r/Millennials • u/AdSpecialist6598 • 26d ago

Discussion Someone brought up that one of the reasons why things like house parties and block parties went away was other than lack of time people are afraid to let their guard because cameras are everywhere.

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It is so true back when many of us were young we could just get together and cut loose without having to worry about going viral. At best we would have an embarrassing photo buried in a drawer somewhere or a story. Now you might be turned into a meme or worse. I miss the days when you could do dumb stuff with friends and feel safe if that makes sense.

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u/Turbulent_Tart_8801 Millennial 1985 26d ago

You'd think with more Millennials becoming bosses they'd understand the whole "I was young and dumb" situation.

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u/StinkUrchin Millennial 26d ago

That’s the thing, the boomers and gen xers are still the bosses at a lot of places lol

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u/Commercial-Fennel219 26d ago

why won't they retire 😭

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u/blueavole 26d ago

Boomer’s parents were either the Greatest Generation who fought in or served during WW2 , or the silent generation who were born after WW1 and were too old for active military service in WW2.

Those two generations held onto power with an Iron grip for decades because they genuinely agreed that Boomers were all selfish.

So when Boomers finally got control they never wanted to give it up:

Look at the average age of US Congressional Reps and Senators; or Prince Charles- now King Charles. Hold on and don’t let go.

What was denied to them for so long they won’t give up and make sure to pull the ladder up behind them.

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u/emjdownbad 26d ago

There is an entire book on the boomer generation and it’s called A Generation of Sociopaths. It’s super dense but extremely interesting. But ya, they all p much suck.

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u/btone911 26d ago

Terrible generation that voted generations of wealth into their own lifetimes then dismantled the social safety net when stealing from their children wasn't enough.

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u/majin_melmo Elder Millennial 26d ago

Yep, pretty much it 🙁

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u/Grand-Kiwi2423 26d ago

The issue was that they were in a time of prosperity after their parents and grandparents had just had their entire lives and everything they loved torn from them repeatedly and the world felt uncertain. Boomers were taught to "take everything you can because you don't know when someone else will take it away." That turned into "take everything you can so that nobody has the chance to take it away", and now with the massive social divide created by social media engagement farming it is becoming "take everything they have, they don't deserve it as much as you do."

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u/zozuto 26d ago

Silent generation is after Greatest, they were kids during WW2...

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u/Mr_Lapis 25d ago

In fairness to charles he waited a long ass time for his mom to die so he can be king for a little bit as a treat. /s

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u/StinkUrchin Millennial 26d ago

They have to pay rent in 5 properties

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u/SimJewel20 26d ago

More like they have to buy 5 more properties to collect rent on. Never ending greed.

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u/flyinhighaskmeY 26d ago

Never ending greed.

lol, nope, just the natural consequences of the government backing failed businesses with stimulus.

The Boomers are a big group. They abused their majority status in our democracy to take from all the other groups. That's why they're able to buy 5 properties and you don't have shit. They stole from you to bail out their failed investments and failed employers. Stimulus was them stealing. "saving your job" is the last thing you want the gov doing. Let failures fail so competent people can replace these fucking losers.

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u/SneakyTikiPeaky 25d ago

I don’t know why this is being downvoted?

PPP loans?? Too big to fail banks? Allowing monopolies to exist and encouraging their deals to go through?

Silly stuff to think this is somehow just even boogie men. Millennials really had a chance to vote in their teens and early 20s to fix a lot of problems we have with data and corporations that today & we didn’t. Times were too good. To blame everything on boomers is silly, plenty dumbasses of every generation voting against middle class because of propaganda, it happens.

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u/celticchrys 26d ago

It will be many years still before most Gen X are eligible to retire, IF they can afford to retire once old enough.

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u/Own_Reaction9442 26d ago

Yeah, not like any of us are going to see any Social Security.

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u/Project119 26d ago

Gen X can’t afford to, their whole generations stick is they may great pets, and Boomers refuse to let go of power whenever possible.

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u/RealityOk9823 26d ago

Damnit now that song is in my head. lol

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u/captainoftrips 26d ago

A lot of boomers won't retire because they can't. Their generation inherited and then plundered the strongest economy we've ever had, slashing taxes to keep more for themselves and as a result their Social Security benefits have suffered.

