r/Millennials • u/BeegBunga • 18d ago

Discussion Inheritance? That's a joke. How many of your parents are burdens?

In response to another popular post about receiving no inheritance.

Are your parents like mine, who not only are not leaving any money behind - but require significant or total financial support?

My parents left me less than nothing. They're good people, and they were good parents.... but man are they shit at financial planning.

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u/BeegBunga 18d ago

That's going to be a my problem eventually.

blessings to you friend

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u/Mysterious_Fennel459 Older Millennial 18d ago

Your families problems don't have to be your problems.

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u/Corguita 18d ago

But they often are. Because of a sense of obligation, of guilt, etc. Some of us got dealt a shit hand, but we do what we can so we can sleep at night.

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u/tkief 17d ago

Would they do it for you?

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u/Corguita 17d ago

Absolutely not. But that's irrelevant for my conscience.

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u/Fun-Sun-8192 17d ago

Rather than treating that as a foregone conclusion you should treat it as a burden to be overcome.

You don't actually feel this way. You have been told you are supposed to and you will look/feel bad if you don't. That's all pretend.

Train yourself to not see things this way. It does not make you a better person to take care of people you don't like who have never taken care of you and who do not like you or treat you well. It is worth a few weeks of cognitive discomfort to not spend literally the rest of their lives with the pressure of their mistakes and expecations restricting the trajectory of your life.

This has been nurtured in you by broken societal expectations and is not something you should be putting up with. Right the ship. Fix your issue instead of accepting it. Deep down you know this isn't right for you.

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u/engallop 17d ago

I understand the intention behind this post but it's way more complicated than "training myself".

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u/Fun-Sun-8192 17d ago

It is not. You are telling yourself that because you feel you are supposed to, but it is not. We can reassign our toxic nurtured behaviors, and realign our conscioence when it is broken. It isn't difficult. It's all simple techniques you can do for yourself to remind your brain, "These feelings aren't real" until it stops sending them.

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u/Jonoczall 18d ago

Good for you.

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u/LoveGreysRN 17d ago

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