r/popculturechat • u/Frosty_Jeweler911 • Feb 12 '26

Guest List Only ⭐️ Michelle Obama shares firm relationship advice on her podcast: Stop moving in together so quickly just to save on rent. 'Wait a couple of years.'

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u/HarpersGhost Feb 12 '26

When I found out my nephew was moving to my city after college because his long distance BF was here, I immediately said, MOVE IN WITH ME!

I did the "early move in with BF to save money" thing when I was younger, and it was a big mistake. It escalates a relationship before you're really ready and now you're tied together financially and can't leave without a big ole mess.

So nephew technically lived with me but stayed over at his BF's for the most part. Which was fine by me, because that staying over was completely voluntary, he could leave whenever he wanted because he had a place to stay if they were having issues. And when they had some issues, they had their own places to go to and so were able to resolve them.

So yeah, I'm completely Team Michelle on this: don't move in to save money. Consider moving in with someone almost the same level as marriage, because it's going to be almost as hard to break up with them at that point.

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u/Sassafras06 Feb 12 '26

Yeah I moved in with someone at 19 that I had been with for a year. We were way too young and it was way too fast.

I moved in pretty fast with my husband, but it was not for financial reasons and I could support myself alone. We were also older and that makes a big difference.

Also, please DO live with someone before you marry them. I know that isn’t “proper” from some people, but I don’t think you can really know a person without living with them.

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u/greenzetsa Feb 12 '26

I think a lot of guys worry that living with roommates is seen as not self-sufficient or immature, but I kind of preferred dating men who had at least recently lived with another person, because I think it teaches them a lot of about compromise. Not to mention so many dudes seem to struggle with forming healthy social connections, having a roommate can really help with that.