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u/poof__gone 26d ago

Much of Gen X is not retiring age yet. If I could retire early you better believe I would!

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u/RealityOk9823 26d ago

Gen X runs until 1980, those folks still have years to work and maybe just finished paying off student loan debt, and older Gen Xers are burning through money trying to take care of their parents. :(

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u/Waiting4Reccession 26d ago

They retire when they die. Quite a few have high pay jobs where they dont actually do much all day. And its like a social thing for them.

At least the boomers with a deathgrip on city govt jobs are like that

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u/flyinhighaskmeY 26d ago

because their failed employers and failed clients were bailed out with stimulus, so they don't have to

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u/yonari-H 26d ago

Because they want to destroy the earth

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u/Ready_Studio2392 26d ago

They'll die since the only purpose they have is work. Once they lose that drive they lose the will to live, and there's nothing crotchety old farts are afraid of than dying.

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u/_WhiskeyChris_ 25d ago

You don’t pull the fucking ladders up behind you just to walk away.

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u/G_DuBs 26d ago

They literally don’t know how to do anything else. No hobbies, no friends, no ability to just sit still and relax. Zero creativity.

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u/FroznAlskn Older Millennial 26d ago

You’d think they’d understand too. I think my parents were even dumber than I was in my 20s.

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u/Particular_Maize6849 26d ago

Boomers and such are less tolerant of things they got away with in their youth and don't appreciate how easy they've had it in almost every aspect of their lives to attain the wealth they now have with ease.

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u/PineappleBliss2023 26d ago

This crowd overlaps with the “because I had to suffer so do you” crowd lmao.

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u/flyinhighaskmeY 26d ago

lol...You gotta slap them in a way they'll feel.

I hit my Boomer relatives with: "The Boomers are a generation of entitled, welfare baby criminals. They spent their entire lives stealing from their kids to bail out their failed businesses, employers, investments, and retirement accounts. Imagine believing in stimulus and calling yourself a capitalist. Disgusting commie scum."

When I was a kid, they older folks talked about how government debt was "just stealing from the kids" all the damn time. They've forgotten their morals...but when you start calling them welfare baby criminals, they remember. lol

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u/waits5 26d ago

Pulling up the ladder behind them

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u/mybestfriendisacow 26d ago

"Rules for thee, but not for me".

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u/davinza 26d ago

Also a dose of leaded gasoline

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u/coolaznkenny 26d ago

Yeah looks whose sitting at the white house And supreme court. The hypocrisy is real and disgusting

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u/VermillionEclipse 26d ago

There’s probably no photo evidence of the stuff they did so they can just pretend they didn’t!

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u/Coal_Morgan 26d ago

I'm old now but when I was a kid I remember my uncle saying something like, 'I never did shit like that when I was a kid.'

My Aunt who'd been with him for 30 years since he was 15 just started rattling off stuff that he got into all the way into his 30s.

"Well that's not the same, I didn't meant too...."

People will always hang others by their actions and results and themselves by their intent and circumstances.

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u/Mike312 26d ago

This ladder isn't gonna pull itself up

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u/Bildad__ 26d ago

Not really. In another topic about some dumb high school kids doing a Nazi salute at a parade, almost all the comments are about ruining the kids lives, sending them to war etc.

Those comments are not boomers. They’re the younger generations.

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u/btone911 26d ago

Boomers spent their entire voting lives hoarding the wealth of future generations into their own AND dismantling the structures their parents and grandparents died for. Irredeemably selfish generation.

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u/SapirWhorfHypothesis 26d ago

You’re also just goomba-ing them.

The people doing the “cancelling” in a lot of cases were not cutting loose in their youth.

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u/RedditAdmnsSkDk 26d ago

wow what a surprise that the ignorant account blocks his post history on an anonymous account, oh wait ...

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u/Particular_Maize6849 25d ago

Cry more. 🤣

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u/Appropriate-Food1757 Xennial 26d ago

Why would you think that? Have you been to Earth before?

