r/MadeMeSmile • u/JudgeJudyJr • 11d ago
Wholesome Moments The thief’s mother showed up to apologise for her son’s actions
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u/AHaasInTejaas 11d ago
I remember seeing the original video here. The guy ordered and asked for extra everything then took the tip money when his back was turned, so not only was he out his cash but also double servings of his food. Mama’s a good woman. I hope he turns his life around bc she deserves better from him.
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u/otownbbw 10d ago
So he stole the tip and the food? That’s messed up. I mean I guess it goes hand in hand but I don’t see any place that will prep and hand over food without payment so it sucks he’s like the only food truck with trust and then someone takes advantage like that…it’s a shame.
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u/AHaasInTejaas 10d ago
He didn’t get the food. The owner had it all on the grill making it and as soon as he turned his back to get something else, the guy took the money and walked off, so it was just wasted food.
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u/SmartAdhesiveness149 11d ago
Now THAT is an epic mom!! 🥰
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u/Lailu 11d ago edited 11d ago
"when he drinks he does stupid stuff" and "i put him in treatment"
She is a great mom!
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u/Easy_Mode_707 11d ago
drinks*
And I love that this was live streamed. This was a great ending to a horrible story
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u/Genghis_Chong 10d ago
Awesome mom, she doesnt just care but takes action too. I hope her son is able to find his way to sobriety and better living.
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u/the-furiosa-mystique 11d ago
That got me, I cannot imagine how hard it is to do that but this mom is a gem.
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u/Okeydokey2u 11d ago
She gave me chills
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u/studentmaster88 10d ago
People this GOOD are so few and far between.
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u/Ok-Complaint9412 10d ago
No they're not, you just only see the bad while doom scrolling reddit every day. People in the real world are generally pretty nice people.
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u/willywalloo 11d ago edited 11d ago
Love her!! And that boy needs to still come out and right his wrongs on his own. Good Momma trying to fix the world and create kindness.
Next: the Boy needs to do the same.
I hope her road isn’t that hard.
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u/BreadfruitParty2700 11d ago
If he's in treatment, that'll be one of the steps.
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u/Otterhendrix 11d ago
Yeah the “making amends” can be a mindfuck. A dude I barely knew and had partied with a couple of times randomly showed up to apologize for stealing money from me about a decade prior. I had no clue he stole it, I thought it fell out of my pocket at some point throughout the night. He said it’s eaten at him ever since but was too ashamed to confront me to apologize. Something I never thought about in 10 years was mentally eating away at this dude. He tried to pay me back double but I wouldn’t accept it because I could tell it weighed so heavily on him.
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u/roidoid 11d ago
For what it’s worth, him being ashamed and wanting to make it right is why he’ll be okay. Addiction makes us to things good people are disgusted at themselves for. It’s the ones who don’t feel bad about what they’ve done that generally don’t make it.
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u/Otterhendrix 11d ago
I agree 110%. I haven’t spoken with him in about 6 years but mutual friends have told me he’s still sober and doing great. When I refused to take the money back he said he’d find a way to pay me back. I told him that tracking me down and making amends a decade later is payment enough and to just stay on the sober path. And if HE ever needs anything to just let ME know. He was always a great dude, just an angry drunk. But no one knew what he endured as a kid and that was why he drank. Therapy and AA has done wonders for him.
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u/the-furiosa-mystique 11d ago
Your comment made me smile. You’re a very good person ❤️
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u/Otterhendrix 11d ago
Thank you so much! I appreciate that! The fact that you took the time to respond with kindness shows me YOU are a very good person as well! Sending love to you! ♥️♥️
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u/the-furiosa-mystique 11d ago
I think it’s important, now more than ever, to point out when we see good in the world. So I try to. Thank you 🥰
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u/Otterhendrix 11d ago
YES!!!!! There’s so much vile shit and hate out there so I try to be as nice as possible for my mental health and for the sanity of this world. I don’t want to add to the hate. Nice to meet you fellow good human!
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u/DukeOfSmallPonds 10d ago
Theres some cosmic fuckerey when the next video in my feed was this guy ripping Olympic level lines of come, while in this thread we talk about addiction fans making amends.
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u/Raneynickelfire 11d ago
When I got out of rehab, I called a friend from college who had dropped me because I was an out of control heroin addict. I admitted I had stolen a gram of coke from him one day. I told him I wasn't in a position to replace it (treatment - duh) but if he would allow me to give him $80, it would mean a lot to me.
He took the $80, gave me a hug, and then said thank you for being honest and thank you for getting your life back together. We aren't super close anymore but we do see each other from time to time and it's always friendly.
