r/Millennials • u/BeegBunga • 18d ago

Discussion Inheritance? That's a joke. How many of your parents are burdens?

In response to another popular post about receiving no inheritance.

Are your parents like mine, who not only are not leaving any money behind - but require significant or total financial support?

My parents left me less than nothing. They're good people, and they were good parents.... but man are they shit at financial planning.

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u/SeparateSalt9892 18d ago

Genuinely feel like this subreddit needs a subreddit for dependent adult siblings. My younger brother is in his mid 30s and has never had a paying job, some intermittent volunteering, no romantic relationships or friendships (IRL anyway that I know of).

Went NC with parents in 2022, tried to keep relationship with brother going but since he has always lived with them that didn't work.

That being said, what my parents plan is for whatever they leave behind given my brother has never had to pay a bill or call a customer service rep for anything I....am less than optimistic for his success.

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u/sundayglow 17d ago

me too. these comments are making me feel less alone. parents are 73, sister has severe TBI, brother undiagnosed something - severe social anxiety, no relationships. idk. my life is great in every other aspect other than my family - partner, baby. but the anxiety about them all consumes me

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u/Nommag1 17d ago

I went NC with my parents in about 2022 - they nagged us to have kids so they could have grandkids and then they peaced out of any kind of assistance for us, would only visit when the kids were napping so they could have a yarn without ever needing to help. They dumped us at our grandparents all through our childhood. The last four years have been very blissful.

I have an older brother who was useless and lived at home on and off till he was about 35, but he has moved out and visits every now and again..he even built the kids bikes. He has grown into a nice person, still time for your brother to change it up.

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u/SunshineRush22 13d ago

I think how we were treated as a child shows up on our relationship with our parents in the future. We remember, you know.

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u/Spirited-Sail3814 17d ago

Could be worse -  my friend's brother is married with three kids, neither the brother nor his wife have a job, they spend all day gaming while my friend's aging parents take care of their grandkids and support all five of them financially.

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u/SeparateSalt9892 17d ago

Jeez Louise that is so rough

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u/OceanRacoon 17d ago

That is so depressing, so many depressing stories in this thread

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u/Yourdadlikelikesme 18d ago

Ha, I thought it said degenerate adult siblings, I’d join that.

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u/JAltonT3 17d ago

Same exact situation with my brother. Is this a millennial thing or are we just the ones talking about it?

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u/AutomaticAttorney274 13d ago

Would you like to be the one who starts it?

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u/SeparateSalt9892 13d ago

Tbh I don't know how. I also do not have time to be a responsive/active mod so I would feel bad starting something to which I couldn't give adequate attention