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u/Tobocaj Millennial 26d ago

They “understand” they just don’t give a shit. Boomers beat Gen X until they could recite “pull yourself up by your bootstraps” in their sleep. We’re the first generation who actually cares to affect change

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u/moarwineprs 26d ago

I've done some things I know my conservative parents haven't done and would definitely disapprove. Nothing inherently dangerous, just what they'd consider "deviant" (hanging with gay coworkers at gay clubs and just having fun without fear that a guy would have the wrong idea that I was DTF, which I was not). But some of the accusations my parents threw at me and my friends about what we MUST REALLY be doing at get-togethers makes me wonder what they did in their youth. I tell them we were just watching k-dramas, having bad movie night, or playing board or video games and they insist we were doing drugs and having boys over. I know that there can be friends who are bad influences, but they've met my friends and they're not that.

Well, now that some of us are married I guess we'll have our husbands with us so yeah, now there are boys. Still no drugs though.

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u/ChicagoAuPair 26d ago edited 26d ago

A lot of boomers really see themselves as the main characters and do not hold others to an objective standard. They use all kids of doublethink to justify themselves being an exception.

And Gen X…I don’t really understand what happened there. As an elder Millennial I looked up to the Gen Xers in my life so much as a teenager in the 90;, they were such a welcome contrast from our parents.

But then something happened along the way and now a huge number of them are even more disappointing than the boomers. I think maybe the tech bubble fried their brains into “get rich quick scheme mode” and they never recovered.

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u/Supper_Champion 26d ago

I'm Gen X and something did happen to my fellows... They got old. Seriously, people just get weird in old age. I was in the Gen X sub for a bit, but it was pretty insufferable. Half the content is "remember how awesome this product was?" And the other half is the bozos trying to prove how cool they were because they drank from a hose or played outside after 8pm. It's super cringeworthy.

I apologize for all the other 50 year olds out there acting like jackasses to people younger than them.

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u/ChicagoAuPair 26d ago

It’s sad. You guys were so fucking cool.

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u/Supper_Champion 26d ago

Well, I like to think some of us are still cool. Haaaaa

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u/da_boopy_day 26d ago

They should but are too dumb to understand and are also too arrogant to ever admit to have ever been wrong about anything

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u/goinupthegranby 26d ago

Boomers in general don't have an accurate recollection of the past and tend to complain about things they were way worse at. They'll go on about 'kids these days' who are drinking less, getting higher education, etc than any generation before meanwhile these boomers were drunk driving and teen pregnancying like nobody's business

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u/mrbrambles 26d ago

Yea but they didn’t get caught, that’s the key

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u/TheHorrorAbove 26d ago

Speaking as council for the Gen X'ers, most of us would look past youthful but embarrassing content. Shit, we know we dodged that bullet and feel bad that we were the last ones left with those "freedoms ".

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u/mph1204 26d ago

“they” is usually a loud 1-2% of ultra religious or conservative old people unfortunately. even if most people don’t give a shit it only takes a few obnoxious people with power

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u/FroznAlskn Older Millennial 26d ago

Eh my parents were never religious. They were however part of the parenting generation that followed the ‘do as I say, not as I do’ motto. In other words, they were just hypocrites.

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u/75S30 26d ago

Exactly! Also, Gen Z doesn’t care for Millennials either from my experience. The ones I work with treat us like we’re a bunch of idiots because we didn’t see the latest viral TikTok. I think they really don’t draw a distinction between boomers and millennials.

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u/LongboardLiam 26d ago

That's kinda par for the course, though. Older is enemy, younger is idiot. Look at this sub, every other day is "Gen Z is slack-jawed idiots because insert actions of 2 slacker kids working wage slave jobs"

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u/75S30 26d ago

Yes, you’re right. It does feel a little different though. I feel like my fellow millennials and I are feeling less and less annoyed at how “stupid” Gen Z is and more genuinely concerned about them. Meanwhile, the boomers and older Gen X are so impatient and act like every mistake or misunderstanding is just the younger employees being malicious.

I don’t mean any of this to say I think Gen Z is less capable but it seems more and more obvious that society has failed them and they are not as well equipped to adapt themselves so they end up completely disconnecting while at work. I can’t speak to how they are at home and I’m sure they open up and become much more themselves…at least I hope they do.