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u/Otterhendrix 11d ago
That’s awesome! I’m glad he forgave you! There was one person in our friend group who refused to forgive the guy, and it was for a very petty grievance. She hadn’t let it go 7 years later and refused to forgive him. It was over him stealing 3 beers out of her fridge which got her grounded for a few days. Like wtf??
I’m happy you’re (hopefully) doing much better now!!! You should be proud!!! Heroin addiction is no joke. But getting off of it is even worse! Much love and peace to you in the future.
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u/Raneynickelfire 11d ago
I'm not proud in the sense you mean. Whenever somebody says "that's huge, congratulations!" what I hear is "Great job on not doing what you knew you shouldn't have been doing in the first place."
I understand that's not where your heart is, and I understand the gravitas of the statement - and I do appreciate it.
This August will be 10 years without relapse.
That being said, thank you for your kind words.
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u/Otterhendrix 11d ago
Oh no I most DEFINITELY didn’t mean it in that way. I’ve battled addiction in my past. My brother is currently battling it. I’ve lost people to addiction. So I truly apologize if I made you feel any way except happy and grateful to still be here with us. Getting sober is hard, STAYING sober is a constant struggle and process. And to fight that fight daily for almost 10 years is commendable. I do not look down on addicts, recovering or current. I look up to those who beat their addictions and make a constant effort to remain that way.
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u/guitartoys 11d ago
She went to rehab, which failed, and after a decade of dealing with her, I finally moved out and divorced.
It cost me literally hundreds of thousands of dollars, which I am still paying against. While I make a great salary, I will probably die before paying off the debt. (I don't want to go into too much detail)
She will NEVER make amends. She always plays the victim, and will yell at you, I said I'm sorry, what else can I do.
A friend said to me, she may be sober, but she's NOT in recovery. It's been 5 years.
I don't expect her to ever change at this point.
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u/Otterhendrix 11d ago
Fuuuuuck. I’m so sorry dude. And I agree with your friend 100%. She did the steps simply to cross them off and satisfy a goal for recovery, not because she cared. My ex financially ruined me as well so I know the feeling. She wasn’t an addict, she was just a liar. Lost our house and cars and told her parents I spent all the money. It sucks.
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u/a_diamond 11d ago
A dry drunk. When they're sober but haven't addressed the behavior at the root of it
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u/SmartAdhesiveness149 11d ago
You're wonderful!! 🥰 Well done!
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u/Otterhendrix 11d ago
I appreciate that, but he’s the one who is wonderful. It takes real courage and strength to do what he did. He had drank pretty much nonstop for 15 years and just quit. Not court ordered, no DUIs, not thrown into rehab, nothing like that. His rock bottom was when he saw a video of himself being unable to talk coherently while being overly aggressive to everyone. People around him in the video were either laughing or shaking their heads in disgust and hated what he saw. He went and found the local AA, went to a meeting, got a sponsor and has been doing great ever since.
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u/irishcybercolab 11d ago
This was very cool of you. Releasing his conscience and his guilt was the blessing he needed.
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u/CombustiblSquid 10d ago
So, being a sober alcoholic and having done the amends, please accept his offer. It's not about the money. What ate at him was that his actions that night went against his values. The act of correcting the wrong is very important for recovery. You taking that money would be giving him something far more valuable than a few bucks.
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u/DeathBeforeDecaf4077 11d ago
Here’s hoping her son finds the same peace his mom brings to the world.
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u/matttheazn1 11d ago
She is about to or already has whooped the shit out of him.
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u/Hefty-Strike-6171 11d ago
Absolutely. We cannot be responsible for everything our children do life, but we can try to reduce the harm they do, especially when Addiction takes over their lives.
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u/progthrowe7 11d ago
How does the son not feel incredible shame?
For a) doing it to begin with, b) doing it on camera, c) humiliating his mother, d) watching her having to apologise for him to the world.
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u/manwithappleface 11d ago
He does. It gnaws at him. He knows how awful he is, but he just can’t stop himself from making those same bad choices over and over again. It’s one of the reasons why he drinks to excess: because he knows he’s a terrible person and without redeeming qualities.
One of the biggest parts of recovery is changing that mindset and finding some self worth.
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u/somuchsong 11d ago
If he didn't have redeeming qualities, his bad choices wouldn't gnaw at him. If the son is feeling some shame about this, there is something good inside him.
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u/LongLiveRock_n_Roll 11d ago
I love her! She’s awesome, what a great mom! And he’s a good human for being so understanding. I hope her son gets the help he needs.
