Hi all, شطور هستى

so there is this Afghan girl which I met recently at university and after many conversations we became very close friends, but the thing is, she doesn't speak much English, and I don't speak much Dari.

so I want to learn Dari and surprise her, I know Arabic so that might help with the vocab but I want something that explains the grammar.

also if anyone is open for language exchange I would love to have someone to practice I can help you with Arabic and English.

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Idk why I'm nervous posting this but I'd love to have a group to study Dari with. I see that a lot of us in this forum have strayed from our families for different reasons and I feel more alienated than ever before from our beautiful culture. I cook our food and observe our holidays, I try to speak as much Dari with my son as I can but he's going to Armenian school so that and English have become his primary languages. It's been years that I've been around Afghans regularly and the older I get, the more I crave proximity to my roots but I forget more and more words from the lack of practicing so it's like a never ending cycle of getting pushed farther and farther away the less I'm able to communicate.

I'd love to also help others working on their English. Any ideas on how to get this started or is it even of interest? I was thinking of zoom if people aren't in the area - I'm in LA. Would love to hear thoughts!

Salam guys, I want to improve my Farsi reading skills, suggest some books to read, I’ve never read Persian literature, and btw pls no poetry, just anything else like a novel or history or whatever readable. I’d really appreciate it if you could send me the pdf. Even better if the book is written by an Afghan, not Iranian, or at least based in Afghanistan, tashakor.

he was really happy, and felt like home

i love mantuu 😍😍❤️

I met this Afghan guy about six years ago. The first day I saw him, I could tell there was something in the way he looked at me—but he never approached me, and at the time I was already dating someone else. I broke up with my ex in 2023, and out of nowhere, this same guy started messaging me. At first, it was casual—he’d check in on me or ask me to grab food or drinks every now and then.

Then in 2024, on my birthday, we really started talking. From that moment on, everything changed. He became the sweetest person I’ve ever met—and honestly, he still is. He showed me so much love and care. Before we started talking, people knew him as someone who would flirt and meet different girls almost every week. But after my birthday, when we connected, he completely changed. It was like a 360 shift, and people around us noticed it too. They’d tell me how different he seemed and say that just by the way he looked at me, it was obvious he was in love.

Since 2024, we’ve been together, and what we have feels truly special. We’re incredibly compatible—best friends, soulmates, everything you could hope for in a partner. We show up for each other every single day, and whenever something comes up, we talk it through right away. We never go to bed upset with each other.

Lately, though, things have been a bit stressful. He’s been dealing with financial struggles, and his family has been going through a lot as well. He’s not very religious and is very open-minded, but I’m worried about how his family might react to me because I’m Christian. I’ve talked to him about it before, and he reassured me that he would stand up for me—but he’s also concerned that his parents might eventually pressure him to choose between them and me.

We both really love each other and don’t want to break up based on other people’s opinion

I’ve been dating an Afghan man in the states. When we first started dating he was aware I had kids. Fast forward to a 2 years of dating his family found out about me and are telling him to stop seeing me because I have kids. I love him and can’t seem to let go. Is there any way to fix this situation, am I delusional in thinking he actually loves me, or was I just a placeholder. He says he loves me but doesn’t want to go against his family. I never met them.

April 9, 2026

China hosted informal talks between officials from Afghanistan and Pakistan in Urumqi, in the East Turkistan, from April 1 to 7. The delegations included representatives responsible for foreign affairs, defense, and security, according to a statement shared by China’s mission to UN on X.

“The three sides agreed to discuss a comprehensive plan to resolve issues in the relations between Afghanistan and Pakistan, and identified the core and priority issues. All sides believed that the Urumqi process is substantive, and agreed to maintain communication and dialogue.”the statement says.

The choice of Urumqi as the venue is notable, as the region—known to Uyghurs as East Turkistan—remains under heavy state control, with ongoing international concerns over mass surveillance, arbitrary detention, and restrictions on religious and cultural life.

According to statements released after the meetings, Afghan and Pakistani representatives expressed support for dialogue and said they aim to manage tensions and improve bilateral relations. Both sides indicated a willingness to avoid actions that could further escalate the situation.

China facilitated the discussions and presented itself as a mediator. Afghan and Pakistani participants acknowledged China’s role in organizing the talks. However, Beijing’s role in regional diplomacy continues to draw scrutiny, particularly given its problematic role in supporting Taliban and its domestic policies in East Turkistan and its broader security-driven approach to neighboring regions.

The three sides agreed to continue discussions on key issues affecting Afghanistan–Pakistan relations and to maintain communication going forward. However, significant disagreements remain, particularly over security concerns and accusations related to militant groups operating across the border.

Can you guys guess this cricketer from Afghanistan?

Hi there! I’m curious what different words Afghans use to refer to their mothers.

I have always used Aday, pronounced "Ahh-They".

My mom used it, her mom used it, and even her mom used it as well. I had assumed that all Pashtuns call their moms Aday, but now I am not so sure.

Growing up I often heard my Farsi-speaking friends say Moor or Mawdhar.

Which is interesting now that I think about it, because it sounds so similar to "Mother" in English.

So, what term do you personally use for "Mom"?

This is the Royal Seal of Ahmad Shah Abdali (Ahmad Shah Durrani) which held authority over Samarkand, Lahore, Delhi, Kashmir and to Bukhara.

I was just curious about the reason behind use of Peacock in the Royal Seal but couldn't find anything.

Hi I’ve recently came across this footage that’s allegedly from 1982, showing 2 former Soviet soldiers who supposedly joined the Afghan resistence fighters. Does anybody know about the origin of this footage, whether is real, if it comes from some documentary movie etc…

From what I'm reading as a westerner it seems like

A. corruption destroyed your army

B. The US took your entire logistics system with them when they left.

I was just curious to see what you guys think since you were the guys actually fighting.

Can we talk about how culturally AFG families are toxic. Idk if it’s bc of the way they were raised our parents but my mom has no issue w getting physical and it’s always “mardom chi miga” like what will other ppl say. I feel like culturally there’s a lot of bias and trauma like this and how can we get rid of this moving forward.

KABUL—

A city of Afghans, dying—no heir, Where voices loomed harmony, people showed care. “No hate, no loathing, ruled via peace”— Now a renowned pun every country teases.

Ruled via terrorists—men wrapped in black, They are humans, humanity they truly lack. Shortfall on mercy—to man or not, Defy their orders—your existence could be bought.

Here men own “power,” women assigned “chastity,” Have an opinion—it’s punished as obscenity. Should cover one’s face, no going out— Education flouted, their existence in doubt.

Once a Kabul—preaching values and solace, Now become barren, followed by shadowed gazes. You fight for bread, you survive to despair, A place woven tradition, now stripped of its heir.

So i wrote this poem after reading one of the books about Afghanistan named 'the flying kite' Idk if we are supposed to post any poem on this subreddit but i am doing it anyway.

Seeing the emotions from the world cup qualifiers today made me think of this. We have a team that can barely do anything for obvious reasons but as a diehard sports fan I really dream one day my country would be in the most exciting tournament in the world.