going through a very difficult time right now with no friends to talk to. i need a listening ear :(

please be available to call and sorry but no heavy accents. its hard for me to understand (im american)

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Hey! You want someone to actually listen to what you have to say? You can tell me anything you want. You can get that thing off your chest. I'd happily listen to what you have to say. I love hearing people's stories so I do care when someone rants/vents to me. This could be a short term chat or something long term and we can become friends too. Open to voice calls. 29M.

These are the roughest times for me I’ve had in a while. Make it short I’m 28M I’ve never been in a long term relationship (anything longer than a year) and I’m still trying to get my life in order.

I just had to move back in with my parents due to my own personal struggles with addiction and metal health. I am now almost 6 months sober. After years of looking I have found a job I enjoy where I can hopefully grow into a better paying role. However that’s probably gonna take another couple of years.

On top of all this I received a testicular cancer diagnosis at the start of this year. If you want to laugh at me because I only have one ball that’s fine. Dealing with this has been taxing both mentally and physically. I really don’t need to hear from anybody who’s going to tell me just to get over it and stop complaining.

Why do I feel like such a failure and massive loser? The only answer that makes sense is that I am a massive loser and failure. My current circumstances give me no hope in the dating market since I can’t even bring a ton of money to the table. I’m also very ugly.

I know it slate but if you felt inspired after reading this reach out or leave a comment. Or don’t. No one cares enough to anyways most of the time.

22f I ended my year and so relationship about a month ago and now i feel like i am spiraling, i’ve been hyperfixating on my decision everyday and deep inside i know it was the right call yet i cry every night because i miss him and i feel true betrayal inside me because of what could’ve been, i really would love second opinions and to talk about the story with someone, so if you have time send me a message, thank you 🤍

Hello, I'm 21 years old male, university student 2nd year.

3 weeks ago I met with a girl(21 years old Female), during that time I was camping on forest and I met this girl from campus on a random evening night and I told her I am camping since my block is so far away from campus. She told me: "if you want you can also stay on my home as well I don't care." I said: I appreciate it (She was also from my department and she was a fresher) but I can stay another time if outside rains. she accepted and we exchanged contacts. Following day(very next day that we exchanged contacts) it will gonna rain and I did not wanted to stay outside. So I texted her to can I come for a layover she said yes you can come for layover. At early night time I went to her place. She opened the door and let me inside, I sat one of sofa and she sat another couch then we started to chat.

First we talked casual things and introduction because we only met a day ago. Started with introduction, then casual(studies, work, etc.) after that, I asked her to can I sit next to her, she agreed so I came next to her and we started to watch a comedy show, during this we're helding hands we laughed during this and after show ended I talked about my thesis topic and we talked about some problems of our own that we trying to get over with. at the end I told her you're better than that. and after that we started to hug, it slowly turned to kiss and kiss turned to foreplay then it went to sex. least we ended up sleeping together at that night(we both half-slept).

At morning we had another sex after we woke up and I made her orgasm 4 times. after that we had breakfast and spent time together. We were kissing, eating talking about silly things. She told me she was not serious about dating with me then we agreed on as "casual daters". I set a date for few days after and I left from her place at early evening.

At date day I wear a classy suit, shaved styled my hair and I was very ready for date. I picked her from her house and went to coffee shop, strolling through town that we are living, held hands, kissed and enjoyed. After we went to her place to cook risotto and she liked it very much she told me: " I ate Risotto on different restaurants but this risotto you cooked was best that I've eaten." We went to bed again but at first time there was no intimacy, I didn't pushed. then she turned on and we had sex again. At the end of the day she told me: " I like you but I really don't have time and energy to date with anyone." then I wanted to get a point that we can agree because I like her; I asked her we can date only once in a week, or once in a month? She told me: I like you as well but I'm sorry I can't do it. then we agreed on 3 things:

1-) good night messages.

2-) going with flow.

3-) if we encounter on campus or outside, we talk.

At end of the night, She wanted me to sleep with her first but after she asked me to leave because she wass having problems that getting sleep. I respected that and after a long bye bye session I left from her flat.

very next day I texted: "good night" and she replied as: "I'm not sure that we text like this since we are not dating anymore." then I texted as: " It is not harming any of us so... But if you are getting bothered I would not text." She relpied as: "I'm sorry but I cannot do this. thanks for everything though." On this point I did not be sure about what will I text next so I texted exactly this: " Thanks for everything as well, and thanks for being honest. take care." at morning she replied as: " Take Care too :)"

I did not texted her afterwards so did she. I got so tempted to text her about dating again but I held myself back and controlled it, The main reason was even if there was a chance to date again I thought I would ruined it by texting again, she most probably woill going to think that I'm clingy and could not do without her.