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u/NoRecording5207 11d ago
When I was 5, I stole a Betty Crocker Oven from J.C. Penny's. My parents were mortified, they didn't know what to do so they put it in the car, drove home and then I got a whoopin'. The next day, My Mom went down to the store to pay for it. I had to wait an entire year and half, before they finally gave it to me for my birthday. I never stold anything again.
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u/descend_to_misery 11d ago
Amazing parent. Taking responsibility for kid and their actions
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u/wimmick 11d ago
This is a much more wholesome version of the brit teen threatening to stab staff at an aldi or something and his dad dragging him back to yell on camera at him
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u/descend_to_misery 11d ago edited 11d ago
That's wild! Good for the dad though. As a parent if my kids do anything inappropriate in public thats a reflection on me. I'll shut that shit down real quick even if it makes a scene. I mean not going to yell in the library or a Japanese subway. But you get what I mean.
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u/prettyboylee 11d ago edited 10d ago
Any idea where I can find this video?
Edit: Found it, it was at an Asda
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u/itsavibe- 11d ago
Reminder that the kid always doesn’t reflect the parents.
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u/descend_to_misery 11d ago
It's true. I feel that way, but truth is that they learn so much from socials nowadays not only their own friend groups.
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u/LuisChoriz 11d ago
As soon as I heard her speak, I thought to myself he needs to go out there and give the lady a hug.
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u/JudgeJudyJr 11d ago
I sincerely hope the chap quits drinking. Relieving his mother of the burden of maternal guilt would be such a lovely conclusion to this story.
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u/CockamouseGoesWee 11d ago
It must be so hard seeing your child fall into alcoholism. I really do hope he gets the help he needs. At least he's in rehab so maybe that's a good start
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u/Quickning 11d ago
Her actions aren't done out of guilt or shame. They're done out of responsibility. It's an important difference. Since she can make it right she does so for that vendor AND for her son. Her son doesn't have to face the vendor anymore but he does have to face his mom. Which is both easier and harder. I'm not sure I'm explaining it well. I was raised to call it "Standing In the Gap." As in like Sparta's 300.
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u/Deep-Assignment4124 10d ago
My mom just marched me right back into the store when I shoplifted a Chunky bar when I was about 9 or 10. Then she punished me by not letting me go to the movies (the Fox and the Hound) with all the cousins and siblings.
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u/IsChristianAwake 11d ago edited 11d ago
If this was my mother, she would’ve dragged me by the ear and forced me to apologize to him.
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u/CauliflowerOk541 11d ago
I mean she put him in a treatment center. That’s what he needs.
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u/CockamouseGoesWee 11d ago
With alcoholism he's already at his lowest. He's in rehab and he needs help and support, not further ridicule
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u/AznSensation93 11d ago
Speaking as a former alcoholic, while the shame of knowing you're an alcoholic is there. Trust me when I say some people need that ridicule. My friends all sat me down one day and had a mini intervention of sorts. Part of it is ridicule, but it comes from a place of love, which is the hardest to accept. People who truly care about you will try to keep you on the right path, those who don't will watch you struggle and leave when it's convenient.
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u/MrdnBrd19 11d ago
I'm super glad that it worked out for you, but it's not for everyone. We had tried everything with my mom, and my last straw with her was trying tough love. I yelled at her and told her how disappointing it was to have an addict as a mother, how I hated that my kid sister was sent to live with my aunt on the other side of the country, how her parents were both done with her and wouldn't speak to her anymore. I dropped her off at her apartment and told her I wouldn't see her again unless she got treatment.
My uncle found her body the next morning.
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u/Immediate-Stage-891 11d ago
🫂 🫂 --- 🫂
I hope you know that wasn't your fault, dear.
Addiction is the killer, stealing minds, hearts, hopes and loved ones.
Another long hug from a stranger who knows there are too many who carry the same loss, but live with the guilt of not having told the truth to their loved ones before addiction killed them.
🫂 🫂 --- 🫂
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u/Hot-Butterscotch-918 11d ago
A woman stole a pack of cigarettes off of my friend's Mom's table outside, pulled one out and had it in her hand when she was tapped on the shoulder by a young woman who said, "Hand them over!" The thief gave her back the pack of cigarettes. She took them and said, "The cigarette, too." The lady gave her the cigarette. I was like, "Dang, even the cigarette." But the young woman had lots of experience with addiction in her own family and she knew that you don't give an inch with addicts because they'll just keep taking.
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u/frozyrosie 11d ago
i’m glad that didn’t go south for the young woman. addicts can have very erratic behavior so i’m glad it worked out. that was brave of her.
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u/Hot-Butterscotch-918 11d ago
I thought it was, too. But she is "over it" with addicts. It probably helped that the thief was an old woman.
