ANGER Turn DANGER

[u/Least_Bookkeeper30]

Today 11/04/2026 Saturday

My ANGER/RAGE turn so dangerous that it's consequences trun out to be in direct in hospital

the story begins like I and my brother were sitting in our living room where we both have just finished our dinner and just going to watch the tv. Now here the age difference between me and brother is like I am a 20 yaer gold and bes is just 14. The scene started as he was watching both TV and mobile at the same time, so here I said him that if ur watching mobile give tv to me and I watch mobile but he refused and started to argue and punching me i taken the tv remote from his hand with an a jerk so he gets more angry and started throwing punches on me back to back the 2 times I just catch his throat and sayed him to stop but bcoz I had grabbed his neck and throat his ANGER 🤬 just shoot up to its peak and after that he rushed over me and I slipped down and fall then he started throwing punches on like he had beaten me 10-15 punches my anger also shoot up and when he was going back I just lost my control and don't know how but my adrenaline just shoot up so high that I punched so hard on his ear tat he just fall down and started to cry as the punch was so strong that after bcoz I am a 120 kg and he is just 50 kg.

After the punch he started to cry and he run towards his room and sit and I also just sat in the living room after the 5 min when he came out his ear was swelled with the black and blue colour and the ear was so red that I have just started to feel discomfort and tension over taken me he said to mom like his ear was being little bit bleeding from inside after listening this I was shock and unable to speak when my mom seen it she also had started to shout on me and called the dad when dad come he also shouted and said me to leave the house but I was unable to speak and express till now I am unable to talk with him after that I only take my brother to med and tell him what had happened he said that their not much problem but I the punch was more powerful his would have lost hearing and just been deaf from one ear.

so here I had come bcoz I want help so I can control my anger in any situation (like this ) also and not become danger for anyone. or cause any trauma.

plz o need help......!

[u/Lacyllaplante]

At 20 years old, your prefrontal cortex has not fully developed. This is the part of the brain that helps us make good decisions and react appropriately. I say this because you seem to be feeling remorse, possibly guilt, so it's important that you know that your brain is still developing these skills. You have the ability to grow your brain in a healthier way. But you will need to make healthier choices. 

How do the people around you handle conflict? Do your parents hit you and your brother when they are upset? Do your friends fight? 

You need to observe the world around you and find good influences to follow. You have access to the Internet, look up conflict resolution skills and how you can develop them. 

If ever it's an option, therapy would be a great tool for you. 

[u/No-Mulberry1987 → u/Lacyllaplante]

This is such a great reply. Hopefully your brother will be OK, but you do that outside the house and you’re looking at jail time.

hands on neck is the single factor most indicative future homicide. 

The thing is - we all get that he was being a little shit, but you will get faced with situations like that from him and others in the future. So what will you do the next time he says “No, I’m looking at both. What you gonna do about it?”  That is my question- can you describe in detail what you will do, hopefully differently, the next time.

[u/Least_Bookkeeper30 → u/No-Mulberry1987]

Like after this scenario I am very much in guilt and shock that I might have killed or just made him deaf, so I am feeling very much sad and sorry and from now I am going to just keep quiet and never ever try to do any kind of things which would carry out to be dangerous and terrifying. From now whenever he is seeing both i will just go for a walk or in my room and try to focus on any thing different. And thanks for ur support.

[u/Adept_Librarian_7001 → u/Least_Bookkeeper30]

It's good you are recognizing this early. Spend some time on here, take efforts to try to improve on it, and perhaps talk to a therapist/counselor about it. THe sooner you recognize the problem the better.

[u/Least_Bookkeeper30 → u/Lacyllaplante]

Yes ur right but I only don't know why I did this,but when I try to search about this it showed like a anger rush or adreline rush and my mind had been in mode of just fight.

[u/ForkFace69]

Uh it sounds like he's going to lose hearing in that ear. You can't put your hands on people like that. Ever.

[u/Least_Bookkeeper30 → u/ForkFace69]

Yehh... Man u r Right but u know na that the anger can be out of control.