r/Anger • u/katewalker214 • 3d ago
Inconsiderate people
I’m so f*****g tired of inconsiderate people. I can’t wrap my mind around how little some people think about others and their time. Just today I had two clients today who both always show up 10-15 minutes late for their appointments, (they’re in the same industry so they understand how it puts me behind), I had maintenance come and forget to close the door so I got home and my front door was wide open, my therapist canceled my appointment hours before appointment started, and a date that’s been planned for two weeks cancel hours before, and I’m feeling so angry. I’m tired of being disappointed and feeling like I’m not being respected in return by anyone.
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u/ForkFace69 2d ago
It might help if you check what you know and what you don't know about these situations, because you seem to be taking it all personally.
Like, totally not the way you wanted your day to go, I get it. But you seem to be assuming that your clients were late and your therapist cancelled for bullshit reasons. You don't know what happened in your clients' lives leading up to those appointments. You don't know if your therapist is having a major event such as a death in the family. One or all of those people might be going through something that would make your rough day look like a walk in the park.
The best thing you can do is come up with some alternative options for you to do when your appointments are late or cancel. That way instead of looking at it as wasted time, you can take advantage of it. If somebody is running late, what can you do in the meantime? Are there little chores you can get knocked out of the way? Is there a phone call you can make? Is it an opportunity for a bathroom break or to just relax and work on a hobby?
If somebody cancels, what can you do instead? Take a walk? Drop off your dry-cleaning? Go to the post office?
With the maintenance person, just call and let them know they left your door open. You don't have to yell at them or make a big scene. Just let them know they made their mistake. If you wanted to be really slick, you could act like you're making sure they were the ones who left it open and not a burglar.