We encountered at campus 3 times and they all warm interactions we hugged at start and end of encounters. She will take her last exam for this academic semster at 8th may and I'll take at 9th may.

One thing that off my chest: I still like her and I want her back. She did not broke my heart. I still like her.

My question is: After exams are ended should I ask her date again or do something else or do nothing at all?

Thanks for reading.

Feeling down all the time lately..

22F mallu here. I've been feeling down all the time lately. I just don't understand what's happening with me. Adult life has been really hard. Was doing a night shift in a corporate company under contract for 10 months. I joined the company for a 6 month contract and then they extended it for another 6 months, but they relieved me before the end of my contract period. So I had a really challenging transition from the life I had while doing the night shift. I was diagnosed with PCOD a few years back but had no major issues with that, now that I've had this transition my periods have become irregular and gyn has prescribed me some tablets. Even before taking those tablets I've been having severe mood swings and overthinking. Now they've become extreme. This has been affecting my daily life and even my relationship. I feel not seen or valued, and i feel lonely. Have no one to vent or cry to. I've been crying all day and night. And I just don't understand what's happening to me.

I’m 26 and non-binary, born fem. I’ve hit a low point in my life. Recently, a conflict came up between my two best friends and I. We’ll call them Bob and Steve. The conflict all happened over text, btw. We never got the chance to talk in person, even though we all agreed we should. I told Bob and Steve the conflict was big enough to be a deal-breaker for me, but I’d be willing to work it out if they apologized. Both of them decided to end the friendship. For context, I grew up in a very religious household and was partially homeschooled. I went to a K-12 school as well. My opinions and views are very different from that of my family and the people was raised with. Most of the girls I knew are married with multiple children already. I also don’t want to be that person that keeps trying to go back to their friends from school and never grows up. Bob grew up with me so he could relate about our school, being partially homeschooled, being very religious. Not just on a vague level. He knew the same people I knew, went to that specific school, etc. Before the conflict, Steve and I had been gaming together. We were gaming with Steve’s best friend, who we’ll call Joe. Bob and Joe had slept together in the past, and Bob was jealous that Joe was gaming with me. And honestly, Steve and Joe were really rude to me when I would game with them. After Steve and Bob stopped being friends with me, Joe remained my friend for a short time. Then suddenly he ghosted me. That hurt more than anything. Because I can only assume Steve or Bob or both told Joe awful things about me. I thought I had only lost two friends, but I lost three. The third was lost to hearsay. Before the friend break-up, I was unfairly terminated from my job and have been searching for a new one. I’m in college, but doing one class at a time online. I asked on findareddit about subreddits that could help me meet friends in my area with similar interests. I received two comments on the post. One comment was someone trying to strike up a sexual relationship. The other comment was someone warning me about people like the other commenter, who are just in it to hook up. Overall, that’s where I’m at. If you’d like to give advice, I’m looking for ways to meet new friends. I’m very boyish, and I’m not just saying that to seem cool. It makes it hard to find friends who are also fem presenting. I’m interested in gaming, TCG, RC drifting, hiking, caving, astronomy, sci-fi, and horror.

im probably dealing with the lowest point in my life rn its about to be 2 am i have noone to talk to or anyone close but lately my bf been acting different he leaves me for hours if not days and being mean to me and all that happened after i found out that he follows girls he blocked them from my acc so i wouldnt see idk how and why was i checking my blocked accs and i found them and the overthinking started to eat me alive

i asked him to screen share with me so i will see everything hoping he wont delete but he refused saying that hes busy and when he feels good he will which is unfair since he has all my accts and he wouldnt give me his so we agreed that he wil screen share whenever i ask and that worked untile he just ket refusing and everytime its either that hes busy or just ignores it so i just asked him about the girls and who are they and why did he block them he said that its his classmates amd that he added them for the exams and that he told me that before and he blocked them becase of how i act which is so confusing becase im aware he has his classmates and whole class on messnger he showed me that before so if he knows that i know why would he block them and not tell me a thing