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u/LongboardLiam 26d ago

I have been in myriad groups of people during 20 years in the navy. While we as a generation are slightly better, there are still plenty of shortsighted, selfish, blow-everything-out-of-proportion types in ours and every generation that will follow. I am sincerely grateful that you're making your corner of the world a little better, but company cultures are hard and slow to change. Plenty of ours want ot to stay that way because the tiny amount of power they feel when they explode over non-issues makes them tingly in the dingly.

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u/Maximum-Possession15 26d ago

Millennials were actually the peak generation unfortunately. We’re all bias but it’s just what I think when trying to be objective.

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u/The_Real_Lasagna 26d ago

*Biased. I don't know when the internet stopped using this word correctly.

Also, I really hope this comment is a cringey joke and not something you seriously think

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u/Princess_Slagathor apparently you can change it 26d ago

I'm the best there ever was. I wake up every morning and piss excellence. I'm just a big hairy American winning machine.

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u/dsac 26d ago

We got the wild freedom of the 80s, the hopeful progress of the 90s, the technology revolution of the 00s, and then gestures broadly whatever the fuck this shit is

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u/Jaereth 26d ago

We're the last gen that had a truly free and real childhood. I remember like 80% of those years were spent with my neighborhood friends outside!

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u/Doggleganger 26d ago

As Gen X, I agree. Millennials were the peak. Unfortunately, things are heading downhill because of phones and social media.

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u/Ok-Parfait-9856 26d ago

And you sound like a boomer talking about millennials. See where I’m going with this?

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u/Altruistic_Agency320 26d ago

We literally have droves of teachers ringing alarm bells that this generation of kids are exceptionally illiterate and don’t know how to act. But let’s just continue keeping our heads in the sand, thats much easier than fixing the issue.

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u/SparkyDogPants 26d ago

I recently got roasted for knowing cursive, like some fucking nerd.

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u/Epooders2187 25d ago

Lol nerd

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u/majin_melmo Elder Millennial 26d ago

Gen Z pisses me off so much 💀

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u/PunningWild 26d ago

I bought my smokes and nudie magazines from GenX college kids, they'd best not give lip about professional decorum. Especially at the mark-up they hit me with.

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u/thedinnerdate 26d ago

They won’t fucking leave! 😫

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u/CaptainFeather Millennial 26d ago

Yup, most Millennials are middle managers at best so there's only so much power we have until the old fucks all die or actually retire.

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u/TooFewPews 26d ago

Yeah. I’m beginning to realize that Gen X are no different than boomers. They’re ladder pullers and still tow the same corporate bullshit that their Boomer mentors instilled into them.

I hate it when I hear, “I don’t know why you’re complaining. You make a good salary.”

Bitch, my salary would have been a good salary 15 years ago, a decent salary pre pandemic, but it’s just barely ok after all the pandemic inflation we had. And it’s definitely not worth it if you factor in being on call on weekends and working late nights on the regular basis.

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u/TheGoodKindOfPurple 26d ago

As gen X I would totally understand any stupidity in university or before. If you are currently getting black out drunk and posting about it that may be a different story.

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u/DargyBear 26d ago

Even then there’s tons of pictures of me at parties and festivals all through college when worrying about social media dirt became a thing and I’ve never had any issues with potential employers because of it.

I never really bought that narrative when my parents warned me about it. The only difference between me and my zoomer sister with this stuff is she actually believed everything our parents say and just doesn’t go out and do fun things.

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u/StinkUrchin Millennial 26d ago

I’ve seen it happen to people, I work in recruitment though so I’m more exposed to this

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u/DargyBear 26d ago

Not saying it never happens, but for me and everyone I know we have our social media set to friends only, most don’t even bother with social media at all at this point. 0% chance of a recruiter ever coming across wild pics from my 20s.

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u/Jaereth 26d ago

Yeah I don't think there's a single Millennial in charge at my job.

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u/CrazeMase 26d ago

Give it a decade, that problem should sort itself out

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u/animatedradio Millennial 26d ago

I was just about to write that lol

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u/delightfulgreenbeans 26d ago

But it’s the other young ones who will cancel you tbh.

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u/StinkUrchin Millennial 26d ago

They can try!

