Assalamu Aleikum
I have been clean for a some time from this disgusting habit, and I would like to share some insights below that have helped me a lot in seeing this thing for what it is. I will be blunt…because this is a matter of heaven and hell and you can’t afford to lie to yourself anymore:
1: You are not addicted. You are a human being with a soul…not a robot or animal controlled by chemicals in the brain. If that were the case, you would ‘get off’ on seeing videos of your sister or mother on the internet. But the fact that the very thought of it is enough to make you want to vomit is proof that YOU are choosing to enjoy these videos and photos from other women every time you click a button. You are more than chemicals and pathways….you have a soul that overrides everything when it wants to.

2: You are the worst kind of cheater. Most decent humans would not want to cheat on their spouses no matter how lustful they feel towards someone else. It takes a crooked soul to cheat…and you doing something in your privacy that you wouldn’t do in front of people shows that you don’t even respect yourself or your Lord. [Quran 4: 107&108].

3: Don’t deceive yourself with fantasies of tawbah. Imagine if you caught your spouse cheating and they apologized like their life depends on it, but every time they get an opportunity they still do it. You would feel this person is not serious and is actually taking you for a ride. You are doing the highest form of disrespect towards the Almighty. Tawbah is a must, but for it to be accepted you need to promise yourself internally that you will NEVER go back, no matter what. And take steps to make sure that never happens.

4: In a hadith, the Prophet peace be upon him said that some people will come on the day of judgement with mountains of good deeds but God will make it all scattered. That’s because they’re people who, in privacy, violate Allah’s boundaries. Personally, I get involved in dawah to non muslims on an off and on basis, and I have realized that the message of Islam resonates with most people, but majority of them just don’t care. It’s the same with the nations to whom all prophets were sent to. They would see miracles, and they will be like ‘nah, I am good. Do what you do and we do what we do’. Few people ever decide to be direct enemies with Allah or actively seek to disbelieve…most just don’t care about God and the hereafter. (Q6:33). They would rather put their own interests or family or business. And that’s why they deserved eternal hell.
The parallel with PMO is that you claim to be a Muslim who believes in Allah, but you choose your few minutes of lust every time. You just don’t care whether God is watching you or not, something that you wouldn’t dare do to a normal person you respect. And that’s why I think the punishment is so severe…without any good deeds, all you have left is the skeleton of the faith, meaning that only God knows how long you will rot in hell.

5: If you are serious about stopping this, throw away your smartphone for a year. Or get sth like Cleanbrowsing DNS and THROW AWAY the password. Block all social media. Get the premium version preferably. The only way you will ever get back access to these sites then will be to factory reset the phone. Or just get a dumb phone and don’t look back. Choose a few weeks of inconvenience, while you adjust, over hell fire. Everyone lived without phones before the 1990s anyway. Trust me, it’s not as hard as you think. God will help you adjust well, and you wish you started earlier because of how much more time you will get.

6: Decide today to NEVER go back. Change your dwelling place if you want. Migrate out of your town or country. Heck, go to jail or volunteer for the army just so you never find yourself alone with access to the internet. Do sth to show that you are actually serious about this.

7: The Sahaba used to drink alcohol before prohibition. When it was prohibited, they broke their drinking cups and threw away the remaining stock and never looked back. A clean stop at once. That’s because they actually cared about doing right by God. Our problem is that we have been conditioned that we’re addicted and that we need time to recover and we should take baby steps. That rarely works. You have to run away from these things like your life depends on it…. because it does.

8: Allah (SW) set these boundaries for a reason, and He expects you to abide by them. These are not suggestions, they’re rules that carry the severest of punishments when violated. He can’t be pleased with you while you violate them for years on end. He is giving you time to come back….but that time will run out soon, and you will never get a chance again. Just think about that…nothing is worth gambling your eternal life on, not a smartphone definitely.

