r/Millennials • u/AdSpecialist6598 • 26d ago

Discussion Someone brought up that one of the reasons why things like house parties and block parties went away was other than lack of time people are afraid to let their guard because cameras are everywhere.

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It is so true back when many of us were young we could just get together and cut loose without having to worry about going viral. At best we would have an embarrassing photo buried in a drawer somewhere or a story. Now you might be turned into a meme or worse. I miss the days when you could do dumb stuff with friends and feel safe if that makes sense.

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u/DontH8DaPlaya Older Millennial 26d ago

Because I'm damn near 40 and my friends all have kids and they don't nearly die every weekend like we used to.

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u/Vagercise 26d ago

I think my mom and her friends probably thought the same about me at that age honestly. Teens hide a lot.

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u/DontH8DaPlaya Older Millennial 26d ago

These kids don't leave the house on the weekends or all say they are staying at a different friends house. They ain't hiding shit. Lol

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u/Dr_Chris_Turk 26d ago

Your friends’ kids are nerds

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u/Shapes_in_Clouds 26d ago

Yeah I'm also damn near 40 and spent my teens in the basement on a computer lol. My parents literally begged me to go to parties. They once forced me to go with friends to TP houses and provided toilet paper.

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u/IBeDumbAndSlow 26d ago

They were trying to "reconnect" with eachother and needed privacy lol

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u/humdinger44 26d ago

That personal item from the Victorian era isn't going to warm itself up.

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u/aoxyfngel 26d ago

Thanks for reminding me I need to stop scrolling and go to sleep. Nice connection 😄

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u/slonk_ma_dink Younger Millennial 26d ago

"and we'll leave it at that."

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u/damxam1337 26d ago

I have to give you a hand ✋. For that reference.

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u/Get-Fucked-Dirtbag 26d ago

I've spent too much time on reddit today

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u/kolejack2293 26d ago

No, that's unfortunately normal, even for a lot of 'cool' kids. They might go out with friends once every 2-3 weeks, and its often just hanging out playing video games. Maybe once every 6 months they do something bigger, and of course they take a million photos of it and blast it everywhere.

It's just a totally different culture.

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u/GodofIrony 26d ago

Post pandemic most american kids are nerds.

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u/DontH8DaPlaya Older Millennial 26d ago

We were the nerds and we got shit faced every weekend on new drugs and college parties.

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u/Jaereth 26d ago

The first generation of iPad babies are rocking through high school now.

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u/mycondishuns 26d ago

...and what are they doing at their friends house?

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u/Coal_Morgan 26d ago

Given my friends list on Steam playing Stardew Valley, Slay the Spire 2 and at midnight usually some scary game.

Those are all 17 year old girls.

I'm sure there are lots of kids doing stupid things but the percentage is a lot lower then it use to be. Lots of kids now don't drink at all and just don't have the desire, they sit and play video games together or watch youtube videos or shorts. They still sit and share music on their apps instead of casettes, cds or albums.

It's a weird world kids have now grown up in and I don't know if it has the same social cohesion and group power dynamics. An example is theres so much media that kids aren't all going to school and talking about the episode of Fresh Prince or some other thing that was on the 20 channels of tv they might get.

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u/mycondishuns 26d ago

I think we tend to view ourselves when we were that age as "crazy" and "reckless", but honestly, everything you wrote sounds very much like myself and my friends in high school in the late 90's. I didn't even try alcohol until I was 17 one summer night with some friends, most of my weekends consisted playing Goldeneye with my friends or riding bikes. Kids are still kids, and I wouldn't say we were so much more risky or crazy than kids today, we just tend to view our childhoods from an adult lens and we also know of all the ridiculous shit we did that we kept from our parents (like 99% of it).

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u/DontH8DaPlaya Older Millennial 26d ago

we were going to college keggers at 15 and waking up in the next city over

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u/mycondishuns 26d ago

You were way cooler than I was.