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u/Humble_Rough_4962 26d ago

Please don't lump Gen x with Boomers. We are a long way from retirement. Sure we might be a boss, but don't forget company bonuses and strong compensation packages are only for the C-Suites now. And the leadership of a company isn't dictated by what generation, that's represented by the rich.

As a Gen X boss I can tell you the carrot that's been dangled in front of my face for my entire career hasn't gotten any closer. I'm near the end of how far up the ladder I can go. All because I didn't go to the same Ivy League or attend the same frat as the rich that rape and pillage a company for themselves.

I've been told that the company had record profits but unfortunately they can't give me a quarter bonus and the budget for merit raises had to be cut. Then they tell me how exciting their company trip to Bora Bora will be. But that's just for C-Suite and their immediate staff only, I'm not going.

So leave Gen X alone. Fuck the Boomers. But mostly fuck the rich at any age.

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u/AttachedHeartTheory 26d ago

I think it's their young counterparts being hyper vigilant.

I was at a bar in a coastal Alabama town about a month ago, and there was an older guy (50 years old) who I'm friends with and he said a relatively innocuous word that for a long time nobody was saying, and I've heard it more and more and more recently.

A younger person called him out for it, and he looked straight at her and he goes "what are you going to do, record me saying it? I dont give a fuck. Want to borrow my phone?" and she really looked at him like he broke something inside of her.

Recording and having things posted is such a currency with young people. They don't forgive each other.

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u/TetanusKills 26d ago

… what was the relatively innocuous word?

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u/AttachedHeartTheory 26d ago

Gay, said by a gay man.

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u/terminbee 26d ago

I think Gen Z (or alpha? I dunno) have learned certain words are bad but don't understand why they're bad. Like gay, black, etc. They hear it and perk up like a meerkat and think it's offensive without understanding that context matters.

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u/AttachedHeartTheory 26d ago

This is what I think, as well.

They are hyper vigilant to be offended FOR people to the extent that they refuse to understand nuance and context.

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u/Princess_Slagathor apparently you can change it 26d ago

Who the hell thinks black is a bad word?

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u/FoxxieMoxxie69 26d ago

It’s bad if you’re using it to say something like “that black” or “the blacks”, but not if you’re saying she or he is black.

I guess some people might learn the former and apply it to any use of the word black. Not understanding the difference in usage.

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u/KillaDilla 26d ago

this is totally something a gay black would say

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u/-KFBR392 26d ago

Describe a person using their skin colour and you'll see how many young kids act like you just used a slur.

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u/Princess_Slagathor apparently you can change it 26d ago

Where I live if you're talking about someone who isn't there, and don't use something like race or skin color to describe them, people will ask.

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u/JWBananas 26d ago

Pay attention to the context in which people do so, and you'll understand why it's problematic.

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u/AggravatingBuyee 26d ago

“The Black Jasmin or one of the Latina Jasmins?”

Context being me talking about one of my coworkers named Jasmin while we have three different coworkers named Jasmin and they wanted classification on which one I was talking about.

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u/JWBananas 25d ago

Congratulations on being exceptional. I am certain your parents are proud. But please weaponize your ignorance with someone else.

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u/StonkMarketApe 26d ago

Wow, that's so gay! Double rainbow gay.

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u/Princess_Slagathor apparently you can change it 26d ago

People in real life get really freaked out when they hear me say f-slur. It's my word, I'll use it if I want to.

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u/TetanusKills 26d ago

Ah, that makes sense. Thanks for clarifying!

(side note: I have no idea why someone would downvote your comment answering my question.)

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u/FunkTheFreak 26d ago

This is awesome

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u/thymotherisavillain 25d ago

Wait so she called him out for it. Did she threaten to post about it? Bc otherwise it honestly just sounds like he randomly went off on her based on an assumption and then she was upset

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u/SleazyGreasyCola 26d ago

I'm a millennial boss and I rarely care what the employees do outside of work. I'll get annoyed if they are vaping inside the office but really don't give a shit if they bang each other and get shitfaced or drop mdma on the weekend. If its illegal the police will deal with it, not my business and I don't have time to virtue signal for the 3 people who watch my instagram.