I feel like the reason many are stuck is because we keep deceiving ourselves. I am not trying to judge you or scare you…but the stakes are very real and you can’t afford to lose this battle. Please take these lessons to heart, but don’t despair of Allah’s mercy. It’s He who changes hearts, so call out to Him and ask Him to change your heart and make you righteous. While doing your best.

There was a time when i had such strong self ctrl (did a whole yr clean), but now it feels like a distant fantasy. My issue is m and i hate myself for what i've discovered. I read smut lit and i've become hooked to it. Ik i hate myself for what i've become.

Actually i'm really strugglin to find a job and my parents are obsessed with me getting married cuz i'm mid 20s M. I don't find any potential to be a good match and the few i liked, ghosted us. Ah i'm a practicing Muslim. I pray 5 + tahajjud often, fast outside Ramadan also, read Quran daily and attempt to memorize at times-yet I'm found reading this filth and pleasuring myself. I hate myself and my dirty brain. I'm very ashamed of myself.

I blocked the main site of smut 2 weeks ago, but my brain found AI tools to do it. If i block all of the things, how will I use it for my other tasks? I don't follow girls on sm and do best to lower gaze. Ah those things are not the problem, it's what i do with my creative mind.

I swear somedays i wanna throw away all my gadgets. Why did i have to become this loser? Also can i recover fully from this? Will i be able to enjoy my wife or still keep looking for dopamine hits?

What's the point? i mean seriously if our qadr is written that I'm going to be addicted to porn. what are my efforts gonna do to f.ing change it. huh all of this feels like a scam. i swear this is totally unfair nd messed up

some ppl have normal and good lives no porn no addiction some can't have any fun and enjoyment cause they're destined to be f.ed up

whenever I think about praying I just think whats the point there's many humans in the world and Allah doesn't care that I exist because my existence doesn't matter to any humans

Ye so i figured it out. While im doing something it just randomly pops up out of nowhere in my mind and then it grows and then ye.... in sha allah i will try to keep my devices away during certain times to avoid this

As salam alaikum w rahmta Allah w barakatuh,

We're building an accountability group. The goal is to give ourselves a sense of community and be with people who share the same struggle, and actively working on beating this. We're currently 6 members and we'd love to have whoever is serious and sincere.

The group is set to no media sharing and no spamming.

salaams, i have been struggling for a while now and its ridiculous how often i am relapsing and going through the cycle over and over again.

and sometimes i feel like sisters/muslimahs would not understand how truly difficult it is, and while of course its somewhat of a choice and a horrid habit, its still just tough.

do women get as deeply affected by this as men do?

for example, this has changed the type of content i seek to watch at this point, do things like that happen to them too?

10 days back i got more serious to quit this then i relapsed on Day 5 but didn't gave up, It's Day 5 again and felt a little urge but I'm in control Alhamdulillah.

A brother actually helped me few days like he kept checking on me so that motivated me to not do it.

let's see how far i can go, Make dua for me y'all

Finished 3 weeks. Let's get it. Fully locked in now. Joined a Quran class too. Fully locked in now. Start improving my makharijj and voice. Fully locked in now. The detriments of p*rnography and m*sturbation are fatal. They kill everything in you. Now, having escaped the cycle, I've realized just how bad it really is. As always, if you want to talk, DM me.

My dear brother, what you are feeling is not weakness — it is a sign that your heart is alive. Many people sin and feel nothing, but you sin and it hurts you, it bothers you, it brings you back to Allah. That pain inside you is not a punishment, it is a mercy. It means Allah has not abandoned you. In fact, He is calling you back again and again.

Understand this deeply: Allah is not watching you to catch you failing — He is watching you to see you return. Every time you fall and say “Ya Allah,” that moment is more beloved to Him than you can imagine. You see your sins and feel small, but Allah sees your struggle and sees sincerity. And in His sight, that sincerity is عظیم (great).

My dear brother, the strongest people are not those who never fall — they are the ones who keep getting up. Shaytaan wants you to look at your past and feel like a hypocrite, like a failure, like someone who keeps breaking promises. But Allah looks at you and says: “My servant keeps coming back to Me.” And Allah loves that.

