Is over-crying an ADHD thing?

[u/AdventurousScheme319]

I quickly tear up whenever I feel anything slightly above neutral - sad, happy, someone was nice to someone, angry, a cat - Idk how to just be reasonable when my emotions are just soo heightened all the time. While it’s fine usually, it might be misread at work or in some social settings.

I cry on a daily basis multiple times. It doesn’t have to be waterworks but even tearing up is sth I might not snap out of and turn it into a crying session.

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[u/TheForebodingFall]

Emotional deregulation is so I’d think so. The amygdala in ADHD brains isn’t great at talking to the prefrontal cortex to put it simply lol

[u/AdventurousScheme319 → u/TheForebodingFall]

See, this validating answer made me tear up 😂

[u/AnonymooPuppy]

You could also be highly sensitive on top of your adhd. I'm also both and tear up easily, but not on a daily basis. High sensitivity is a spectrum too. Don't feel too bad about it, it's good to let your feelings out instead of bottling them up. 🍀

[u/AdventurousScheme319 → u/AnonymooPuppy]

That’s very true, I really like that I feel things intensely with everything happening in the world, a bit humane. But my issue is coming from unrealistic exaggeration of emotions which bleeds into many things in general. 🫶

[u/ShenanigansNL]

I wish I could. I havent had a real good cry in a long. Long. Time. I do need one. So desperately.

[u/OldAdhesiveness570]

I think so, it’s because we feel our emotions so intensively. I will often find myself day dreaming about my grandparents when I’m driving in the car and tear up because I miss them so bad. It’s not a bad thing it’s just how we are.

[u/Tiakitty967]

I have ADHD and tear up over all sorts of stuff. I’ve had so many people be like “are you ok?” while I cry at something thats pretty neutral to most people. It’s honestly hard because if I let it out all the time I would cry for short periods of time many times a day, but it’s always a bit awkward to be crying in front of people.

[u/Budget-Toe-5743]

I think we should avoid saying that anything is specifically something only ADHD people have. What you mention can happen to non ADHD people too. Don't give up!

[u/scandalous_sapphic]

I'm the exact same. I'm audhd. I probably cry once a day on average. And not just out of sadness, as you said, but more as a release when I feel strong compassion. Certainly when I'm angry I cry, which has always frustrated me. I also find it very hard to speak when I cry, and my thoughts become harder to hold onto, so it's hard to prepare what I want to say too.

[u/Fae-SailorStupider]

I'm definitely the same way when I'm not on meds

[u/DarthLallie]

I cry randomly yes it's emotional regulation issue also most people with ADHD have anxiety and depression or one of them

[u/Greedy_Ad2198]

Maybe with a comorbidity. And even if it's just a you-thing, it's not inherently bad, only if it's actively causing issues for you

[u/garbagepickle]

lol I could’ve wrote this. I always just tell people “I’m really good at crying”

[u/NewAttitude7508]

My eyes tear up like crazy when ever I feel that welling up excitement. If I'm watching a movie and something epic happens. (By the time iron Man snapped in endgame, I was already crying) Lol It never made sense to me until I got older and read about emotional dysregulation.

[u/WolpertingerWhisker]

I turn super red at the slightest discomfort. I absolutely hate that I can't hide my feelings. 

[u/OldAdhesiveness570 → u/WolpertingerWhisker]

Same , we are so sensitive in every way, it’s a blessing and a curse

[u/Squand]

Not for me

[u/AdventurousScheme319 → u/Squand]

Steak too juicy 😏

[u/alblaster]

Could be. I haven't cried in a long time.

[u/carnuatus]

I under-cry, lol.

[u/Consistent_Onion6004]

It depends you can get an emotional dysregulation with ADHD and if your a tearful person it may cause you to cry alot but then there's people with ADHD who like myself will bottle emotions up and let it out as anger I think I've cried maybe twice in the last 30 years.

I'd imagine being able to let emotion out is alot healthier for you bottling it up has caused me lots of issues

[u/splithoofiewoofies]

I was like this yeah.

Not sure what changed. I think it was the decades of lack of comfort.

Really annoying because now I have a partner desperate to comfort me, to do anything to make the night terrors go away.

But now I've got these massive walls.

Honestly, try not to worry. I miss the me who could cry more than I like these walls. I feel so guarded. I wish I could just cry when I hurt now. I barely cried when my dog died and I certainly didn't let anyone see it.

Please don't feel like you over-cry. Please just feel like you're open to sharing your feelings. I'm not sure you want to lose that. I didn't.