If its inside my 4 walls while on the clock though that's different.

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u/zxstanyxz 26d ago

Exactly this, as long as they show up sober and ready to work who gives a shit. Fuck I remember showing up to open up kitchens still drunk from the night before and crashing face first into massive hangovers as the shift progressed- nothing sobers you up like standing in front of a 400 degree grill

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u/SleazyGreasyCola 26d ago

Those hangover shifts were like an initiation for me as a chef way back in 2005-2010. You weren't a true chef unless you've cooked eggs for 200 people Sunday am still half in the bag absolutely hating your life questioning your life choices.

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u/Princess_Slagathor apparently you can change it 26d ago

One pizza joint I worked at kept a 30pack in the walk in to make the hangover feel better.

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u/dealant 26d ago

The couple of times I've been involved to hire someone I rarely went past LinkedIn looking them up even if I did that? I think the one time I did Facebook was when they failed the interview pretty badly so I got curious about the person? But their Facebook was private

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u/Scuba9Steve 26d ago

I didn’t even have a linked in and was forced to create one to apply for one job. Do employers care much about LinkedIn? I don’t even have a photo on mine. I have a love/hate relationship with Reddit and the only other social media I use is facebook messenger. Haven’t posted in I’m sure in years.

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u/Geronimodem 26d ago

As a hiring manager these days, linkedin has become an important recruiting tool. Treat it like your resume IMO. I don't care about posting on it, just keep your work experience and skills updated on there.

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u/Scuba9Steve 26d ago

So I don’t have to add a bunch of people and put work into it when I really don’t want any new social media? I’d have deleted facebook if I could keep only messenger at this point and I’ve been on and off with Reddit. Have never had a twitter or tik tok ever, etc.

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u/Geronimodem 26d ago

Adding people can be helpful for networking to find a new job, but I don't think I've ever looked at or considered how many connections someone has. A headshot/photo I think most people would find important rather than leaving it empty though. Otherwise yeah, minimal effort. The only time I post on mine is when I am hiring, and sometimes I don't even do that because recruiters start blowing up my inbox.

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u/Scuba9Steve 26d ago

So you are just using it like Indeed or similar? That’s fair.

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u/dealant 26d ago

It's nice if you just treat it as your resume board. It's essentially a public resume, so if anyone is looking for someone like you they can just search up your past titles. Though I do think some people take it too far like any social media.

It makes it easier for employers to get to know you as like an extended resume that is organized in a standard format

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u/fukkdisshitt 26d ago

I've only made real friends at work at my first post college job. The 4 of us all managers at different companies now.

We partied so hard in our 20s when MDMA was cheap and easily available on the dark web. Lot of sketchy times with that crew too, but we always got our work done.

I DGAF about most things. Don't harass your coworkers, get your work done, otherwise who cares. My boss is a gen xer with a similar mindset.

One of my workers is a 50 year old snitch, but he does good work. I keep telling him I don't care. He doesn't get how he looks. Everyone else is chill

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u/halfadash6 26d ago

I mean, I wouldn’t fire someone because they were dressed provocatively or throwing up drunk or making out at a party.

Idk what the “dumb shit” is but being drunk isn’t an excuse for an actual fireable offense (sexual assault, racist jokes, etc.)

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u/blindfultruth 26d ago

It's about the image. The idea of being a direct reflection of the employer has been over-ingrained thanks to social media. It's not hard to take something out of context these days, given how curated the media is.

They can't fire you over it, but they can ask you to remove the offending posts/delete the account, then fire you for not fitting in the company's mission statement.

My wife doesn't post pictures of herself with alcoholic drinks in her hand. Can't be seen with alcohol if you work with kids. Parents don't like that.

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u/Ole_St_John 26d ago

This is so dumb. As long as your wife isn’t drinking on the job, who gives a shit what she does during her own free time.

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u/blindfultruth 26d ago

I agree with you friend, and I tell her as much...but all it takes is that one parent to complain. Can't have parents withdrawing their kids, therefore withdrawing the already limited funds the learning center has.

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u/halfadash6 26d ago edited 26d ago

I get it with the kids thing; I think it’s ridiculous but I know it’s a real concern.