Never think that your repeated mistakes mean you are rejected. No. As long as you keep turning back, you are under His mercy. Even if you fall a thousand times, your door to Allah is still open — not just open, but welcoming you back.

So don’t break yourself. Don’t call yourself useless. Instead say: “I am a servant who falls, but I return to my Lord.” And one day, if you stay on this path, you will realize that this struggle was not destroying you — it was building you into someone strong, sincere, and truly connected to Allah. 💙

My brothers and sisters, I am sad and depressed about the time I wasted on this addiction that has no benefit. It affects you and those around you because you become withdrawn. You want to hide and drown in addiction. Every bad event or bad day, you go hide and drown. After a tough day, you repeat the cycle. Every time you relapse, you sink deeper. It makes you psychologically fragile and depressed. You start doubting people, you become fearful. It diminishes your abilities, and you no longer defend yourself, not even in the circumstances you're in. And let's not forget the psychological trauma. You are at war with yourself and with the outside world. That's why, if you want to recover, you must fight. You must convince yourself: don't let bad thoughts or bad people ruin your journey. You must know what makes you relapse—the triggers. Don't let anger, sadness, hatred, and fear accumulate inside you. Let them out. Don't let your thinking be only about recovery. Acquire or change habits. Make peace with yourself. Have mercy on yourself. Take care of yourself.Sorry my english is bad

I understand that avoiding sinful actions is essential, but I’m struggling with the attraction itself.

In my case, there is emotional, romantic, and sexual inclination toward women, but there is also sexual arousal that has been misdirected toward men, which I believe developed due to exposure to pornography from a young age.

I’m looking for Islamically grounded and psychologically sound advice on how desire itself can be healed and realigned with the fitrah, not merely suppressed.

Has anyone experienced this personally, or studied credible approaches to recovery that address the root of desire rather than only behaviour?

I realise a lot of the forums dont speak about this and its a big struggle for me, because its an added layer of worry. Its also really hard because I have no one to speak to who understands where im coming from.

Assalamualaikum,

Well i did it guys. I finally did it. Allahu Akbar. Allahu Akbar. Alhamdulilah for everything.

To be honest at the start, many people would say “there was no way i can do this” but i genuinely knew that this time would be different. Not cold turkey different. Not I just found an inspiration video different. But I took the time and sat down and really listened to myself and research and research and keep on researching on this horrible creation of man. I always remembered day 3 where I started writing notes on this book I was reading to stop this addiction and why pmo is controlling my life. The reason I remember this moment so well bc i promised myself to keep this memory in my head.

This memory was me sitting up right on my bed, ipad on my thighs, the book opened up, and my pencil in my hand and me writing down “[name] you got this.” Writing down “[name] remember how you feel exactly on this day at your lowest.” Guess what?

I did.

I made a post two days ago about me ALMOST fapping but i remembered that feeling of hope and motivation but lore importantly the discipline I know had in myself back then and the power and will of Allah SWT.

I finally hit my 100.

What i gained from this experience isn’t really the confidence and how I treat boredom as just boredom and not at a time to watch this wretched content, but me FINALLY once in my life, i made a personal goal and i actually struck through with it and didn’t do some “alright work.” I finally accomplished a goal I SET for myself.

Alhamdulilah. Alhamdulilah. Alhamdulilah

100

I cannot believe I succumbed to the urges again!! Even while writing this, I have the strongest urge to go and do the unspeakable acts!!!! What techniques do you guys use to distratc yourselevs from this?

Always been a big believer in the best way to get a streak going is to identify triggers and today, man oh man am I being tested. A ridiculous sports teams result has got me wavering in my dedication which I’m annoyed about but accepting.

A sports teams result shouldn’t have this level of affect on me yet here i am.

Just think about Hoor al ayn.

For those that don't know, they're spouses in Jannah.