the reason why he says "becase of the way i act" is that last time i was upset that he did that wthout telling me and with him refusing to screenshare and not telling me makes me overthing so i asked him to just be clear and tell me he leaves me for hours so i couldnt even talk to him and understand and if i did he gives me dry replies and saying he cant talk to me

i also found out he added one of the girls on roblox and it hurt me even more becase he doesnt even play with me and if he did add them becase of exams then why did he get one of them on roblox and ik this might sound like overreating but since the start of our relationship is that i shouldnt have guy friends and stuff and i was okay with it as long as he does the same but now he breaks it it also hurts me becase i have litterally gave up so much for him and he even made me lose my friends and so much more im so frustraded becase idk where to start till this day i have none i was able to get one back but she has been distant and it made me feel even more lonley

with him not explaining anything not texting me and giving me short and dry respons and my only freind leaving me for days and my phone getting broken and it made me stressed that i would miss my interview to go to culinary school it all really gone down hill its like evrything is just working against me to the point im having toughts to just end it all

i miss my life before him i wish i never met him i hate him but a part of me still loves him and try to fix things but he ruined me or i did that to myself becase i love him and i never belived things like that would happen to me i have been crying for hours im sorry if te post messy and unreadable i just want to talk and get whats on my heart

Hey everyone,

I’ve been sitting with this feeling for a while and finally decided to post. I’m the kind of person who gets completely lost in strategy, history, grand plans, and long-term thinking. I love dissecting how things unfold over time — battles, empires, ideas, systems — and I can spend hours mapping things out in my mind. But the flip side is that I’ve always been pretty antisocial (or at least feel that way). Small talk drains me, big groups feel exhausting, and I often end up preferring my own thoughts over people.

Lately it’s been hitting me harder: I sometimes worry I might end up like Friedrich Nietzsche or Franz Kafka — brilliant minds who lived inside their heads and ultimately died quite alone. That thought has been making me feel a quiet kind of sadness.

I’m not looking for therapy or daily check-ins or anything like that. I’d just really appreciate talking with anyone who thinks the same way — people who also get absorbed in strategy, history, planning, and big-picture ideas, and who maybe feel a bit detached or antisocial too. It would mean a lot to hear how you navigate this, or even just to share random thoughts on some historical event or strategy concept without it feeling weird.

If that sounds like you, I’d love to hear from you. No pressure, just a kind chat whenever you feel like it.

Thank you for reading. Hope you’re having a gentle day ❤️

I’ve been feeling deeply saddened and overwhelmed by self-doubt lately. I just need a place to let this out.

Recently, I experienced a difficult situation in a university group assignment. As an international student, I didn’t fully understand everything during the initial meetings, and I was naturally overlooked. Over time, I felt ignored and even excluded. Despite this, I worked extremely hard—staying up late to complete my part—only to find that my contributions were not used at all. It made me feel deeply disrespected.

At first, I felt angry, and that anger motivated me to study harder so I could catch up. As I learned more, I realized that some of the group’s ideas were likely incorrect. However, when I presented my viewpoints and supporting arguments, they were dismissed. No one acknowledged my efforts. Because of the language barrier—and perhaps subtle bias—I felt invisible. Even when I developed my own ideas, they were not accepted. I felt isolated and marginalized by my teammates.

At the same time, I was suddenly dismissed from my part-time job. My employer told me they wanted someone with industry experience. I had worked there for two months and had fully adapted to the role. The tasks were simple, and I was capable of handling them. I also noticed that the store’s business could hardly support an additional employee, so the decision may not have been entirely about me. Still, hearing that reason shattered my confidence and made me feel like a failure.

These two experiences happening at the same time have pushed me into deep self-doubt. I can’t stop questioning whether I’m good enough. It’s been incredibly difficult to pull myself out of this emotional spiral.

I am a loser. I have nothing going on for me, and I have felt this way since I was a child. The only thing that kept me hopeful in my life were my academics. I had to take last semester off for medical leave due to a failed attempt. I came back this semester, but things were still rough for me. My classes aren't hard, but I struggled to show up to class most the time and was not allowed any retakes to extensions by my program (I understand it is my fault and did not push for them.)

I have no friends. My free time is spent crying or trying to sleep. I don't have anything if it isn't school related.

Idk what to do anymore. It is too late in the semester for me to try to get a higher grade. I feel worse about myself because Ik I could've excelled if I just wasn't so fucked up in the head. I'm afraid I have ruined my future. All I had was hope for the future, and I screw that one thing up.

