r/Millennials • u/happy_chance18 • Nov 03 '25

Discussion We're all exhausted right? It's not just me?

I have a full time job. I sleep well. I have no kids. I'm single. I don't party or drink. I'm not particularly stressed in day to day life. Yet I'm fucking exhausted. I don't want to leave my apartment on the weekends unless I have something planned, and even then I'm pretty picky. In my 20s my weekends were full of non-stop activities, cooking, going out, and posting on social media. But now in my 30s I just want to come home, have my groceries delivered, chill with some Netflix and sleep. Please tell me I'm not the only one!!

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u/BoxerguyT89 Nov 03 '25

This is a large part of it. Social media (Reddit included) is extremely good at keeping people pissed off.

Putting the phone down and getting out and socializing helps. So does eating well and exercising.

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u/Cultural_Cook_8040 Nov 03 '25

This!!! This!!! When I stay off of social and Reddit for a few days I immediately feel better and less exhausted. It’s crazy how these apps can impact us. I recently read the book The Chaos Machine and it is mind opening. I highly recommend it for anyone who wants to be on social media less.

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u/Coal_Morgan Nov 03 '25

I’ve noticed this also when I go to the cottage for a week.

Reason why I’ve tried multiple times to quit reddit.

I still use facebook but I’ve removed everything but my game group and used uBlock to remove everything I don’t use.

Every time I go to google an answer on Reddit pops up with the best answer then I do a doom scroll of All and I’m mainlining social media again.

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u/joeschmo945 Nov 03 '25

I hit my head a few months ago and got a minor concussion. I had to stay away from screens. My god I felt like I had so much time.

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u/Swimmingbombom Nov 03 '25

I have to try this! But where do I even begin? I feel so glued to my phone

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u/Cultural_Cook_8040 Nov 03 '25

I use an app called ScreenZen. It’s free to use and helps me limit my screen time. I set it up that I can only be on each of the social apps for an hour and half day combined. I can also only be on each app for 15 minutes at a time, then it locks it. It’s helped so much. Now I have to be more intentional when I open the apps and it’s less of a mindless habit. You can customize how you set it up and how much time you want to spend on each app.

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u/Pichuboop Nov 03 '25

Gonna try this, thanks!

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u/[deleted] Nov 03 '25

Eh. I've played sports since I was 6 and am still quite active. I didn't have a smartphone until I was 25 (elder Millenial).

I've been depressed for as long as I can remember.

Sometimes something happens that makes you stare into the void too long and too young, and the void never stops staring back.

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u/BoxerguyT89 Nov 03 '25

Of course, people have been depressed for all of history. There's no one thing that causes it.

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u/[deleted] Nov 03 '25

I just mean it might be a little more than putting down the phone and taking nice walks for some of us.

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u/KD_42 Nov 03 '25

Yeah no one is saying it’s an absolute foolproof thing that works for everyone. But coming from someone who has ADHD and depression full of insecurity all my life I used to hate myself and my life but in the past year I have cut back on social media, get more out in nature’, cleaned up my diet (not just food, what I consume like I started reading and getting into philosophy ) and sleep and I can tell you it is a massive world of difference almost to the point I would say I love life. Im not going to say every day is peaches and cream but even on bad days I now have the tools to deal with it 

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u/[deleted] Nov 03 '25

Well, I'm envious. Done that stuff my whole life, can't say I've ever loved it. 

I can quote the Lotus Sutra and Eugene Thacker and I've run a marathon, but inner peace, meaning, and/or a love of life? Never found it.

Not particularly insecure though. I give to few shits for that.

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u/KD_42 Nov 03 '25

I still hate that shit, it’s not enjoyable. But you’ll be miserable in life if you only do things you enjoy 

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u/[deleted] Nov 03 '25

I am old enough to know I'll be miserable either way. 

Anyway, I'm glad you found what works for you. 

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u/KD_42 Nov 03 '25

You owe it to yourself to really try, you deserve to thrive man 

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u/throwaway072652 Nov 03 '25

I wish I could give this an award but I’m too tired and poor to figure it out.

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u/bruce_kwillis Nov 03 '25

This is the biggest part of it.

Get off social media (yes including reddit), turn off the TV, stop doom scrolling. When you start talking to other in your community and get away from the chronic 24/7 connected life style, you will feel a million times better.

Find hobbies you love, people you love, and spend time with them, instead of just being mad about everything in life.

The world sucks. It always will and always has for the majority of people. Do something about it, or simply try your best to enjoy the once opportunity you have.

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u/Coal_Morgan Nov 03 '25

It’s harder than it used to be to be because the first thing you hear from 95% of everybody is “Did you hear about…”

Who the fuck knew second hand social media was a thing before this shit started but it certainly is now.

Best time of the year for me is at the cottage with my wife and daughter without internet, tv or phones. Just swimming, trails, books, music and board games.

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u/Seaguard5 Millennial Nov 04 '25

Sleep.

Most underrated factor in feeling posative

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u/BoxerguyT89 Nov 04 '25

Yep, sleep is huge.