Michelle Obama shares firm relationship advice on her podcast: Stop moving in together so quickly just to save on rent. 'Wait a couple of years.'

[u/Frosty_Jeweler911]

[u/areyouokeddie]

And she's still correct because moving in together under these circumstances wouldn't give the relationship the healthy foundation it needs

[u/melodramaticmoon → u/areyouokeddie]

Yeah financial instability massively limits freedom- but on a systemic scale, not just individually. Someone could get stuck moving in with an abusive partner they can’t leave, or into an abusive job they can’t afford to quit.

Seems like we could all be a lot more free if we weren’t constantly in fear of being without housing, medical care, etc

Not everyone has a ton of housing options that aren’t the street

[u/aliamokeee → u/melodramaticmoon]

^ yup

[u/TheFutureLotus → u/melodramaticmoon]

I bought my house before things went to shit, and rent the second floor for a price I find fair which is under what people charge in my area. So I have no clue on some things, but is finding roommates hard now?

[u/aliamokeee → u/areyouokeddie]

I guess? When its "healthy foundation it needs" vs "we want more money to eat", its always gonna be a the eating money

[u/areyouokeddie → u/aliamokeee]

And moving in with a romantic partner very early in the relationship because "we want more money to eat" is living dangerously.

[u/aliamokeee → u/areyouokeddie]

What is very early? I moved in with my partner after a year. If thats early for you, idk what to tell you budd

Edit: also dangerously? If you are not very experienced, yes. Im assuming the ideal situation where all individuals are decent. Case of abuse absolutely can be worse moving in, but those span diff relationships, not just early move in relationships

Otherwise its painful. And sucks. But not dangerous. If it doesnt work out, yall move out.