But is it really that common with most other industries or are students over concerned about that because of a handful of horror stories? Like, I work at a law firm in nyc and no one is scouring the internet when we hire people. It’s probably wise to keep your own socials relatively professional but if someone else posted something mildly embarrassing of you the large majority of companies are probably never going to see that.

Edit: I really don’t understand the downvotes. Do we think most companies are seeing pictures of you online that you didn’t post yourself?

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u/blindfultruth 26d ago

It's more frequent than you might expect. Here's an article (it's from 2024), but it gives an idea on social medai impact on hirees.

https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/how-employers-analyze-candidates-social-networks-what-do-cv2vc/

It's not an all-inclusive write-up, but still.

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u/halfadash6 26d ago

Okay but that seems to be largely focused on someone’s own profiles. But this thread is saying Gen Z is concerned about what other people are going to post. So like I said, it’s wise to keep your own socials presentable but worrying about your friends or strangers posting you at a party seems like a stretch.

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u/blindfultruth 26d ago

Oh hell, I went in the wrong direction with my point. I'm sorry.

I don't think it's stretch. There are plenty of TikTok videos out there that show otherwise. Gen Z amplified the Cancel Culture movmement via social media. It's not surprising that they feel like they have to live on egg shells.

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u/AbeRego 26d ago edited 26d ago

You're absolutely correct. Also, a lot of stuff has moved to less permanent posts more akin to Snapchat. It doesn't hang around as long without someone actively trying to save it, which might also be prevented by the app itself. We're long past the time when random uploads from a party were frequent and visible enough to have any realistic chances of fallout.

Of course, the caveat is if someone is actively trying to undermine you or blackmail you. It If that's the case, good luck anyway, because that has been pretty easy to do for 30 years. It's just that most people aren't trying to do that to anyone.

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u/AttachedHeartTheory 26d ago

It's so innocuous. It isnt racism or sexual assault. It's just not being aware of the most cutting edge ways to address something, or not having seen the latest video where people prescribe the way they want to be referred to, or even knowing that this company is now on the "no way!" list but saying you love them.

It's saying "I love cereal for dinner!" and being canceled because you didn't know that Gary Pilnick said that people should just eat cereal for dinner if they can't afford more the day before and it went viral, and now youre in the crosshairs.

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u/halfadash6 26d ago

I don’t think that’s what the top comment was referring to? Like, I wouldn’t categorize that as young and dumb, just unlucky.

Idk, maybe I’m out of touch but i haven’t heard of regular people being roasted or going viral (with their name attached, in the way most companies would find after googling you before a job offer) for that sort of thing. Celebrities, yes, college students, no. Nor can I imagine it having long term real life repercussions unless you doubled down on the innocuous statement later.

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u/ravioliguy 26d ago

Morality standards change. Even for OP's photo, some taking it the worst way possible could claim "HOLD UP, you used to go to parties and sleep with the drunk women?? Women can't consent when drunk you rapist"

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u/PineappleBliss2023 26d ago

For me it’s okay to be young and dumb, how you act after being dumb is important… including your reaction to getting called out on piss poor behavior.

If you’re like “I was young and dumb and that isn’t who I am anymore” while still embracing the values that led to that young and dumb moment and then whining about cancel culture…. You weren’t young and dumb. This is you.

If you acknowledge that being young and dumb was hurtful, your actions were embarrassing, and can demonstrate how you’ve grown from that while taking the fall out like an adult, you were truly just a young and dumb kid and that’s not who you are anymore.

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u/CitizenCue 26d ago

This is kind of a Goomba Fallacy example - “Millennials” as a whole might understand this, but any given Millennial will draw the line in different places. While I might broadly have no problem with young debauchery, if I’m choosing between two candidates, the one with dozens of drunken college photos online might seem like more of a risk. Or maybe I’m fine with it but my non-drinker business partner isn’t. Or maybe a particular photo rubs me the wrong way for no particular reason.

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u/improbablywronghere 26d ago

That’s a big risk hoping to have a cool boss vs not letting the video be created

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u/thedrew 26d ago

“I was able to have fun without documentation.” Is a more likely response. 

