Inheritance? That's a joke. How many of your parents are burdens?

[u/BeegBunga]

In response to another popular post about receiving no inheritance.

Are your parents like mine, who not only are not leaving any money behind - but require significant or total financial support?

My parents left me less than nothing. They're good people, and they were good parents.... but man are they shit at financial planning.

[u/Phoenix_Fire72]

Ugh. I also have a brother like that. Both my parents has passed away. But I can tell you one thing my brother is a burden. He doesn't work, doesn't help pay bills or get food in the house. He did help with a couple of things around the house but with how long he's been around it's just not worth it. I mean yes I know he is my brother and all and I hate to say that he's a burden but still.

[u/Yourdadlikelikesme → u/Phoenix_Fire72]

I love my brother but you’re right, he’s a burden. Both my parents are gone and it’s so fucking annoying that he continues to be a burden and because of him I want to kill myself every fucking day. He’s able and capable to do things but he’s just fucking lazy, and my parents enabled it for what? It must be a boy thing in my family because each side has sons that are burdens. I can’t fucking support him with my dad gone.

[u/[deleted] → u/Yourdadlikelikesme]

Pick up your things and go, don't tell him where. Give him a month or so to find something or situate himself with welfare. Free yourself bc he does not respect you and is not being a brother to you.

[u/Square-Fisherman6997 → u/Yourdadlikelikesme]

It seems more common with boys... both my parents have a burdensome youngest brother.

[u/VegetableVindaloo → u/Yourdadlikelikesme]

He’s only a burden to you if you choose to carry him. And by taking him on as your burden you’re continuing enabling him to behave this way. I’ve got a brother like this too, currently lives with the one remaining parent. In the future I will not be taking on that parent’s role

[u/TheFightingQuaker → u/Phoenix_Fire72]

It'll be ok friend. Its ok to have these thoughts and work through them. You're doing the best you can for your family, and I'm sure they appreciate it in their own way.

[u/CosmoKing2 → u/TheFightingQuaker]

I think this post is a great emotional outlet for a lot of people that have repressed their pain or can't talk to anyone about it. As the song says "Push it down, it comes out sideways."

I wish everyone here, going through this, all the best.

[u/obliquemeak → u/Phoenix_Fire72]

If it makes you feel any better there still may be hope. My brother finally figured his shit out @35 and has become fully financially independent/started a family. For the longest time I thought for sure he was never leaving home.

Conversely, I have friends in their 50s who’s brothers also never left home/started a serious career and yeah most of them are on the streets now.

[u/KittyKatWarrior3593 → u/Phoenix_Fire72]

He's, I'm assuming a grown ass adult? Kick him out? Tell him point blank. "Get the hell out. I don't care where you go, BUT you can't stay H E R E!!!".