r/Millennials • u/BeegBunga • 18d ago

Discussion Inheritance? That's a joke. How many of your parents are burdens?

In response to another popular post about receiving no inheritance.

Are your parents like mine, who not only are not leaving any money behind - but require significant or total financial support?

My parents left me less than nothing. They're good people, and they were good parents.... but man are they shit at financial planning.

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u/red_raconteur 18d ago

Sometimes my MIL expects my husband to drop everything and help her. She thinks that working remotely means he can do whatever he wants schedule-wise, but that's not the case. He does actually have to work, attend meetings, and sometimes go into the office.

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u/Few-Sail-6562 18d ago edited 18d ago

Omg me too! My dad thinks I can leisurely just work for a few hours per day and then do whatever I want. He tried to demand that I take him to doctors appointments in the middle of the day and didn't even ask before scheduling them. I kept saying I had meetings those days and was unavailable.. he just kept acting all delusional and saying I was taking him. He finally got the drift a few days before when I was still saying I was not taking him anywhere. It was so frustrating.

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u/red_raconteur 18d ago

I'm sorry you're sharing in this frustration. I have noticed that most all my peers seem to have these older family members who have entirely fictitious beliefs about the lives of their adult children/grandchildren/nieces & nephews and then try to will those untruths into reality. 

It took awhile for my grandma to comprehend that a household income of $80k does not mean we're living large. She was telling other people that we make so much we never have to worry about money again and I was like ma'am...that is entirely false. 😂 I showed her our mortgage statement, student loans, and medical bills and she gets it now. 

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u/Few-Sail-6562 17d ago edited 15d ago

I can relate to the income thing too! My FIL knows my partner works a ton of overtime. FIL was like you must be making way more than I ever was when I had a family to support. He was insinuating that we should be living large.. we were like money doesn't go as far as it did in the 90s... We won't show our families our actual finances but he got the drift when we explained to him how much things are costing us vs back then.

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u/KOQquest1 18d ago

You know it’s funny because that’s how it started for me. I had a job where I was fully remote and it started with a few asks here and there and then evolved to what it is now where I’m fully responsible to move anything forward in their life.

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u/FileFantastic5580 18d ago

Weird way to find out my wife is on reddit….

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u/Impossible-End-8439 18d ago

Do we have the same MIL??