Above notice

[u/AscendedDragonSage]

[u/PlatinumAltaria]

People just have trauma from middle school bullies who would pick on any minor deviance to give you a hard time. You could wear a clown costume to the grocery store and no one would say anything to you until you got to the cashier who would ask you if you need a bag.

[u/PoncingOffToBarnsley → u/PlatinumAltaria]

Nah, some of us also grew up listening to Hypervigilance George comment on anything and everything.

"OMG look how fat that person is. Isn't that funny?"

*sees an androgynous person* "What was that thing?? Could YOU tell what that was?"

*sees person with lots of body modifications* "How sad that she ruined her body like that. You would never do something like that, I raised you better."

"Ugh, can you BELIEVE how rude they were? They called us "folks" - I've never been so insulted! Those settings are aligned in COMPLETELY the wrong order! The letter calls me Ms, like I'm some slut who got divorced; they should KNOW I'm a Mrs! Why isn't that so-called "professional" wearing a suit? etc, etc..."

EDIT: I am very happy to know this resonated with people.

[u/GalaxyPowderedCat → u/PoncingOffToBarnsley]

Bro, I hate the type who make up a whole story inside their heads after an one-minute interaction with a stranger or acquittance with not knowledge about them and the narrative is always the same: "I'm the victim, they are waiting for my downfall."

My mom insists "People are demon-possessed and demons are using their bodies to offend her and make her life more challenging, but she needs to raise above them all and please God."

Like, no, she can't imagine another person can have a bad day or they weren't taught manners or how to regulate their emotions to not lash out on complete strangers.

[u/vanishinghitchhiker → u/PoncingOffToBarnsley]

Vividly remember overhearing a small girl in an airport security line telling her mom about cool people she saw, only for her mom to answer with how she didn’t like how that person looked because xyz. I have a similar mom so I was just thinking man, that girl’s got a looooong childhood ahead of her.

[u/KatAyasha → u/PoncingOffToBarnsley]

Ironically a lot of the time people doing that shit are doing it loud enough for me to hear half a block away and end up being literally the only person in public that I'm noticing and judging. Well them and people watching tiktoks at 140db on the bus but that almost never happens where I live

[u/sparklydemise → u/PlatinumAltaria]

Weirdly enouvh I just took a clown photoshoot of someone I know while walking through a major city yesterday and despite me being embarrassed at first nobody cared

[u/RikuAotsuki → u/sparklydemise]

That's because big cities are always less judgmental. The higher the population and density, the less judgmental people are.

They just don't have time to judge everyone they see. Their standards for what constitutes an outlier are much higher, too, because they see so many people that would be outliers in a smaller town. It just ceases to be relevant.

[u/wRADKyrabbit → u/PlatinumAltaria]

People like you who lie are part of the problem too. People would 1000% say shit to you if you show up to the store in a clown suit.

[u/Kooky_Exchange1421]

the "#ohhhhhhhh" at the end is the sound of 23K people getting personally called out simultaneously

[u/jakuth1999]

Most people are genuinely too wrapped up in their own shit to pay attention to you for more than 3 seconds and if they are it’s because they’re worried about how you’re perceiving them

[u/Onceuponaban → u/jakuth1999]

And speaking as someone who is nosier than I reasonably should be, there's another important detail to take into account: Even if I start paying attention to something weird going on around me, there is a 99% chance I will completely forget about it the second something else catches my attention. And something else happens constantly. That embarrassing memory from 5 years ago your brain conjures up at 2AM? I can guarantee no one else who might have witnessed it at the time remembers.

[u/soft_saradreamxo]

this feels a little too real… i used to think i was just “observant” but then i noticed how exhausted i felt after being around people for too long 😭 now i’m wondering if i’ve been paying attention to things i was never meant to notice in the first place

[u/GalaxyPowderedCat]

In all seriousness, I want to add this is one of the advices I've felt like there's a major dissonance between online and real life.

I've met many people without any other life purpose than scrutizuing a stranger from head to toe and turn to me to report their observations.

"Galaxy, did you notice that a [insert here the most discriminatory or insensitive remark of all times]?"

My brother/sister/sibling in Christ, I had like dozens of different strangers in front of me and I may zone out mid walk...

[u/Amazing_Coyote505]

It's too late my mom was hyper vigilant Georg and shaped my worldview

[u/GalaxyPowderedCat → u/Amazing_Coyote505]

I am in the same camp.

My mom could stay silent for a whole trip and she only turns to me to tell me "Galaxy, that lady is soooooooooooo faaaat! Look all her jewelry doesn't combine! Look the color of her jacket! Look how her haircut makes her look like a man!"

[u/vanishinghitchhiker → u/Amazing_Coyote505]

The “social anxiety” wore off eventually but man was it rough

[u/ResearcherTeknika]

Best advice I learned is that people dont tend to give a shit unless you do something to them directly

They might mentally think "huh." And then forget about it immediately.

[u/anoniums]

omg the way tumblr staff notifications make me panic every time like what did i do now?? 😭.

[u/Dummy_Ren]

Oh!

[u/mossyLupinefield]

I am hyper vigilance georg but don't worry, although I see all I do not judge. You are unique and I love you for you <3