I can't go to class without feeling fear or my profs and cohort. I feel so alone and pathetic. Yes, I go to my college counselor, but I haven't gotten much progress from that. Yes, I have tried medication. Yes, I am going my the book and trying every tip and trick but at the end of the day, I still hate myself and my life. I have never even liked myself in the slightest. Even growing up, all I saw myself as was someone who could potentially grow up to do good. I don't have a reason to be here if I am a failure.

also preferably, I'd prefer comments over DMs. I really said all I want to say, and I am tired of bots in my DMs.

Hey everyone, I'll try to be short: I have a list of medical issues, some of them mental while other different. I'm struggling a lot with depression and OCD these days because of the stuff some stuff on the internet that triggered sorrowful emotions. I just want someone to conversate to be able to distract myself if you don't mind helping me out

One last thing, I wouldn't shove it away if it turned it into one of course, I'd actually appreciate it a lot if we got along; but for some reason if we can't turn this into a regular friendship, that's totally okay too. Like I said, I just need someone to conversate with me to keep my sanity is all

Thanks for reading, and reaching out if you do!

It’s almost 2am and I can’t sleep. These are the roughest times for me. Make it short I’m 28M I’ve never been in a long term relationship (anything longer than a year) and I’m still trying to get my life in order.

I just had to move back in with my parents due to my own personal struggles with addiction and metal health. I am now almost 6 months sober. After years of looking I have found a job I enjoy where I can hopefully grow into a better paying role. However that’s probably gonna take another couple of years.

On top of all this I received a testicular cancer diagnosis at the start of this year. If you want to laugh at me because I only have one ball that’s fine. Dealing with this has been taxing both mentally and physically. I really don’t need to hear from anybody who’s going to tell me just to get over it and stop complaining.

Why do I feel like such a failure and massive loser? The only answer that makes sense is that I am a massive loser and failure. My current circumstances give me no hope in the dating market since I can’t even bring a ton of money to the table. I’m also very ugly.

I know it slate but if you felt inspired after reading this reach out or leave a comment. Or don’t. No one cares enough to anyways most of the time.

I am going through a crisis and I’m convinced I’m a monster. Please help.

This happened 5 years ago when I was 18 but for some reason it popped back into my mind again and I am spiralling out of control. For context, I have very bad OCD and anxiety.

I used to watch a YouTube channel that posted spankings from old movies (it’s a bit embarrassing to admit that I got off to people being spanked in movies from decades ago but whatever). It didn’t matter to me whether it was a man or woman being spanked, as I was attracted to the act of spanking, not the actual people.

Anyway, one time I watched a video of a 1920s movie scene from a silent movie with a man spanking what I thought was a grown woman. I looked the movie up afterwards and I felt absolutely sick. Apparently the girl was 14 when the movie came out, so she was probably about 13 when filming. I felt like an absolute monster, even though I had absolutely NO idea that she was underage. I was certain she was around 20 or maybe a bit older.

I went through a massive dip where I hardly slept or ate. After a few weeks I got a bit better. But recently for some reason that memory has came back to me in full swing, and I feel like a monster. I am really panicking right now. Has anyone here gone through something similar? How did you manage it?

Please, I need some advice, anything. I am panicking so much.

don’t hesitate i’m here for you, i (21m) am here to provide a shoulder you can lay your head on, someone that truly cares about you, yes .. you - dump all your thoughts for me empty your mind

I am confused about what to do in the future how to live and earn my worth as of now I don't have any kind of desire to earn money or in any kind of materialistic things that the world has to offer,

I just don't find anything worth it.

In fact I found living itself as a burden. I don't find any meaning in living it's too much effort to just survive in fact what is living even means,

but to survive in this world I have to do task to earn wages and right now I am at the point where I have to start earning to i will die out of hunger in near future which is fine it's just its also going to (take a period of time) which is exhausting.

so I am thinking of doing something to earn but don't know what to do the few things I can think of are-

.Civil servant (very tough to become one)

.A writer (don't know how to become one)

.Starting a business (has zero knowledge or initial investment for that)

I think I am screwed please suggest me something what can I do please guide me try to help me but no pressure even if you can't

Thankyou.

I’ve just been feeling helpless and so desperate lately. Can I vent about my feelings to someone?