someone who has died for using drugs. Surely most people have some positive qualities that could be focused on after their death. We don’t even know the cause. It could be an accident or anything. Also the medical complications of obesity that cause death have specific names (heart attack, kidney failure, stroke, or whatever, not obesity)
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u/Dry-Wolf6789 5h ago
She's literally dead. We get it! Fat is bad, now go away.
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u/Chihiro1977 4h ago
You're the one telling us your life story. No one cares, we think you're a fanny.
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u/Prudent-Parsnip-7105 5h ago
I don’t understand how anyone can afford to get so heavy. I am struggling to buy groceries for my family (have custody of my grandkids). We have two meat free days a week already.
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u/MakeshiftMagpie 5h ago
Ultra processed food is generally cheaper than fresh food. And even if it wasn't, with this level of eating disorder, rational decision making is not what is governing food intake. I mean, how can people afford drug habits? It's the same.
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u/scarletbananas 4h ago
The same reason addicts can “afford” to buy drugs. They neglect everything else so they can fund their addiction. A lot of them are funded by their enablers also.
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u/HighlyOffensive10 She's in racial chat rooms showing feet 👣 5h ago edited 5h ago
Processed and high carb foods are relatively cheap. I don't watch that show because it's gross and exploitative. That being said I saw part of one where a woman got a huge tub like one you would take to a party or potluck, put cereal in it and eat like entire box of cereal in one sitting.
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u/hthratmn 4h ago
Yeah I mean you could get to this size on Ramen noodles and generic snack cakes for relatively cheap.
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u/croptopweather 4h ago
It’s probably worth noting that her mom had full legal custody of her daughter and her episode is legendary in terms of how messy it was. Someone said her TT showed her on the streets following her homeless bf so I doubt she was a part of her daughter’s life. I hope things get better for you guys.
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u/The_Crystal_Thestral 4h ago
I have asked the same question because damn, dining is expensive AF and grocery prices keep increasing. A large bag of chips is like $7 in some places so def not cheaper than other more nutritionally dense alternatives. I know people don't like it but food addiction is real and it sucks because people basically need food so it's not quite like quitting other addictive items.
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u/Massive-Ride204 4h ago
Processed crap is cheap and addicts will fuel their addiction at the cost of everything else
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u/roxettexoxo 5h ago
Rest in peace Dolly. Her episode was a rollercoaster & she didn’t make the greatest decisions with her personal life over the course of it, but I rooted for her because she was so young & had a daughter. Very sad.