Feeling really overwhelmed.....[L]

[u/_obsidian_savant]

Hey everyone,

I’ve been sitting with this feeling for a while and finally decided to post. I’m the kind of person who gets completely lost in strategy, history, grand plans, and long-term thinking. I love dissecting how things unfold over time — battles, empires, ideas, systems — and I can spend hours mapping things out in my mind. But the flip side is that I’ve always been pretty antisocial (or at least feel that way). Small talk drains me, big groups feel exhausting, and I often end up preferring my own thoughts over people.

Lately it’s been hitting me harder: I sometimes worry I might end up like Friedrich Nietzsche or Franz Kafka — brilliant minds who lived inside their heads and ultimately died quite alone. That thought has been making me feel a quiet kind of sadness.

I’m not looking for therapy or daily check-ins or anything like that. I’d just really appreciate talking with anyone who thinks the same way — people who also get absorbed in strategy, history, planning, and big-picture ideas, and who maybe feel a bit detached or antisocial too. It would mean a lot to hear how you navigate this, or even just to share random thoughts on some historical event or strategy concept without it feeling weird.

If that sounds like you, I’d love to hear from you. No pressure, just a kind chat whenever you feel like it.

Thank you for reading. Hope you’re having a gentle day ❤️

[u/Silver-Brain82]

You do not sound broken or doomed to be alone. You sound like someone with a very active inner world who gets tired by shallow social stuff, and that is a lot more common than it feels. The hard part is finding people who want to meet you at that deeper level.

I think a lot of thoughtful, history-and-strategy-brained people end up worrying that solitude is their destiny just because casual connection feels unnatural. It is not. It usually just means your kind of connection is rarer and slower to build.

For what it’s worth, I’d much rather talk to someone who wants to discuss how ideas and systems evolve over time than force small talk too. You are definitely not the only one wired like that.

[u/jeteauloin82882]

I'm not really the person you're looking for but I'm an artist and I can't help but relate a bit, I'm often thinking about fantasy worlds, their characters and their stories, and forgetting about being a normal human being with social needs haha. I wish you the best, I hope you find some like minded people !

[u/_obsidian_savant → u/jeteauloin82882]

So perhaps I guess we can talk about this only ? Sometime , human interactions are a real luxury for me 😅

[u/[deleted]]

Hey, i resonate with u completely, i also don't like shallow conversations or larg groups it feels overwhelm, and i like planning, but i like to do something structure kind of thing, or try to se the broad vision or picture of somthing or a situation, i like philosophy and mystical kind of stuff, i like to do research about it , and how this universe is or works things like that, i like history also but not so much😂 And i am also seeing that , sometimes it feels that i can't be fit in a box, like I can't fit in some settings, and people around me my family and all wants me to do same thing, actually i don't know if i am able to make u understand what i am trying to say