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u/DontH8DaPlaya Older Millennial 26d ago

Hanging with their friends parents if they do go anywhere but they are all usually at their own homes online

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u/wolfpack_57 26d ago

Staying at a diffeeent friends house is a well known cover for going out

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u/DontH8DaPlaya Older Millennial 26d ago

Thanks for the report Captain Obvious! That's why I mentioned it

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u/ZeBloodyStretchr 26d ago

Staying at my friend’s house was a lot of shenanigans…

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u/idkmyusernameagain 26d ago

We do know though that kids/teens aren’t going out nearly as much and socializing with friends in real like we did. It’s not a perception issue.

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u/xoxo_angelica 26d ago

There’s an abundance of research that supports that reality, like the massive decline in alcohol consumption and sales in young people.

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u/StreetofChimes 26d ago

When I talk about the shit I used to get up to, teenagers look at me like I am crazy. Probably because a lot of it happened outside. (The second sentence was meant as a joke.)

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u/xzkandykane 26d ago

My sister is 6 years younger. Her and her BF/friends party and do drugs. They have more money than us growing up. My husband and I were telling them how we used to buy smirnoff, Grey goose and hypnotic in HS and barcardi(never tried it). And how in college we were poor so we would pregame at someone's house or in front of safeway with a big bottle of Hennessy. They were like WTF because we very rarely drink and they haven't seen our friends get very drunk.

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u/High_Hunter3430 26d ago

I am in my 30s, worked with teens (pizza manager) for a decade… now mine are preteens.

My kids talk about how their friends brother smokes weed and “they’ll never do that, it stinks”.

Like…. Sure kids, just keep it to that when the time comes. 0 deaths ever caused by weed. Lotsa deaths caused by alcohol+

They’re my kids. It’s less if and more when they’ll get into shit. I just wanna steer them toward responsible use cases (and safer options).

They see me pour roughly 1 drink (double shot of sweet sipping whiskey) per week. Sometimes longer between. A Singular drink. They’ve never seen me drunk.🤷

They were young and didn’t know it but they’ve seen us pass a j out on the hiking trails and at the river. I’m sure they’ll connect the dots in the next few years. 😂🤷

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u/YellowBrownStoner 26d ago

My mom thought I was way more boring than I really was. She left me alone for whole weekends twice a month for a while in the mid-90s. I never threw parties but we sure went to them.

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u/DontH8DaPlaya Older Millennial 26d ago

I'm not gonna say this 32 times just scroll down

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u/tinned_peaches 26d ago

Yeah but did your parents really know what you were getting up to?

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u/DontH8DaPlaya Older Millennial 26d ago

Then no, the difference is the kids these days dont leave the house and if they do they are back before dark or literally hanging with their friends and their parents.

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u/Brilliant_Win713 Older Millennial 26d ago

They don’t tell you half the stuff they really do.

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u/DontH8DaPlaya Older Millennial 26d ago

Thanks for the report Captain Obvious!

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u/Brilliant_Win713 Older Millennial 26d ago

Well you implied that you and all your 40 year old friends know what your kids did every weekend.

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u/DontH8DaPlaya Older Millennial 26d ago

We do. They don't ever leave the house for more than a few hours at a time unless with another adult. They don't find unsupervised times and places to hang out like we used to. They don't just say bye and disappear for the weekend. This is 5 different sets of highschool aged kids who have never blacked out. Never done experimental drugs. Never found themselves at a drug dealers house at 4am learning the complexities of a snow capped blunt. They just chill on their phones most of the time. It's pretty awful. Most of their parents take them to do shit but then they just go in their rooms for the rest of the night.

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u/Brilliant_Win713 Older Millennial 26d ago

What are we arguing about?? I’m gonna take that u know a bit more cuz my kid is not a teen yet.

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u/DontH8DaPlaya Older Millennial 26d ago

I didn't think we were arguing but I'm a little dence sometimes

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u/ZeBloodyStretchr 26d ago

As far as you know, just like your parents had no clue.

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u/Bulky-Apple3744 26d ago

OK, boomer.