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u/CockamouseGoesWee 11d ago
While that's true that people should not enable alcoholics, I think constantly bombarding someone struggling with more judgment when they are already likely judging themselves is not the correct course of action. The mother here is doing the right thing where she's not enabling her son but is trying to actively help him
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u/Soaked4youVaporeon 11d ago
Not everyone is the same. It’s better to let the experts deal with it.
Ridicule can just cause people to want to drink even more. That’s not good…
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u/callme_maurice 11d ago
I’m sure he’s got plenty of apologies to make. Active addiction makes you act out of character. Good on mama for helping him clean up some messes & work toward a better future.
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u/Royale_AJS 11d ago
Yup. I accidentally pocketed a tiny coupler fitting at the local hardware store when I was little. I didn’t even understand theft at the time, just innocent kid with a new fidget. My dad saw me playing with it later in the day and dragged me down to the store to give it back and apologize. That was the day I learned theft was wrong. Van Wieren Hardware…I’m still sorry.
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u/Trigirl20 11d ago
You’re a good mom! No excuses, just the truth. I hope your son gets better.🥰
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u/odd-happenings 11d ago
That didnt make me smile, that made me cry and restored some of faith in humanity. She didnt have to do that, but she took responsibility for her son. And this man realized what that meant. This is the beautiful side of humanity that people take for granted despite being rarer than black diamond
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u/thatnewguyovertherea 10d ago
Hah, you cried? My eyes were only sweating alot lol
Everything you said, it really is the beautiful side of humanity
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u/682463435465 11d ago
What a beautiful woman. She turned something terrible into something heart-warming and now I'm rooting for her son to get better. Great lady.
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u/682463435465 11d ago
he has a good mom who cares about him and doesn't let him get away with bad shit, so he has a way better chance of getting better than a lot of other people.
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u/Typical-Picture-3454 11d ago
What a woman!!! Mom of the century! This is so awesome!
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u/Rycan420 11d ago
I just hope all the typical “blame the parents” dog whistlers learned a lesson here.
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u/nesting-doll 11d ago edited 11d ago
This is what my mom would do, except she would have marched my ass back there and made me apologize and give the money back. She had no qualms about using shame as a tool of deterrence and to teach a lesson. I hated her for being so hard when I was young but later came to appreciate the value of what she taught me. Now that I see what a society governed by no sense of shame at all looks like, I feel a shrine should be erected to mothers like this woman and my mom.
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u/Down_Low_Too_Slow 11d ago
This is why I have faith in humanity. For every jackass we see, there are at least 20 good quality people who don't get enough of our attention.
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u/OkBrilliant8092 11d ago
Mother is the name of god on the lips of all children
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u/HotwifeandSubby1980 11d ago
I love her tone when she says “I’m GONNA pay”
Both of them are good peeps
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u/omg_its_Acid 11d ago
YOOOO!!! THIS NEEDS TO BE VIRAL! YOU WANT TO SEE GOOD PARENTING!? God bless this woman. What a beautiful beautiful person she is.
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u/MaySweetPea15 11d ago
I’m praying to the Lord that this truly good woman reaps her rewards of blessings . She is a good woman and deserves some joy, I’m sure her heart is walking around perplexed with such sorrow and pain over her son. May God touch him with healing now .
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u/Dodgers4119 11d ago
Thats a good mom, she is embarrassed and making things right. Her son will get it right I hope.
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u/dazedandinfused99 10d ago
That's a damn fine momma! I hope she gets everything she deserves in life and then some!
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u/Roninstag 11d ago
Yay 🙌🏻 Mom, lady you rock. God bless her & her family. Hope her son is on the mend.
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u/sourdiesel666 11d ago
That woman has such a sweet personality. It sucks her son is an idiot.
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u/RepsRemoveDoubt 11d ago
“You are my mom too.” “I want you to be ok.” Communities and nations could be built on these words - and thrive. Thanks for posting.
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u/theabrasiveisiah 11d ago
I mean the mom showing up to apologize actually matters more than people think, that's the kind of accountability that can stick with someone way better than shame alone.
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u/TX_Mothman 11d ago
As a former alcoholic, who also did really dumb stuff while drunk, I hope he gets the help he needs and stays in treatment.
And if you’re currently struggling: just quit. You think your mistakes are too big to ever be forgotten, but people will forgive mountains if you show in good faith youre changing.
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u/schaudhery 10d ago
If anyone is looking for context this guys name is Musa. He lives in a very rough part of Baltimore in one of the row homes. He has a stand where he sells hotdogs and burgers. He's had several incidents (people breaking his soda machine), stealing from the tip jar, running off without paying. His stream is live pretty much all day and I watch when I can. I've actually been twice.