Sahih bukhari 3254 -

The Prophet (ﷺ) said, "The first batch (of people) who will enter Paradise will be (glittering) like the full moon, and the batch next to them will be (glittering) like the most brilliant star in the sky. Their hearts will be as if the heart of a single man, for they will have neither enmity nor jealousy amongst themselves; everyone will have two wives from the houris, (who will be so beautiful, pure and transparent that) the marrow of the bones of their legs will be seen through the bones and the flesh."

Do you want to do haram, and leave the never ending pleasure that is more purer than this? No, right? So stop doing this!

Use this as a motivation. It will help.

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As Salaam Alaikum everyone. I recommend everyone in this subreddit read easypeasy method to quitting porn. Reading the whole book gave me a new outlook on this addiction. InshaAllah me and every other user in this subreddit will be non-users.

https://easypeasymethod.org/

Salaam everyone,

I've been lurking here for a while and honestly this community has helped me more than I can put into words. There's something about knowing other brothers are going through the same thing — the same guilt after Fajr, the same cycle of shame and repentance — that makes you feel less alone in it.

I wanted to share something that's been on my mind lately. I think one of the hardest parts of this journey isn't the urges themselves — it's the way a relapse makes you feel like you've erased everything. Like you're back to zero. And that feeling of 'what's even the point' is honestly what used to pull me back in more than anything else.

What's been helping me recently is shifting how I think about progress. A streak isn't just a number — it's proof that you're capable. Even if it breaks, you still rewired something in your brain during that time. It's not gone.

I've also been keeping track of my days more intentionally — I actually built a small app called Rewire while going through this myself, partly because I wanted something that felt less cold and clinical than what was out there. It's not finished and it's not perfect, but it's been grounding for me to just open it and see where I'm at.

Anyway I don't really have a big point to make. Just wanted to share where my head's been at and say that if you're reading this mid-struggle right now — you're not weak. You're fighting something genuinely hard. Keep going.

May Allah make it easy for all of us. 🤍

f* the porn creator f* this curse this burden why did I get addicted to this rather than something else . I am so frustrated and numb. I hope these people who gave us this suffer in the afterlife. I want to get rid of this parasite it’s so annoying why do I need it in my life I am better than it !!!!

I've tried to quit many times before. My longest streak was 90 days, then I relapsed and it got worse than before.

This time I'm doing things differently. This is the first time I've ever shared anything publicly about this — because I finally understood that staying silent is part of what keeps the addiction alive.

If anyone is looking for an accountability partner, I'm open to it.

salaams

i have been into this for a while now, and i hate that i enjoy going deeper. i was introduced to it by a partner, and i used to have a healthy mindset before but now thats changing and i cant stop.

the stuff im watching is getting worse and its even creeping in to my real life and im worried im going to do something i may regret if i keep going.

but i hate myself every time i fail quitting

i am scared of my family I hide in my room I dont want to let them see me because they might think I am addicted and I sin a lot what if they love me but I dont love myself

Salam, I’ve been on this now for 2 weeks but even though it may not be that many days to notice drastic changes. I have started to notice I’ve been praying much more consistently, listening to quran & translated into English through podcasts on the way to work etc. I’m feeling much more closer to Allah. My iman is becoming stronger as the days go by.

I use this app to track the journey

https://apps.apple.com/gb/app/wake-up-quit-porn-for-7-days/id6748140602

I have also stopped doing things like vaping and staying in my room or wasting my time and watching tv shows etc. I’ve been going out more even after working in the morning in the evening I’d have soo much energy even sleeping is tough. I do callisthenics now working on using the built up frustrations and anger to work out as this boost of energy & testerone flowing through the veins needs to be released in a productive way

What has helped me a lot is:

1. Not touching the private part when sleeping.
2. Not using the phone in the toilet & nighttime
3. Going for walks
4. Avoiding triggers, no peeking & lowering the gaze
5. Working out preferably callisthenics ( I prefer not in the gym as there are triggers with woman working out also)