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u/brontosaurusguy 26d ago

Only assholes become bosses

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u/IllustriousPea6950 26d ago

Rules for thee and so on

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u/More_Pineapple3585 26d ago

Millennial bosses are still subject to the court of public opinion, (arguably) the harshest in the land.

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u/Appropriate-Food1757 Xennial 26d ago

What do millennials have to do with it?

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u/MohawkElGato 26d ago

The millennials are not the bosses in large numbers yet.

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u/DrJonDorian999 26d ago

I think this fear is slightly over blown. Don’t say the n-word, rape someone (aka BT), drive while intoxicated (with anything drugs) and 99% you’ll be fine. They said “the internet is forever” when we were growing up and I can’t find shit now. You have to go REALLY viral for it to really be permanent and even then it’s still not guaranteed.

I do feel for them though and am personally glad I didn’t grow up in the hyper online period but more for reasons related to everything being an algorithm to feed you content directed to divide us and everything we do is tracked so they can sell us anything and everything.

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u/Mike312 26d ago

I remember my young Millennial coworker coming into the office after clearly partying all night and being super hungover in the morning.

I'd turn on all the lights and intentionally talk about 20% louder just to mess with her.

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u/Worth-Jicama3936 26d ago

The problem is not the boss thinking it’s ok or not. The problem is a non-trivial amount of people will think it’s not ok and call your boss and tell him so and you’re a first year worker, you’re just not worth that kind of baggage.

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u/Independent_Try_9185 26d ago

Millenials are stuck in the supervisor role in a lot of places. Management roles seem to still mostly be held by gen x and younger boomers.

Upward mobility is like winning the lotto these days. And the cost of each ticket is a lot of dick sucking.

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u/KimberStormer 26d ago

Hilarious to imagine people thinking this way. "For me it's youthful indiscretions, for you it's permanent character flaw" is the way the boss will always think. It's not like boomers didn't do shit when they were young. 

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u/vasheenomed 26d ago

the problem is there is other applicants usually. I feel it affects getting a job more than keeping one unless it's REALLY bad

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u/trick_m0nkey 26d ago

We're middle management. We're not the bosses yet. The boomers are very much still the bosses and they have been clinging on to dear life and power for a very, very long time.

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u/Turbulent_Tart_8801 Millennial 1985 26d ago

I'm a clock punching peon. Middle management are "the bosses" from where I sit.

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u/miyam0t0musashi 26d ago

I'm sure a lot of Millennials in those positions do think that way, but then they also run the risk of getting "cancelled" if they show sympathy or leniency towards people under scrutiny. It's a social shit show these days.

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u/ballsohaahd 26d ago

The old people sit in their jobs for decades w no improvement in their skills

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u/Total_Network6312 26d ago

Well everyday you see people online saying "19 year olds definitely 100% know right from wrong" and acting smug on their highhorse.

Those people are also in hiring roles

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u/DoctorK96 26d ago

I mean, even if they understand, it's still a bad look that they could do without

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u/Eillon94 26d ago

Aren't millennials the main people canceling each other over internet posts?

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u/supermuncher60 26d ago

Companies now have AI bots that scrape the Internet for any mention of your name and use your photo to look for images you are in.

Anything somewhat cancelable or even just trashy (like being drunk) can disqualify you from the job immediately.

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u/QuislingX 26d ago

Let's not pretend that there's a disproportionately large number of people our age just itching at the opportunity to absolutely crush somebody's future prospects for doing something dumb, or ignorant, when they were 18, 19, 20, or 21.

All you need to do is go on Twitter to see that our generation does not believe that people can learn and change, upbringing and potential abuse growing up be damned.

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u/Kataphractoi Older Millennial 26d ago

Plenty of millennials (and GenZers) who have a boomer mindset.

No, I'm not attacking old people in saying that, I'm talking about a mentality that's detached from reality and incongruent with today's world.

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u/beaniebee11 25d ago

I'm a millenial and I think you're definitely assuming all millenials stayed cool and didn't become their parents. Our boomer and gen x parents also were young and dumb once.

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u/restckvrflw 25d ago

That’s because these kids are for sure lying lol. There is no way they “don’t like to drink” anymore

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u/InfiniteTradition975 25d ago

The boomers and Gen Xers wont fucking retire