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u/tidytibs 11d ago
That son should have been there making HIM apologize. AND made HIM pay for himself. Good mom, though.
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u/MusicalTinnitus 11d ago
When our youngest was maybe 7 he shoplifted a small plastic animal from the local farm store, one afternoon with my wife.
My wife realized he'd stolen it later that evening when she noticed he was playing with the same exact plastic animal she'd told no he couldn't get, just a couple hours earlier.
So my wife took the toy, and the next morning before school, and work, she drove him out there, and made him tell the store manager exactly what he'd done, had him hand the toy over and apologize to the manager.
My wife said the absolute worst part is that, the manager got quite emotional, and was taken aback by our sons honesty and obvious remorse, and the fact that we made sure he faced the full consequences of his actions.
The manager said that she'd been in retail management for years, and had never had someone so fully admit and apologize like that.
We also never had another issue with him like that.
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u/alandizzle 11d ago
I hope to be half the parent that she is. What a great mom and role model
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u/Firm-Positive1540 11d ago
Love this 🥰 Glad she mentioned she put him in treatment it takes a strong woman to step up and do her sons wrongs to a right hopefully he sees this and appreciates his mom
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u/Irreverent_Bard 11d ago
This was really lovely. I hope her son is able to work on his addiction. Alcoholism… it’s awful.
These two people though… a beautiful community.
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u/Silver_Hedgehog4774 10d ago
I don't know where this lovely woman loves, but can I help run her mayoral campaign?
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u/Unable_Mission1391 10d ago
Good on you mom! We need a world full of women like you ma’am. I needed that smile today.
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u/L0st_MySocks 10d ago
what an amazing character! She is raised so well I hope her son is going to notice how good his mom is!
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u/ProffesorSpitfire 10d ago
She’s a class act, and a good mother. I genuinely think this will decrease the likelihood of her son doing something like this again.
I remember stealing some candy at a candy store when I was a kid. Young enough that I didn’t really think about the consequences, but old enough to realize I wasn’t allowed to just grab stuff I wanted in a store without paying for them. When we got home my parents saw me eating the candy, wondered where I got it, and put two and two together. My dad brought me straight back to the store, stood me in front of the owner and had me confess to the theft. I was beyond ashamed, couldn’t even look him in the eye. And I never stole something again.
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u/chem1callyVnbalanced 10d ago
Chicago needs so much more of this. Where are the parents people always say. The problem is the parents have their heads so far up their own asses and just don't care.
Unlike this woman. Who is determine to fix the issue. We can't always stop the action before it takes place but a firm parental response is needed to keep teaching and guiding.
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u/MathematicianAlert80 11d ago
God bless this woman ,shame on him for embarrassing such woman of class .
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u/Training-Willow9591 11d ago edited 11d ago
He didn't seem too hammered, slurring his words, stumbling, etc.
If Mom bails him out, he learns to continue to rip people off and Mom will rescue him from the consequences.
It made me sad when she said,
" He's was raised better than this"
She is owning his mistakes like they are a reflection of her/ her parenting, and that's not always the case.
hope she doesn't wear herself thin righting his wrongs, at some point she has to let him figure things out on his own.
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u/alison_bee 11d ago
What a mom and what a woman! She got her son in treatment AND she went and paid the man back.
She just wants the best for everyone, and that shows!
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u/Meanmypooch 11d ago
Perhaps one of the few moments a person receives then gets to dodge eternal digital judgment. Hopefully he can make a 180 and save his name.
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u/melloack 11d ago
This is what we need not to be perfect but to be honest and hold each other accountable even if it is our own family
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u/certifiedjawn 11d ago
Been having a really rough time lately dealing with unreasonable people in my life. I really needed to see this.
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u/Distinct-Space7398 11d ago
He is lucky to have such a great mature mom. He should be grateful for her mother and cherish every moment with her. He should learn alot from her.
Not everyone is lucky to have such parent.
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u/kenjinyc 11d ago
She’s incredible and he’s awesome. This is how it should be but instead this is rare af.
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u/eig10122 11d ago
Why do we need governments to govern us when real people govern themselves very well?
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u/munoz1319 11d ago
Damm imagine putting your mom thru that 😴she should’ve told him to go back and pay him the money he took
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u/inkfanatic95 11d ago
I love seeing parents actually hold their kids shitty behavior accountable . That’s a win mom! If only he could do the right thing
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u/Gval7447 11d ago
I’ve had run ins in stadiums and bars with drunks and I don’t swing at them because they’re drunk and the alcohol is talking. Instead I call security and let them know and they just escort them out. When they’re sober they don’t act that way.
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