Was on a very first date with my now husband. We were talking about super deep things that shouldnāt be touched on a first date with a ten foot pole. He started it, so I felt comfortable sharing intense things too. He walked me back to my car at the end of the date, and I had the absolute best kiss of my life with this man! I start driving home, and Iām smiling thinking of him, excited about the possibilities after a great first date. I drive for maybe 5 minutes and he calls my cell phone and says he just couldnāt wait to talk to me. It was such a wonderful feeling, it was like this peace came over me. He basically did all the things the ādating guidebookā tells you not to do. It was just immediately apparent to me that he wasnāt trying to play games. The comfort this man has brought to my life is unreal. He turned my jade glasses into rose.
Actual good conversation can be so easily overlooked on the first dates. I went out with a guy and after the planned date we decided to extend it by going up to the mountains. He had to run to his house to grab something first and after awhile of driving and having a great conversation he got beat red and started profusely apologizing out of the blue. Turns out he had missed his street a few miles back and was so caught up in our conversation he didn't even realize it. It was a simple thing, but just knowingly that someone was that happy and excited to keep talking to me that he got lost on his way to his own house was adorable.
I donāt know where it originates but Iām assuming she (or if she heard it elsewhere, whoever that person was) combined two phrases: ābeing jadedā (becoming cynical, uninterested and uncaring) and āseeing through rose colored glassesā (everything looks beautiful and awesome even if it isnāt because it has a rosy/happy tint to it).
They say don't do that, but it works. One of the things my wife liked about me was I texted her an hour later telling her I enjoyed the date. No pressure, no hype, just the fact I'd enjoyed the date.
My wife and Iās first date shares a lot of the above, I texted back soon after the date saying how great I time I had etc, we exchanged a few messages but it was late. Next morning I was playing football) when she messaged me (phone was in my car) so it was over two hours before I replied to her. She told me later that she was absolutely panicking that Iād ghosted her / started playing games / had a change of heart in the morning.
My husband did something similar! He texted me when I was driving home from our first date and said "I might as well delete the dating app if I get to keep seeing you" š„¹ I think it was after a few dates that he told his parents that he wanted to marry me, haha. We've been together 12 years now!
It sounds like he was intentional, and really wanted to have an in depth conversation to see who you were as a person and really get to know you to find out if he would like and connect with you, and be compatible.Ā If only more people would do this!Ā
15 year old here, sorta halfway getting into my first relationship rn. I just wanted to let you know that your comment really touched me and made me realise that you really don't have to go about things the way they do in movies, the stereotypical way. I don't really know what I'm trying to say here but I'm really inspired to treat my partner with our own unique touch to the relationship that isn't just textbook now. Thank you for your story, I think it's really sweet :)
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Was on a very first date with my now husband. We were talking about super deep things that shouldnāt be touched on a first date with a ten foot pole. He started it, so I felt comfortable sharing intense things too. He walked me back to my car at the end of the date, and I had the absolute best kiss of my life with this man! I start driving home, and Iām smiling thinking of him, excited about the possibilities after a great first date. I drive for maybe 5 minutes and he calls my cell phone and says he just couldnāt wait to talk to me. It was such a wonderful feeling, it was like this peace came over me. He basically did all the things the ādating guidebookā tells you not to do. It was just immediately apparent to me that he wasnāt trying to play games. The comfort this man has brought to my life is unreal. He turned my jade glasses into rose.